16/10/2022
…but that isn’t a bad thing.
Without getting into the weeds, you had no control over the most pivotal years of your life which played an incredibly formative role even if it’s not explicitly understood right now:
- period of time you were born in
- location you were born in
- the parents who gave birth to you (well, mum but, ya know)
- school you went to
…and many, many more.
Why am I saying this?
I *detest* self help motivational speaking and content. Yep, that’s strong language I know. They aren’t you, they don’t have the same experience, skills or lack thereof or perspective. Many act as if they’ve earned those attributes through willpower alone. Many of those attributes were formed through circumstances they had no control over and human willpower doesn’t last. There’s a situation everyone will crumble in. It’s arrogant of them to assume they can translate their experience (while leveraging your emotions for money) to temporarily motivate you.
Wow, harsh right?
Well, no.
There’s another way. Be introspective. Start asking questions as to why you might do some of the things you do. Seek advice, seek counselling, start looking into your habits, thoughts, emotional reactions and more. Realise that your environment and the people you surround yourself with can really enrich or harm your life.
This isn’t about shirking responsibility but it is about reframing how you approach change. You don’t need to be the “main hero”, we aren’t all super all the time. It also means when you fail to achieve something, fail to get up as early as you wanted, fail to make that food decision, you aren’t really just doomed because you can’t be as good as you want. You’ll never be as good as that photoshopped image.
So, turn to slide two and look at our Cat Thor. He’s got the right idea.
Keep trucking along and don’t give up, but also learn to chill out a little.