Jessica Grima, Sydney (2025)

30/06/2022

We have all been there.

21/06/2022

I like healing and energy work to be a full body experience.

I have started working more with colour and sound during sessions; even during talk therapy.

What is your favourite thing about having a session with a practitioner?

Do you love music?
Do you love art?
Do you love colour?
Do you like channeled guidance?
Do you like to not have to talk?
Do you like trying new modalities?

Or what do you feel lacks from your sessions with your practitioner? What would be amazing to add to a session?

Let me know.

19/06/2022

Oh man, does anyone else feel this on a cellular level?

I cannot fathom the arguments my kids have over things.

Or even the disagreements they have with friends while online.

Don’t get me started on Roblox. I am still not 100% sure why it’s such a big deal and can illicit such huge emotional reactions.

This was literally not in any parenting book I read 🤣🤣🤣

16/06/2022

The other night, my cousin called.

Life happens, and we don’t get to talk to each other too much.

As soon as I saw I had a missed call from her, I was so excited.

Listening to her speak about her life, her wife, her kids, their plans; I was overwhelmed with happiness and joy.

It such a privilege when someone shares with us, when someone reaches out, when someone is thinking of you.

It can really change your mood, your outlook; a simple touch point of “I’ve been thinking of you, how are you”.

There is no level of contact you “should” have with someone. We get busy, things happen and in an instant, months or even years have passed.

Use this moment to reconnect.

14/06/2022

You may find someone attractive, charismatic, funny, witty; you may feel an abundance of emotions about them.

But what if they make you feel anxious, on edge, unclear on where you stand, doubting yourself?

This isn’t just in romantic relationships, this is for all connections.

It is so important to evaluate how someone makes you feel.

Is it reciprocated and even?
Are you constantly giving and not receiving back?
Is the connection is a positive flow or does it feel forced?

We get caught up about the outward definition of feelings, and don’t look inward for the effect someone has on us.

09/06/2022

Simple pleasures.

Small gestures.

Quiet moments.

I think that “simple” or “easy” gets misconstrued and interpreted as “they are self sufficient and don’t need as much attention”.

Low maintenance does not mean low effort.

Just because your needs are different to someone else, doesn’t mean you deserve minimal effort.

07/06/2022

Why oh why do we feel the need to explain?

We carry guilt about saying no.

About putting ourselves first.

When we over-explain we are justifying our choices to others, when there really is no need to do that.

‘No’ is a full sentence.

‘We won’t be able to make it’ full stop.

If people have a problem with your answer, that’s on them and they need to work through why they have been triggered or find your answer uncomfortable.

It’s not on you.

Next time you find yourself over explaining, stop, take a breath and tell yourself it’s ok to say no.

10/05/2022

Emotional pain is real pain.

Emotional pain is held in your body.

You would be shocked to find what you are holding in your body, is deeper than a simple injury.

Think about when your pain flares up.

Think about when you hurt yourself.

Sometimes it is as simple as knock or a fall.

But often it’s real emotional pain that hasn’t left your body, and has settled, causing you physical pain.

08/05/2022

To every mother.

❤️

28/04/2022

This is where I have been the last little while.

Hello. I’m alive. I’m cleaning / folding / working / studying / starting into space / falling asleep in weird positions on the couch.

I even shot off a message this morning saying “I feel like I haven’t spoken to you in years”. It’s been a few days.

Everyone seems to be busy.

Dealing with things.

Some emotional, some physical, some work related, some total breakdowns.

The months are flying.

The days seem long.

Don’t worry if you are too busy or distracted or are forgetting things.

Be where you are, it will change again soon.

13/04/2022

I clean.

When anxiety comes knocking, or something has happened where I cannot control the outcome, or I am feeling like I have something to process; I clean.

Do you notice patterns of behaviours when you have emotional situations or anxiety?

Are you like me and clean?

Do you spend?

Eat?

Exercise?

Sleep?

Are you even able to identify your behavioural reactions?

I would love to hear how it shows up in your life.

12/04/2022

“I wish it could go back to the way it was”

“I am trying to do what I used to do”

“I am trying to get back to the way we / I used to be”.

We spend a lot of time looking back.

Comparing.

Chastising ourselves for not being as happy as we used to be.

Using the past as a benchmark, robbing ourselves of the present or the future.

Fear is the unknown; the future is the unknown. So we look back to know “that’s when I felt happy”.

Except there is something about the past, and the past versions of you.

You have changed.

And what worked for you then, what held your interest then, the plans you made; they no longer interest you.

We set out with such a clear path and vision of ‘what will make us happy’; we forget to factor in growth, experience, change, trauma, loss and joy.

It is OK to look back, to remember, to tell stories, to reflect on how you used to be.

But you can’t live there. Not anymore.

Comparison is the thief of joy, even if that means you are comparing yourself to yourself.

How are you holding yourself in the past? How are you wanting things to go back to the way they were?
How are you holding tightly to something that can actually be BETTER than it was?

Take some time to think about that today.

11/04/2022

I know it’s not always that easy to reach out.

Maybe you feel like a burden.

Maybe you feel like you don’t have anyone you can turn to.

Or that your problems really aren’t that big.

Or you are strong enough to deal with it on your own.

I am not doubting your strength, I know you can deal with it.

My question is, do you want to?

Do you want to move the couch on your own? Or is it easier if you have another person or two to help?

What’s the difference when dealing with mental or emotional help?

It is not indulgent to reach out.

It doesn’t make you weak.

No one is judging you.

You are not meant to do this alone.

And I know many of you feel like you are.

04/04/2022

Do you know what happens when we go through change?
When we go through trauma?
Through grief?

We change.
We evolve.
We grow.

Almost every day I hear someone say;

“I am trying to do what I used to, but I just can’t get into it”.
“I am trying to get back into routine and it’s not working”
“It doesn’t make me feel happy anymore”

When something changes us at a fundamental level, why do we think we can just get on with it? Or go back to the way it was?

I think perhaps it has something to do with finding a level of ‘normal’ or control. That if we can just go back to how it was, we don’t have to face how it is.

And sometimes that may work.

Sometimes you might be able to go back for a little while.

But eventually it all ends the same way. Having to face and embrace the new version that has been created.

Yes there is pain.
Sometimes confusion.
Lots of tears.
Confrontation of how you feel.

And then you fall into a rhythm.
And it doesn’t feel so scary anymore.
The fresh start is liberating.
Freeing.

It’s ok if you are scared.
Hurting.
Lost.

It’s ok if you are holding tight to what was.
It’s ok if you have lost interest in what is.

Every day it will get a bit better.
And you will be able to embrace the new version of you, that’s desperately wanting to come out.

31/03/2022

It’s the end of another month.

Before the next one begins, take a moment.

For some it’s been hard, for others it’s been prosperous.

For me, this month kicked my physical and emotional self. I am glad I worked through what I did, however I am ready to welcome in April.

Bring. On. My. Birthday.

However it has been for you, I see you. I am proud of you.

However it has been for you, you are doing such a good job.

Take a breathe, or three, and have a moment to simply BE.

27/03/2022

How many times have you been told;

Calm down.

You are being emotional.

You are being dramatic.

Stop being so sensitive.

Stop overreacting.

Highly sensitive women; I see you.
I see every time you have had to swallow your emotions.
I see every time you haven’t understood why people can’t see what you see.
I see every time someone has dismissed you.
I see every time you have walked away hurt.

You are a gift.

And you never have to apologise for who you are.

24/03/2022

I am having many conversations at the moment about emotional manipulation and varying degrees of abuse.

Then this popped up and I thought it was so important to share.

Read through them and tell me, which of them, if any, can you see happening in your life?

And how does that make you feel?

23/03/2022

You know what I love doing?
Chopping all my hair off.
I haven’t done it in so long and recently decided it was time.
It feels so good doesn’t it!
Like a huge weight gets lifted.

For all that are new here, and those who have been around for a while, a little bit about me.

While it has been a year and a bit of my business, I have only had about 6 months of uninterrupted sessions.

We all know why that has been, you are all feeling the same way. It’s only now starting to feel like some routine is starting.

I am well into my Mental Health studies and thoroughly enjoying them, the path for me is to be a psychologist. A journey I am so happy to be on.

On the holistic front I am a Reiki Master, Coach, EFT Practitioner and I always bring a sprinkle of magic.

My practice is about using both the traditional and the holistic.
The Ying and Yang.
The magic and the non magic.

If you feel moved to, reach out.
Comment. Send me a DM.
Hang around and see what resonates with you.

And if I am not what you are interested in, I wish you well and am grateful for the time you have spent in this online space.

🔮💫💜

22/03/2022

Our body tells us so many things.

Some people are more in tune and can feel the shifts within themselves.

Some people don’t believe that the body dictates or stores information / emotions / memories.

Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs.

Yet, our bodies don’t lie and they continue to tell us things, whether we acknowledge them or not.

Just like when you are hungry or thirsty, your body will send you signs of feeling safe.

Start looking for those signs and taking note of who you are with or where you are when they happen.

22/03/2022

Toxic positivity is an interesting one.

I believe the Good Vibes Only concept started with the right intentions.

However it quickly mutated into something else.

Toxic positivity involves dismissing negative emotions and responding to distress with false reassurances rather than empathy.

“Things will get better”
“Just push through”
“Everyone has the same 24 hours in the day”

While well-intentioned, it comes from feeling uncomfortable with negative emotions and can cause alienation and a feeling of disconnection. It doesn’t address the root cause of WHY someone needs “good vibes only”.

“Oh they seem to be so positive and I feel so broken and not positive at all. There must be something wrong with ME”.

It boils down to a processing and healing issue.

And what someone wants to project to he world.

If you don’t resonate with someone’s level of positivity or you feel a reaction within yourself. If you can’t connect with their way of handling things.

There is nothing with you.

You simply process and handle things differently.

Not Good Vibes Only.

But All Human Emotions Welcome Here.

21/03/2022

I talk about the connection between body and trauma and emotions almost every day.

How the body doesn’t know the difference.

It doesn’t know what event you are responding to.

It doesn’t know what period of time you are in.

It doesn’t know if you are responding to a trauma you had yesterday or 10 years ago.

But it responds all the same.

Don’t let anyone tell you that your pain is less because it’s not physical.

It could be a different situation but the same emotional response.

It could be a new trauma that is unfolding.

No matter what it is, if it’s not dealt with, it mutates in your body.

Emotional and mental health is just as important as the physical.

20/03/2022

The more I study and learn, the more I realise I know nothing.

That my biases, my opinions, my assumptions, my discomfort; all need to be shaken, turned upside and faced.

That to be the best practitioner I can be, I need to learn and not say “I don’t know”. I need to take courses or pick up a book and do the work.

I am currently reading Growing Up Disabled in Australia by Carly Findlay, and I am realising I know nothing.

If there are things in life you want to know more about, that you have questions about, that you don’t know how to tackle, that hold you in a space of humility; explore it.

Take the time to do it, it has certainly opened my head and heart wide open.

20/03/2022

Read this as many times as you need to.

What is happening in your mind and body that requires you to rest?

Stop saying you are lazy, or should be doing more, or that you used to do more.

There is a reason you are feeling this way.

So stop and rest.

16/03/2022

I love doing readings.

I absolutely love them.

I love cards, books, crystals, pendulums, signs from spirit, dreams, candles, dream catchers; my room as a child was FILLED with candles, incense, dream catchers and sarongs hanging from the ceiling.

I was to young to understand what I was naturally drawn toward. It wasn’t until I had my huge transformation that I remembered who I always was.

Of course all that is an aesthetic and not paramount to doing readings. But boy I love being surrounded by it.

I still marvel at the messaging, images or visions that come through.

I marvel that things I say have zero resonance with me, but can touch the heart and soul of another human.

I marvel at how clearly I can see someone’s future partner, to then be told that 3 months after I saw them, they met and are now together.

I live in gratitude for the gifts I have. For the privilege of sitting with someone and delving into their life.

I will never get over it. I will always be struck by how spectacular it is.

15/03/2022

Read it.

Read it again.

How does that resonate with you?

It isn’t boring.

It’s peace.

14/03/2022

One step forward.

A couple of steps sideways.

Perhaps a step backwards.

Or even standing still.

This notion that any journey of healing or self improvement goes straight and doesn’t include any bumps or set backs, is entirely fantastical.

This notion that whatever is right or meant for you won’t be hard, is dangerous.

You know what can be hard? Confronting yourself, your story, your pain; being able to work through things and come out the other side.

You know what is meant for you? Happiness, stability in the mind and body, a job you love, a partnership that fulfils you; all those things take time, energy, discomfort and learning.

If concerns me when people say things like “things that are meant for you should not be draining your energy. Things that are meant for you should not be difficult”.

This narrative is not right.

We all face aspects of difficulty from things we love or from things that are putting us on a path to betterment of something that is ‘meant’ for us.

We all face struggles.

We all have moments of sheer frustration and pain.

We all have moments of wanting to give up.

You are not alone.

13/03/2022

There are so many words, so many types, so many uses, so much information when it comes to coaching.

Years ago, if you had said the word ‘coach’ to me, I figured you meant a sporting coach. It’s incredible how you don’t know until you know, right?

I like to tell clients that it’s a middle ground.

You don’t quite need a therapist, but you need more than your friends.

It’s the ability to look within and work out why things are out of alignment. Why you don’t feel at your full potential.

Every coach has their own style, you know I always say “don’t compare experiences”.

I work at a pace that is manageable for you, I push you when needed and help you face what is required.

I’ve witnessed exceptional transformation within people, their personal lives, their businesses and their careers.

Whenever and whoever you decide to start your empowerment journey with, make sure you take the time to connect with the coach, feel them out, make sure they resonate with you.

It is such a personal journey that you must feel safe and secure.

Not every coach is for every person and that is totally OK.

12/03/2022

Do not underestimate the power of speaking words.

Of sharing.

Of getting it off your chest.

Get it out before it takes over your body and you find it harder to function.

That s**t gets heavy.

11/03/2022

I think we can all agree that it’s been one hell of a week.

Well, it’s been a hell of a 2.5 years.

Please take the time to stop. To rest. To eat what you want. Have a bath. Go for a walk. Drink a vino, or 12. Laugh. Cry.

Be kind to yourself in whatever way that looks to you.

We all need it and deserve it right now.

10/03/2022

I hadn’t heard of Reiki or energy healing before I tried it myself.

I was in such a state of physical crisis, I didn’t know what was happening. I was referred to a lady not far from home, desperate to try anything to help me.

I was anxious, suffering near debilitating vertigo / dizzy spells, I wasn’t sleeping, my body was a mess. There were days I felt so terrible I would call my husband convinced I was dying.

In my journey of recovery and completely changing my career, everything pointed me to being an energy healer myself.

I am now an incredibly passionate Reiki Master. The transformations I have seen within people is phenomenal. Being able to help and heal someone is a privilege I do not take lightly.

Every Reiki / Energy experience is unique, and I always say to people “don’t compare to other experiences, I guarantee it wont be anything like it”.

Reiki is just one part of what I practice, used on its own or in conjunction with other modalities, it is absolutely magic.

09/03/2022

I don’t like to make sessions with strict rules.

Sometimes I don’t know what a client needs until they walk in my door.

Sometimes what they need will change half way through a session.

Or sometimes I will get a clear download on what my client needs before they arrive.

Last nights session was a fast and clear download and worked spectacularly.

Using colours, colouring in and music, we were able to neutralise the brain and allow the words and emotions to flow.

From that, we could identify, piece together and then release what had been weighing on them.

Helping people heal and transform is what I live for.

08/03/2022

Have you ever had a conversation, and been clearly expressing how you feel, and the other person tells you that you were being hostile?

Or they say you are yelling? Or that you are over reacting?

And you felt confused as you were simply communicating how you feel?

Any time a discussion about feelings or boundaries dissolves into an argument, there is more than likely several things going on.

1. The person you are communicating with carries guilt about their behaviour and doesn’t want to hear how it makes you feel
2. Your boundaries don’t fit in with their need to control the situation
3. They are losing control of the narrative and want to turn back within their favour
4. They are triggered and still have work to do on themselves

Or if you find yourself getting angry with someone for communicating their emotions with you; ask yourself why it is triggering for you.

Communication is something that will always need to be worked on. What we can identify and change is our reaction to what is said.

08/03/2022

To every woman.

I see you.

I celebrate you.

Today, and every other day.

07/03/2022

It’s a lot right now. It’s heavy.

There is pain. Fury. Sadness. Disbelief.

If you are finding it hard to connect, feeling anxious, feeling tired, feeling ‘off’, not being able to sleep; you are not alone.

Take it easy on yourself.
Give yourself permission to say no.
Give yourself space to not be OK.

We are in a world that is evolving and changing so quickly.
Every day brings something new.

No one is ok.
Everyone is doing the best they can.

💜

28/02/2022

You are not a burden.

No one is mad at you.

No one wants you to be alone.

They are willing to help.

They want to support you.

The question is: can you accept it?

21/02/2022

There are times we project or expect or push others into handling things a certain way.

We often do that for our own comfort level. Because a certain reaction makes sense to us.

Sometimes we project on to other people, expecting them to live up to expectations, and we punish them for falling short.

One of the most liberating things you can do, is see your partner, your friends, your work place, your boss, your children; for exactly who they are right NOW.

Not the potential, not what could be, not what they should be.

If you can release expectations, if you can give people the space to show you who they are, allow them to be present (or not present) in your life; I promise you will feel incredible.

17/02/2022

I say this to every single person I know. Family, friends, clients or others.

Sometimes you need to just GET THE WORDS OUT.

Often after a big chat, a cry or a release of anger, there is instant relief.

When you don’t get to say what you need to say, it festers. It grows into a gnarly feeling in your body.

You ever write an angry text and not send it?

You ever write a furious email and then edit it down?

That initial blow out makes you feel lighter.

Speaking words is the same thing.

Said in a calm, safe, non judgmental space, you can move through the issue and start healing.

15/02/2022

Don’t devalue yourself and what you have to say by talking to people who don’t listen.

Find the people who will listen to your story, who will contribute to your life, who connect with you in an even, healthy relationship.

We have a habit of over explaining, of trying to convince people of our worth, of trying to make them see that we are important.

And the more we do this, the more we devalue ourselves. There is no use talking to people who reject, ignore or dismiss us. There is no use taking to people who are simply waiting to say their words and who aren’t absorbing yours.

If people are not listening to you, stop talking to them.

Find the people who will listen to you, and talk to them instead.

15/02/2022

Trauma is a big word. It’s a confronting word.

I cannot tell you how many times I hear people say “oh no, I didn’t have anything THAT bad happen to me. It wasn’t that big of a deal”.

Trauma doesn’t have to be just horrific experiences.

Trauma can be ‘smaller’ experiences.

Trauma is an emotional response.

Trauma is the result of stressful events that shatter your sense of security.

Trauma can be from a one time event, ongoing or relentless stress, or commonly overlooked causes.

However you feel about your life events, make sure you give them the weight they deserve.

Don’t minimise your story.

14/02/2022

It’s not enough to simply say I love you.

Whether it is to someone else.
Or to yourself.
Or to have someone say it to you.

Love is an action.
Love is a verb.

How is love showing up in your life?
How is love being applied to you by others and by yourself?

Do you know what your love language is?
Do you know what it takes to make you feel loved?

It can be difficult to ask others for love when we aren’t clear on what we need.

And what once made you feel loved, may not apply anymore.

Don’t compare your love to anyone else’s.
Don’t compare your self love to anyone else’s.

All love looks different, which is why it’s important to be clear on what feeling loved looks like to YOU.