07/05/2026
One thing I do in an initial session that a lot of therapists don’t…
I want to know:
“What helps you feel deeply connected to someone?”
“Please tell me if I say something, do something, or even don’t do something that feels off.”
“I’m not going to get it right all the time… so let me know when it doesn’t land.”
Why?
Because I’m not trying to be the perfect therapist.
I’m trying to create a relationship where you don’t have to abandon yourself to stay connected.
Most people already come into therapy scanning:
Will I be too much?
Will they get me?
Will I be judged?
Will I be safe here?
So the ability to name rupture, awkwardness, disconnection, tension… matters.
That is the work.
Not just insight.
Not just techniques.
Relationship.
And honestly… if we can’t talk about what’s happening between us in the room, then we’ll probably just repeat what already happens outside the room too.
This is the kind of depth we refine inside my one day event, Underneath.
Link in bio for event dates near you.