Sacred Loving Touch: Presence Power Pleasure

27/02/2022

22/09/2021

Touch is so important. Those of us experiencing physical restrictions may be finding it hard to get our touch needs met in an already skin hungry world. And this breaks my heart.

As much as this sucks, and it does, we are beings wired for touch; this could be a really lovely(and necessary) time to delve deeper into our self touch practice. To intentionally connect with ourselves with attentiveness and curiosity. and to hold ourselves as we need to be held.

For anyone who's never thought to touch yourself as a precious and interesting delight, or anyone who just needs a reminder, here it is!

I find that allowing my hands to slow down and honour every part of me with no goal or time limit can help calm and soothe me as the world shakes out there.

If you'd like to, I encourage you to slow down, wherever you may be. Take some whole, deep breaths into your belly and use your fingers to explore your personal landscape. With curiosity. With love. With patience. With whatever it is you need to be with in the moment.

You may like to intend sending love through your fingertips to yourself, or imagine you are a lover touching or being touched. Or a child receiving touch from its parent. Or an artist tracing their art, learning its secrets...an explorer discovering a delicious territory for the first time. whatever comes to you n feels right.

I like to start by tracing one finger across and around and over my eyelashes and eyebrows....suuuuuper slowly, like at least for the length of a song. ..and then I make my delicate way across my cheek, tending to each hair/mole/indentation with curiosity. I wiggling my finger like invisible calligraphy around to my mouth, exploring its textures and depths....squeezing, gently poking, stroking, patting... and eventually around the edge of my ear..unfolding the foldy bits, flapping the lobe, playing, luxuriating..exploring... i like to mix it up with different fingers, more fingers, my palm, the back of my hand. i like to get lost in the tenderness.

And then i may continue wherever else i need to go..my head.. my neck.. my whole body..always with love. i just follow my own lead with presence and kindness. Drinking my body up with my fingertips and my body drinking up the touch to where it needs it most.

I like to notice what i feel if i focus my attention in the fingers/hand doing the touching or in the parts my fingers/hand are touching?

Can my attention be in both at the same time?

Do I speed up or slow down at certain points?

What kind of sensations are present? Warmth, prickling, tingling, vibration, tightness etc?..i like to allow them all to exist avoiding any analysis and to stay with them until i feel the urge to move on.

I let any thoughts that come up pass by and keep coming back to the sensations (as much as i can)

I like to pause and hold different places that feel right to and breathe as if i'm the most precious thing that i ever touched and the most precious thing that ever touched me. (even if i don't feel this way in the moment, i give it a gosh darn try! imagination is powerful)

Maybe you'd like to try this too?

Let me know how you go if you'd like to share x

06/10/2019

Happy Sunday, beautiful ones. What a wonderful Sunday to connect with your body. Might I suggest you take a moment to connect your heart to your ge****ls? Do you do this before you begin self pleasuring? It is a simple, yet powerful practice and is a wonderful foundation for a connected day.

If you’d like to right now, I invite you to take a moment to place a hand on your heart and have the other hold your ge****ls with love. Sit/lay quietly and focus your breath, imagine it flowing deeply into your cock/pussy lingham/yoni or whatever you have and feel it filling up your pelvis.

Then imagine a channel going up from your pelvis into your heart space. between your hands. This breath can then move through this channel. Flow up and down. Feel into the sensations that may arise as you gently breathe into this connection. For as long as you like.

This is an easy practice that among other things, reminds us of our inherent s*xual nature, opens channels of pleasure, brings us home to our deep essence and creates/fosters neural pathways of self love and support.

To hold my heart and s*x and feel the connection, to me is a metaphor for my life too. For me, forgetting this connection means I’m less empowered in my life. Less open to love in my s*x life and less able to hold myself emotionally/mentally.

Honouring this connection is radically different to the heavy conditioning most of us have received around our s*xuality. Perhaps we hold shame around s*xual pleasure/s*xual parts that keeps these centres separated as much as possible. This can result in going through the motions without being present to them and how they are affecting us. Perhaps we subconsciously disconnect these areas to keep us ‘safe’ or ‘protected’ from feelings or authentic relating when engaging s*xually.

For so many of us that have learned to disconnect when lo******ng alone or with others, acknowledging and being with this connection can change worlds. I love you and your Heart/Sex connection. Join me!

08/06/2019

I’ve just gotten off the phone, after checking in with a client and am crying so many tears of joy.

The power I am always so humbled to witness through this work, blows me away again and again.

This client has been working with ge***al trauma. He had been sitting with sadness, fear and disgust about his P***s for over 2 years. In our session he told me that he thought it to be ugly and disfigured and he felt cut off from his s*xuality. He said that his trauma had led him to want to self harm. That he felt turmoil and was carrying a sense of doom.

On the phone, he just told me that immediately after our first session, he went home and felt called to touch himself with genuine love and no outside stimulation. He spent an hour giving his body love for the first time in 2 years!

He noticed “..every little part of my ge****ls and felt full appreciation for all imperfections”

He told me that he remembered what it felt like to love his p***s again. “I felt genuine comfort in my own skin..and I feel lighter”. He said that he has also noticed an ability to respond to difficult emotions that have arisen since, rather than being overwhelmed or reactive to them.

WOW 😭

Oh, I felt so much joy during our conversation, as this person sounded completely different to the person who sat in front of me only 4 days previous.

I openly discourage myself and clients holding expectations for outcomes from sessions. Instead, i invite trust that whatever shifts may come, will unfold perfectly in their own time when each individual is ready to move with them. And these shifts may not look like we imagine them to, as there may be more necessary or subtle clearings/reimaginings to come first..but all journeys lead home.

Stories of such swift and dramatic turnarounds, lead me to believe that this being was so ready for this reconnection, so truly onboard and all it took was a nudge.

These situations make it hard to not be floored to witness such powerful magic. To not be so freaking grateful that I get to be a part of this journey. To provide the space for that nudge. To be graced with the honour of serving such precious beings as they remember. What a huge gift.

This is why I’m so passionate about this work. I believe that our relationship to our s*xuality holds the key to our power on this planet. I know that huge shifts are possible when we put our intentions together, open up to the unknown and come back to our bodies. To ourselves. With love and patience.

YES!YES!YES!

30/05/2019

Good afternoon all you wonderful beings.

I invite you to pause a minute and ask if you’re being kind to yourself today? Are you treating yourself, (your most precious resource, friend, lover, partner, confidante, playmate, rock, ally) with the respect you deserve? The patience, the care, the tenderness that you may offer a friend?

It’s easy to get caught up in destructive patterns of ill self talk, pushing through your limits, overworking, ignoring your boundaries etc but it’s oh so detrimental.

If we are not loving ourselves up and allowing ourselves to make mistakes and grow in our own time, just as we would a small child, without judgement or punishment,; it sure as heck doesn’t give us a solid foundation to thrive, nor show up in the world in our full glory.

And we as a collective, need us all to show up in our full glory. We need us to love ourselves.

Thank you for being you.
I love you, join me!

14/01/2019

How do you touch your body? With love, appreciation, tenderness and reverence? Do you take your time and really drop into feeling the pleasure of touching and being touched? Finding joy in the connection? Or if you're anything like i was, is that kind of sweetness only saved for when you touch others? What if, right now, you touched your arm as you might a lover's face, how would that feel?

18/11/2018

Hi beauties! I'm off grid for a couple of weeks assisting a retreat, undergoing more training and gaining more self knowledge.. see you on the other side.. I won't be able to respond to any messages until the 6th of December. 💜

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29/10/2018

29/10/2018

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