15/10/2020
OVERCOMING GREAT ADVERSITY
its about:
* finding a sense of self
* finding a sense of purpose
* loving yourself
We've lost the art of self love!
Our lives are so crazy busy that we've lost the art of connecting with ourselves.
You can have all the money in the world, the perfect big house, expensive car, amazing dream job, good friends; but it will never be enough if you don't love you.
How do you connect with yourself?
How do you reflect on you life?
For me it's art, gardening, reading a good book, going to the beach, getting out in nature.
One day I was feeling irritable with life, with work, with family and friends and generally just myself. I packed up the car, left my phone, contacted a few people to say I was going camping by myself. What did I do? I cried .... a lot! I swam in the ocean, I walked, I sat around a fire by myself, I let go of "stuff" I'd been holding onto for so long I'd forgotten I was holding onto it. I reflection on where I was going, what had been, how I was in the world. Most of all I acknowledge parts of me I didn't like, patterns I need to stop. I acknowledged what was important in my life. I got in touch with my true nature.
When we feel connected, things flow.
We move easier through life, we operate from a place of love.
When you make mistakes, do you beat yourself up? Give up? Or do you couch yourself, reassure yourself and forgive yourself?
When you achieve something small, do you celebrate your achievement? Do you acknowledge it, be proud of yourself and be grateful? Or do you look to others for validation?
Do you have a happiness strategy?
A self love ritual?
This is something we do where we transcend the ego.
We just ARE!
We become lost in what we are doing and where we are.
Time stands still.
This is being alive!
It should be a ritual part of your live, it should be a scheduled appointment with yourself.
Self love is sadly eroded over time by our past, or our interpretation of the hardships of it. It causes us to forget how to be kind to ourself. Over time we create an environment of self blame, self loathing, unworthiness and inadequacy. It's destructive!!
But protecting the self, not stepping out of your comfort zone, not striving for what you want, trying to fit in, seeking intamacy from others .... well that's fear based! That can stem from unresolved past hurts. And it's not in line with your true nature.
We all have scars and carry hurts.
We are human, like everyone else.
Individuality is your strength, it's your superhero.
When you hide in the shadows because of past hurts to protect yourself, you stop being emotionally vulnerable. You stop trusting others and yourselves. You stop being you.
Self love is the key
It helps you discover your inner strength, which we need to develop resilience so we can keep moving forward and face life's challenges.
It gives us personal foundations to grow and overcome adversities and be independent.
We don't need validation from others.
The world is constantly encouraging us to seek validation from outside of ourself, that love should be given to us.
But we are most POWERFUL when we are ourselves.
Self love is honouring yourself - YOU are your most powerful guide.
YOU ARE YOUR OWN SUPERHERO!
