21/04/2023
3 common reasons that lead to couple counselling:
Communication breakdown - we don’t feel safe to be vulnerable with our partner
Feeling lonely in the relationship- lacking connection
Constant arguments with no resolution
Tips:
Create a relationship that allows both parties to feel safe.
Both parties through couple counselling can learn all about their partners wounds, core beliefs, attachment styles and personality parts.
Both parties need to work towards acceptance of themselves and their partners default position as a starting point.
That acceptance is critical to creating safety.
Once we feel safe, both parties need to learn new communication skills so each party is taking responsibility for their feelings, thoughts and reactions.
A way to avoid feeling lonely in a relationship is to be able to express your true self to your partner. This relies on self awareness, self reflection and communicating from a position of I and moving away from blame.
Conflict can occur at times in all relationships.
If conflict is seen as an opportunity for growth and learning the partnership transforms into a more connected and meaningful one.
Of course this is not easy to do and requires an ongoing commitment to using a conflict management strategy.
