11/01/2026
THE ALCHEMY OF THE MIRROR🪞
Family dynamics are an intricate landscape. They can be heavy with unsaid expectations and inherited roles - yet, for those willing to look, they contain a rich seam of gold to be mined, provided we are courageous to face the mirror.
I remember being 12 years old. After receiving excellent school results, I felt the weight of my father’s pride. It didn’t feel like a celebration of me; it felt like I was being used to validate a part of him. I looked at him and said: "I AM NOT YOUR TROPHY!"
It wasn’t a "hero" moment. It was a moment of deep friction! It was hard for my father to hear those words, and even harder for him to swallow the pride. But that heat was where the Alchemy began - the catalyst for refining our relationship.✨
Gradually, our dynamic shifted. He began to see me not as a trophy, but as a mirror for reflection. He had to face his own "inner child" while I stood in the truth of mine. This is the gold hidden in the friction: the moment we stop seeking change externally merely to "win" where we once "lost."
In my work, I see how these family "elements" are held in our bodies. We carry the weight of these unspoken voices until we find the safety to let them go. 🌿
My father had never heard of the work of Dr. Shefali Tsabary (), yet he knew instinctively that there was a seam of gold to be mined within himself. I was blessed to experience that profound moment of alchemy with him.
Today, we are so fortunate to have a map for this territory. I have been deeply inspired by the work of Dr. Shefali. Her teachings act as a brilliant compass, pointing us back to our own center - to the necessity of self-parenting. It is the process of reclaiming our own 'inner home' so we can meet the world with presence rather than our past wounds.🕊️
What says you? Have you ever had a moment where a difficult "truth" became the catalyst for your own inner alchemy? 💭