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18/03/2025

"Today was a Difficult Day," said Pooh.

There was a pause.

"Do you want to talk about it?" asked Piglet.

"No," said Pooh after a bit. "No, I don't think I do."

"That's okay," said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend.

"What are you doing?" asked Pooh.

"Nothing, really," said Piglet. "Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don't feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either.

"But goodness," continued Piglet, "Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you've got someone there for you. And I'll always be here for you, Pooh."

And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs...he thought that his best friend had never been more right."
A.A. Milne

Sending thoughts to those having a Difficult Day today and hope you have your own Piglet to sit beside you 🧡

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04/03/2025

The truth about sociopathy told by one.

21/02/2025

It’s the same in Australia. Medications will not heal you. Therapy does.

10/01/2025

Is Your Relationship Functional but Lacking Love? Reconnect with IFS Couples Therapy 💕

Sometimes, relationships look fine on the surface. You manage daily tasks, avoid major arguments, and seem like a solid team. But underneath, you might feel a growing emotional distance—a sense of loneliness even when you’re together.

Here are some signs that your relationship might be functional but emotionally disconnected:
1. Conversations feel practical, not personal. For example, if most of your discussions revolve around schedules or chores, it might feel like you’re running a business together instead of building emotional intimacy.
2. Avoiding deeper issues to “keep the peace.” Many couples fear that addressing unresolved feelings could lead to conflict, but avoiding them often creates emotional distance.

These challenges are common, and the good news is that relationships can be revitalized.

Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) for couples therapy, we can work to:
• Identify and understand the different “parts” within each of you that may be blocking connection (e.g., protective parts avoiding conflict, or wounded parts seeking reassurance).
• Create a safe space for vulnerable conversations that foster empathy and intimacy.
• Develop tools to rebuild emotional and physical connection by understanding each other’s inner worlds.

One couple I worked with struggled with feeling like “roommates.” Through IFS, they discovered parts of themselves carrying old wounds of rejection and fear of conflict. As they learned to unburden these parts, they could connect more authentically, improving communication and trust.

You don’t have to navigate this alone. If these signs resonate with you, I can help you and your partner rebuild the connection and joy in your relationship.

Reach out today to begin your journey toward a stronger, more intimate bond. 💛

09/01/2025

🌱 The Hidden Impact of Physical Neglect on Childhood and Beyond 🌱

Have you been affected by physical neglect during your childhood? Is there trauma related to neglect that still impacts you? I can help you with effective psychodynamic tools, such as Internal Family Systems (IFS), to begin your healing journey.

A recent study analyzing data from over 9,000 individuals highlights the lifelong impact of physical neglect on social relationships. The findings reveal:

Neglected children are less likely to engage socially and be chosen as friends.
They often have fragmented and less cohesive social networks.
The effects of neglect on peer relationships are more pervasive than even physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.
This research underscores the importance of addressing past neglect to foster healthier connections and relationships. Therapy can be a powerful way to process these experiences, heal wounds, and build meaningful relationships.

Reach out today to begin your journey toward understanding, healing, and growth. 💛

Physical Neglect Causes Lifelong Social Challenges in Children

Physical neglect during childhood disrupts all aspects of peer relationships, including social engagement, popularity, and cohesive friend groups, according to a new study.

Researchers analyzed data from over 9,000 individuals and found that neglected children are less social, less likely to be chosen as friends, and more likely to have fragmented social networks.

These effects were more pervasive than those caused by physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.

09/01/2025

A new year is here, and with it comes the chance to start fresh, to step into the unknown, and to write a story that feels true to who you are. No need for perfection—just intention, courage, and a little kindness toward yourself and others.

Every day in 2025 can be a page where you celebrate progress, face challenges with grace, and create moments that matter. It’s okay if the handwriting is messy or if some pages feel heavy. It’s still your story, and it’s worth writing.

What will you explore, embrace, or let go of this year? Let’s walk into 2025 with compassion for where we’ve been and excitement for what’s ahead.

11/10/2024

🌱 The Reality of Being a Therapist: Intense, Demanding, and Deeply Fulfilling 🌱

Therapists are more than just good listeners; they’re guides, supporters, and sometimes lifelines for people in their toughest moments. But let’s be real—therapy isn’t easy, and it’s definitely not relaxing. It's demanding, both mentally and emotionally, and here’s why:

🔹 High Stakes: The decisions we make can change lives. We carry the weight of that responsibility in every session, knowing our guidance can lead to transformation.

🔹 Constant Processing: Therapy is more than listening; it’s a cognitive workout. We’re constantly analyzing, understanding, and guiding, which takes a huge toll on our mental energy.

🔹 Beyond the Session: Even when the session ends, our work doesn’t. There are notes to write, progress to track, and plans to develop—all to ensure we’re giving the best possible care.

🔹 Emotional Multitasking: We take in so much of what our clients share that sometimes, our brains feel the weight of their emotions too. It's intense, but we stay strong for them.

Therapy is a mission—a commitment to helping others transform their lives for the better. To all the therapists out there, remember to take off your “therapist hat” sometimes. Recharge, connect with your own life, and make space for joy. To be the best for your clients, you must also take care of yourself. 💖

03/10/2024

Have you ever felt something but not quite able to name it? Emotions can be complex, and sometimes, it’s hard to pinpoint exactly what’s going on inside. That’s where the Wheel of Emotions comes in!

This tool can help you better identify your feelings, understand their root, and express them more clearly. Whether you're feeling something subtle or intense, the Wheel breaks emotions down into categories, helping you connect with your inner world in a new way.

Take a moment to look at the Wheel of Emotions today. 🛑 What are you feeling right now? Is it a mix of things? Maybe you’ll even discover a word for something you’ve been carrying but couldn’t quite define.

🗣 Let’s talk! What emotions stood out to you when you looked at the wheel? How do you usually deal with your emotions? Please share your experiences in the comments and let’s support each other in this emotional journey. 💬👇

Please share this with anyone who might find it helpful!

02/10/2024

Not every day will be about grand achievements or life-changing milestones, and that’s perfectly okay. Sometimes, the small actions we take, done with heart and intention, make the biggest difference in the long run.

Whether it’s showing kindness to someone, taking a few minutes for self-care, or simply giving your best in the moment, those small efforts add up when done with greatness. Remember, every step moves you closer to where you want to be. 🌱

Keep doing your best, no matter how small the task may seem. Your greatness is in your dedication.

✨ What small action will you do today with greatness? Share below! 👇