Fuller Life Psychology

10/04/2025

If you or your partner grew up in a home where feelings were either ignored or not handled with care, the default strategy when things go wrong might be to instantly go into thinking and problem solving mode as an indirect strategy to make painful feelings go away When feelings are big, however, the brain isn’t able to take in problem solving information (advice). So if you really want to help your partner solve the problem, start with validating the feelings. Validating feelings is a powerful tool to soothe feelings, and soothed feelings make space for reason and problem solving.
Another thing to remember is that some problems don’t have solutions....sometimes we just need to be comforted through the inevitable, in which case validation and emotional support ARE the “solution.”

24/03/2025

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16/01/2025

Next time things get heated, give some of these a try ❤️

16/01/2025

16/01/2025

ℹ️ THE IMPORTANCE OF BOUNDARIES |

Personal boundaries act as protective barriers that define our sense of self and our comfort zones. They dictate what we are willing to accept, how we expect to be treated, and how we engage with others. Just like diplomatic negotiations between nations can prevent wars, healthy and open communication between individuals can prevent emotional clashes. But diplomacy, whether in politics or in relationships, requires skill, patience, and self-awareness.

At the heart of boundary-setting lies communication. Being able to express our needs, limits, and feelings with clarity and confidence is a skill developed over time. However, not everyone has had the opportunity to cultivate this skill. Factors like upbringing, past trauma, cultural expectations, or lack of emotional education can leave people ill-equipped to assert their boundaries effectively.

Read the Full Article: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/articles/the-importance-of-boundaries



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16/01/2025

ℹ️🌿 HOW CULTURE AND ATTACHMENT AFFECT OUR RELATIONSHIPS |

Understanding how culture and attachment affect your relationships is important for creating stronger, more meaningful connections with others. By learning more about your attachment style and how culture shapes your emotional responses, you can build trust, understanding, and intimacy in your relationships.

Whether you're in an intercultural relationship or simply want to understand yourself better, the more you understand these influences, the better equipped you will be to create fulfilling, lasting connections. These elements influence how we build relationships, handle problems, and show trust and love. By exploring these influences, you can deepen your understanding of yourself and others in relationships.

Read the Full Article: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/articles/how-culture-and-attachment-affect-our-relationships



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16/01/2025

Around 80% of you will relate to one category more than the others. Those who don’t will probably be either closer to the secure category and thus have more flexible responses to relationship stress, or will be closer to the disorganized category and have more unpredictable responses to relationship stress. Also, keep in mind that attachment theory is meant to be applied to relationships with the strongest attachment bonds. Yes, attachment styles will show up in other relationships outside of your closest ones, but it’s not the same intensity or context. If you try to apply the theory to anyone and everyone in your life, things can start to get murky. Most people will have a similar attachment style in all of their romantic relationships throughout life (without working on it), but some can vary. What causes the variation goes beyond the scope of this post, but it can happen.
As with all categorizations and labels, the goal is to help you use the label to have a better understanding of yourself and what you can work on, not to put you in a box. Use this information to grow. If you don’t relate to any of it, that’s okay too…work on what you see as a problem. It’s more important to know that you have an insecure attachment at all than it is to know what exact style you are.
All of this stuff is workable. If that weren’t the case I wouldn’t be here telling people what is wrong for no good reason. This post is meant to provide understanding, but this entire account has info on HOW to heal, as well as my upcoming book Secure Love which is available for pre-order everywhere.
Lastly, we have relationships with ourselves and our own emotions which can be secure or insecure, and we have relationships with our partners which can be secure or insecure. Both matter and they work together. Work on both….how you help yourself in times of need, how you help your partner in times of need, how you communicate with yourself, and how you communicate with your partner. 🪴

16/01/2025

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09/12/2024

So many of us were raised on a diet of shame and punishment. In order to preserve attachment with our caregivers we were forced to hide our sadness and anger as part of self-preservation. Then when our child shows those same emotions, the child in us goes into protection mode— it doesn’t feel safe and we do almost anything to avoid the discomfort that arises.

18/11/2024

🗣️ 💕 Affirmations directed toward others can be very impactful for kids because they help build their self-esteem and confidence. When kids hear positive, affirming statements about their strengths, they start to internalize these messages, developing a healthier self-image. Additionally, affirmations help kids feel recognized and valued, fostering a sense of belonging and emotional safety.

👻 🎃 These positive statements also reinforce social skills and empathy. Hearing affirmations from others can teach kids the power of kind words, encouraging them to use positive language when interacting with peers, which supports stronger relationships and enhances their social development.

18/11/2024

“Stand your sacred ground.” ❤️