12/02/2026
Poignant and for those of us that have doggedly believed in someone’s potential more than they ever had, it can be so hard. But what about your own potential ?
"Have you ever fallen in love with someone else’s potential?
If so, you already know that it’s nothing but a constant string of disappointments.
But it also reveals a bias we can all be susceptible to: the willingness to bypass what the actions of a person are showing us, in exchange for an alternate reality we desperately want (need) to believe is real.
But what happens when that person with great potential happens to be… you?
And what’s at stake when we begin to believe more in our potential than in the proof of our everyday actions?
It's an unhealthy pattern I recently caught myself repeating without realizing it:
I had begun using my potential—my higher self; the human being beyond my mistakes, fears and inhibitions; the person I really think I am deep down—to bypass the person who was showing up here and now in my everyday actions.
It was an eye-opening revelation that left me with a profound realization:
You cannot believe in your potential more than you believe in the person you currently are."
—Jovanny Varela, Excerpt from Gentle Reminder 121: "You Are Not Your Potential: Why believing in 'who you could be' may be keeping you stuck"
I wrote this vulnerably honest piece about the dangers of falling in love with potential—your own.
Read the full piece: https://bit.ly/you-are-not-your-potential
Artwork by Andrzej Kulig