Katie Small Counselling

14/08/2025

Jenny says in chapter 6 of her book Growing Yourself Up “Most people come to couples counselling come saying they are here to work on their relationship, the irony is that the couples who make progress are the ones who stop focusing on the marriage itself and start directing their attention to their own behaviours. This is the paradox of growth within a marriage, that a responsible focus on yourself and not the relationship can bring the utmost degree of mutual satisfaction.”

01/07/2025

I am pleased to finally be an accredited parent coach for the !

As an experienced facilitator of several parent programs (inc. COS & TIK), this program is a deep breath of fresh air & a genuine pleasure to offer parents in my counselling practice. It will not tell you how to parent… what it will do is far greater! It will assist you to reclaim your own clarity as a parent & rebuild the hope that may have gotten lost somewhere amidst all the worry. The bonus outcome is that as you work on this in yourself, your child will likely calm down too 🙌🏼

If you want to learn more & consider completing this 6 session program send me an email, we can find a time to chat: info@katiesmall.com.au

25/06/2025

Did you know I offer sessions online via video or phone? I’ve recently made the decision to close my in person practice and focus on providing affordable & accessible online counselling to people in any location. I also offer sessions after hours for those juggling work and/or kids. Visit my website for more information - link in bio.

www.katiesmall.com.au

05/06/2025

I’ve been thinking a lot about trauma recently & how it’s possible that, in therapy, survivors of trauma are at times not given the opportunity to explore their own capacity.

Some questions I’m reflecting on:
1. How does our practice at times reinforce their helplessness, their vulnerability?
2. How can we approach them with a belief in their own capacity to manage themselves, even when they say “I can’t”?
3. What questions can we ask that assist their own thinking and understanding of their trauma responses?

-efficacy

09/05/2025

Strap yourself in, it's a long one! New blog post looking at when the symptoms of anxiety become too intense, some ways to keep them in check.

“Anxiety can be defined as the response of an organism to a threat, real or imagined. It is a process that, in some form, is present in all ...

28/02/2025

14/02/2025

New blog - https://katiesmallcounselling.blogspot.com/2025/02/starting-school-lesson-in-growing-pains.html

“I think most parents can agree that it’s not easy [change] and the greatest challenge for a parent is to stop obsessively watching our kids to see if they’re coping for a second and turn our attention to ourselves. How am I managing myself in all this? Could my discomfort be contributing to how my child is coping/not coping?”

24/10/2024

Do you aim for symptom relief or solid change? Symptom relief is focused on immediate relief of discomfort/anxiety whereas solid change emerges from a focus on one’s personal responsibilities and accountabilities, decisions based on facts & personal principles.

26/09/2024

Ever considered researching your own family of origin? Murray Bowen suggested that this exploration of understanding family patterns tracing back 3-4 generations can lead to more enriching & satisfying relationships in the present. This work can be done individually or in the context of counselling sessions over time. Feel welcome to reach out if you’re curious to learn more.

05/09/2024

Quote from Kathleen Smith in her new book True to You about the ferris wheel of fusion & how to get off! She suggests that getting off requires thinking about your part in the cycle & finding the courage to do things differently.

08/08/2024

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04/07/2024

Change is possible! Are you willing to step back & observe your own human behaviour like a researcher? The key is curiosity & a willingness to learn from what you observe of yourself - avoiding criticism or shaming. We’re all human & we’re doing the best we can with what resources we’ve been given. Start by asking yourself ‘what is not working well for me at the moment?’ & then observe yourself in those scenarios to see what part your behaviour may be playing in it all - that’s the one part you have power to change.

-meyer