Mums Matter Psychology

Mums Matter Psychology Mums Matter Psychology is dedicated to quality mental health care for pregnant women and new mums.

"You deserve a space that feels right to you—even in a hospital ❤️ Search up Birth Vibes anywhere you get your books!"Re...
30/01/2026

"You deserve a space that feels right to you—even in a hospital ❤️ Search up Birth Vibes anywhere you get your books!"

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💕 Relationship Counselling: Strengthen Communication, Connection, and Understanding Within Your RelationshipBecoming par...
30/01/2026

💕 Relationship Counselling: Strengthen Communication, Connection, and Understanding Within Your Relationship

Becoming parents transforms your relationship in profound ways, creating pressures that even the strongest partnerships struggle to navigate. Our specialised relationship counselling helps couples weather this transition together rather than drifting apart.

We focus on improving communication patterns, helping you express needs clearly and hear each other compassionately even when exhausted. We address the invisible mental load that often creates resentment, helping you redistribute responsibilities more equitably and build true partnership.

Relationship counselling also addresses intimacy, not just physical but emotional connection that often deteriorates under the pressures of early parenthood. We help you maintain your identity as partners alongside your new roles as parents, creating space for the relationship that existed before baby and will continue after.

Our therapists understand that relationship struggles during this transition are normal, not signs of fundamental incompatibility. With the right support, most couples can strengthen their connection and develop skills that serve them throughout their parenting journey.

Visit mumsmatterpsychology.com to learn more about relationship counselling services.

Introducing, Dr Yvonne Yap, Clinical PsychologistDr Yvonne Yap is originally from New Zealand and is a mother of two her...
29/01/2026

Introducing, Dr Yvonne Yap, Clinical Psychologist

Dr Yvonne Yap is originally from New Zealand and is a mother of two herself. Yvonne is passionate about attachment theory, supporting parents to build stronger connections with their children, and helping parents to find ways to experience as much joy and personal growth as possible from the parenting journey. Prior to qualifying as a clinical psychologist, Yvonne worked as a lawyer and brings a multi-faceted understanding of the challenges that can come with adjusting to a new sense of identity and new day-to-day rhythms.

Yvonne is an experienced clinical psychologist who has worked in private practice settings and public mental health services with both adults and children. She has completed perinatal specific training with the Centre of Perinatal Excellence (COPE) and is also a trained Circle of Security group facilitator. Yvonne draws from various therapeutic modalities to suit the individual's needs and works in a trauma-informed manner. Her style is authentic, compassionate, solution-focused and insight-driven.

"In PANDA's 2025 survey about neurodivergence and early parenthood some of the most common themes were:⁠⁠🔹feeling overwh...
27/01/2026

"In PANDA's 2025 survey about neurodivergence and early parenthood some of the most common themes were:⁠
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🔹feeling overwhelmed by increased sensory input, ⁠
🔹anxious about what could happen to your baby, ⁠
🔹and having difficulty regulating your emotions. ⁠
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If you are feeling something similar, you're not alone.⁠
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There are ways that you can look after your mental health in the perinatal period. Read the article for tips for self-care, social support, neuro-affirming resources, and where you can find extra support. Find the link in the bio at "

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💪 Why You're Not "Bad at Coping", You're OverloadedUnderstanding the mental load of parenting and why overwhelm is norma...
27/01/2026

💪 Why You're Not "Bad at Coping", You're Overloaded

Understanding the mental load of parenting and why overwhelm is normal. When you feel like you're constantly struggling while others seem to manage effortlessly, the problem isn't your coping skills, it's that you're carrying more than any human is designed to manage alone.

The mental load of parenting includes not just physical tasks but the invisible cognitive and emotional labour: remembering, planning, researching, anticipating needs, managing family relationships, tracking developmental milestones, worrying about everything, and coordinating the complex logistics of family life.

This invisible work is exhausting precisely because it's invisible, you can't rest from it because it lives in your mind constantly. Even when you're not actively doing childcare, you're mentally managing it. This explains why you can feel depleted even when you "didn't do much" physically.

You're not bad at coping, you're managing an objectively unsustainable load, often without adequate support, rest, or recognition. The solution isn't trying harder; it's redistributing the load, building support systems, and giving yourself credit for what you're actually managing every day.

Visit mumsmatterpsychology.com for support navigating parental overwhelm.

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25/01/2026

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Balancing It All – Preventing Parental Burnout and Meeting Everyone’s NeedsDate: 5th February 2026Time: 8:00pm AEDTInve...
25/01/2026

Balancing It All – Preventing Parental Burnout and Meeting Everyone’s Needs

Date: 5th February 2026
Time: 8:00pm AEDT
Investment: FREE

For Parents of Multiples
Parenting can feel like a constant juggling act — especially when you’re trying to meet the needs of more than one child while maintaining your own wellbeing and nurturing your relationships.

In this insightful and practical webinar, Clinical Psychologist Frances Bilbao explores how to recognise and prevent parental burnout, manage competing demands, and cultivate stronger connections within your family. Learn evidence-based strategies to help you:

💙Balance the emotional, physical and developmental needs of multiple children.
💙Reduce guilt and overwhelm while maintaining a sense of calm and control.
💙Strengthen your relationship with your partner and support network.
💙Reconnect with your own needs and values as a parent.

This session is ideal for parents, caregivers and professionals who support families. Walk away with real-world tools to restore balance, resilience and joy in family life.

Head to our website to book your spot https://www.mumsmatterpsychology.com/groups-and-workshops/balancing-it-all-%E2%80%93-preventing-parental-burnout-and-meeting-everyone%E2%80%99s-needs

"What’s one behavior you’d like your child to change? 🤔⁠⁠Most of the time we try to correct negative behaviors by respon...
23/01/2026

"What’s one behavior you’d like your child to change? 🤔⁠
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Most of the time we try to correct negative behaviors by responding when the “bad” behaviors happen — maybe with a consequence, a reminder, a reprimand, or maybe by losing our cool and yelling because WE HAD TO REPEAT OURSELVES **AGAIN**!⁠
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But there’s another way, that’s both more pleasant AND more effective —⁠
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Instead of correcting the behavior you don’t want to see, wait until they display behavior that’s the OPPOSITE, and praise that instead!⁠
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It might seem like those opportunities would never come up (😅) but once you start to think about all the things that are opposite of the negative behavior you have in mind — and start watching for those things to happen — you’ll find they probably happen more often than you think!⁠
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👉🏽 It doesn’t matter how small or how brief the positive behavior is. If you’re trying to get your kid to be less impulsive, and they wait patiently for their turn to talk without interrupting you for even just a second or two, that counts!⁠
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Just resist the urge to qualify your praise/gratitude with sarcasm or references to the unwanted behavior, like:⁠
🚫 ”See? Was that so hard?”⁠
🚫 ”I knew you could do it! So I guess that means you won’t be [doing the unwanted behavior] again next time, right?”⁠
🚫 ”Oh look, you finally remembered not to [xyz]!”⁠
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Calling out the negative behavior (even jokingly) even when they’re doing something “right” can instill shame in kids, and chip away at that good feeling that motivates them to make the right choice more often. 💓⁠"

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🧘 What Emotional Regulation Looks Like in Real LifePractical, realistic strategies for parents, without striving for per...
23/01/2026

🧘 What Emotional Regulation Looks Like in Real Life

Practical, realistic strategies for parents, without striving for perfection. Emotional regulation doesn't mean never getting upset, angry, or overwhelmed, it means developing skills to navigate difficult emotions without being controlled by them or causing harm.

Real-life regulation might look like: recognising you're getting activated before you explode, putting baby down safely and stepping away for two minutes to breathe, calling a friend when you feel rage rising, or repairing with your child after losing patience. It's messy, imperfect, and often requires multiple attempts.

Regulation isn't about suppressing emotions or maintaining constant calm, that's emotional suppression, which actually harms wellbeing. True regulation means feeling your feelings fully while choosing how to respond rather than reacting automatically from your most dysregulated state.

Practical strategies include: recognising your early warning signs (jaw tension, shallow breathing), having go-to regulation tools (cold water, movement, breathing), creating safety breaks when needed, and building relationships with people who can help co-regulate when you're overwhelmed.
Visit mumsmatterpsychology.com to develop personalised emotional regulation strategies.

Introducing: Caitlyn Dellar, PsychologistCaitlyn is a registered psychologist with the Australian Health Practitioner Re...
22/01/2026

Introducing: Caitlyn Dellar, Psychologist

Caitlyn is a registered psychologist with the Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency (AHPRA) and has completed specific perinatal training through the Perinatal Training Centre and the Centre of Perinatal Excellence (COPE). As both a psychologist and mother of two, Caitlyn is passionate about assisting women through the perinatal period.

Caitlyn has experience working with clients across a broad range of mental health presentations such as depression, anxiety and trauma. Caitlyn uses client-centred and attachment-based approaches and draws on therapeutic modalities such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

Caitlyn is dedicated to supporting women’s mental health and wellbeing through the challenges of parenthood, and fostering a safe environment where clients feel understood and empowered.

"You know those moments that make you think:“They’re being selfish.”“I have no patience for this.”“They’re making me cra...
20/01/2026

"You know those moments that make you think:
“They’re being selfish.”
“I have no patience for this.”
“They’re making me crazy.”

Those aren’t moral failings they’re moments of dysregulation on both sides.

A child’s behavior is their nervous system communicating a need. Our reaction is ours doing the same. When you see the need beneath the behavior (and your own), everything shifts.

The goal isn’t perfect calm, it’s noticing what’s happening in your body, pausing long enough to reset, and modeling how to come back to connection. That’s where emotional intelligence is built not in the perfect moments, but in the messy ones we repair."

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✨ Perfectionism in Parenting: How Hidden Standards Create Stress and Contribute to BurnoutPerfectionism operates invisib...
20/01/2026

✨ Perfectionism in Parenting: How Hidden Standards Create Stress and Contribute to Burnout

Perfectionism operates invisibly, creating constant anxiety without your conscious awareness of the impossible standards driving your behaviour. These hidden rules dictate that good mothers should always be patient, never resent their children, naturally know what their baby needs, maintain pre-baby standards, and do it all without complaining.

These standards are impossible because they're based on cultural mythology rather than human reality. No one can meet them consistently, yet you beat yourself up for falling short of expectations you didn't consciously choose. This creates chronic stress, shame, and eventual burnout.

Identifying your perfectionistic standards requires noticing "should" statements. "I should enjoy every moment." "I should know how to soothe my baby." "I should be able to handle this." Each "should" reveals an internalized rule worth examining and potentially releasing.

The antidote isn't lowering standards that genuinely matter to you, it's consciously choosing values that serve your family's actual wellbeing rather than unconsciously following rules designed to make you feel perpetually inadequate. Good enough parenting isn't settling; it's wisdom.

Visit mumsmatterpsychology.com for support releasing perfectionism.

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