21/07/2025
👉🏽 Some relationships crumble because they’re built on the unconscious need to resolve unfinished childhood wounds.
The puella aeterna (eternal girl) projects her father onto her partner. The puer aeternus (eternal boy) projects his mother onto his lover.
I wouldn’t be so quick to call this love, but it’s important to reflect on if it’s a younger part of you trying to rewrite your childhood story through someone who just cannot heal it for you. Well because, they aren’t your parent.
I think what I’m trying to get to here with you all is that adult love comes when you integrate the younger parts that are seeking resolution through someone else and step into the sovereign king/queen archetype within you.
That’s the work of shadow integration.
When you face this archetype, you stop looking for someone to complete, fix, save or mother you, and you start leading your life with more depth, clarity, and power. And hey adulting is a life long process to learn.. but I think relationships isn’t a good place to neglect.
👉🏽 If you’re ready to face these patterns and integrate them, to step into real, grounded self leadership and adult love. book a free 20-minute consultation with me or my team to explore Shadow Mastery.
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