
16/07/2025
You want help with the baby. You know you need a break. But the second someone steps in, your chest tightens, your mind races, and suddenly your whole body is on high alert.
You’re not imagining it.
This isn’t about being overprotective or struggling to share the load. It’s about what your nervous system has learned, that safety isn’t guaranteed unless you are in control. Maybe that started during birth, when no one listened. When decisions were made without you. When you were left to hold everything, even though you desperately needed someone to step in.
Now, even with support around you, your body can’t relax. You’re playing out every worst-case scenario, holding your breath while your partner changes a nappy or rocks your baby to sleep. You want to let go, but it doesn’t feel safe.
This is what happens when trauma lives in the body. It’s not logic that runs the show, it’s memory, fear, and survival instinct.
But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
The goal isn’t to lower your standards for safety. It’s to help your body feel safe enough that you can trust again. That you can rest. That you can step back and know your baby is okay, without that panic hijacking your system.
You deserve to feel safe in your support. To let go without falling apart. To rest without guilt.
Does this feel familiar? Let me know in the comments if this is something you’ve experienced too.