Hills Couples Counselling

18/07/2025

Sometimes we forget all the little things that can make a marriage great.

Here are 5 things to practice that may help you towards a healthier and happier relationship.

It's pretty common to think about working on your marriage, but what about practice? Are there areas where practice pays off?

15/07/2025

It can be daunting when you are contemplating leaving your relationship.

Which way do you go? What path do you take? Can you go it alone?

We help you decide what to do with kindness, understanding and empathy.

Moving from couple to solo status isn't always easy.

Discernment Counselling is available with Hills Couples Counselling.

02/07/2025

One morning, you may wake up and just know it's time to get some help for your relationship.

Settling for crumbs is not enough.

You deserve a hearty, rich, and sustaining meal 😋 today, tomorrow, and forever more!

Bring on the relationship smorgasbord.

You deserve more.

13/06/2025

Grief

Often in couples counselling we are working we a sense of grief.

Grief over what was -
Grief over why -
Grief around how we ended up here -

Grief demands its presence to be felt, seen, heard and acknowledged.

When a relationship hits troubled waters, we can lament actions and behaviours, not understanding why things happened. We must take a pause to let grief do its work.

Often, in the process of honouring grief, we find a pathway to redemption, healing, and understanding.

02/06/2025

When in doubt, what do you do?

When in doubt, listen to your soul.

It's older than your heart and wiser than your mind.

You will always find the answer within.

27/05/2025

The old 'when you know, you know'.

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27/05/2025

Good Morning Community

Many clients come into couples counselling not knowing what will happen during their session. It's normal to be feeling quite nervous before your first appointment.

Initial sessions are usually about unpacking your story, gathering details and allowing your therapist to understand what has led you to therapy.

So, what are the benefits of couples counselling?

💜Improved Communication
💜Conflict Management
💜Improve Intimacy
💜Reignite Passion and Romance

These are just a few of the benefits you can expect with counselling.

Like all things in life - maintenance is essential for a happy union.

13/05/2025

❤️ Relationship Tips with Vicki ❤️

Here's a way to apologise from a heart level if you struggle with communication.

🗣 I wish I could have treated you better before........

Not only does this statement open up space for dialogue, it also allows the speaker to be fully accountable for their actions by using an .

12/05/2025

Monday morning vibes.

You’ve got to love- love 💕

26/04/2025

A great visual of how long term contempt, disrespect and conflict will make you feel in your relationships.

There's many aspects that may contribute to relationship breakdowns. One of the most prominent is deconstructing your partner's identity through repetitive character assassination.

This involves finding fault in every action. Expecting your partner to do things in the same manner you do and criticising family members.

The single most important thing you can do in an attempt to start the process of relationship change is to accept that your partner is their own person. This means they may like different foods, music, hobbies, décor, etc.

Embracing the differences in each other is healthy and can be fun!

Who would willingly want their beloved to feel like the attached image?

08/04/2025

Grasping vs. Holding

Grasping is exhausting and robs you of individuality while you try to control everything.

Grasping looks like:
Wanting to be understood by everyone
Wanting to be be liked by others
Needing to be right and prove your point every time

Holding creates harmony and balance as we collaborate with others.

Holding looks like:
Listening with an open mind
Sharing your thoughts and feelings openly and with complete honesty
Showing respect, kindness and being 100% present

Think about your close relationships and how they function.

Are your relationships underpinned with a foundation of grasping or holding?

04/04/2025

Nothing meant to be in your life will require a tight grip.

What a tight grip may look like?

🛑 Trying to control where your partner goes
🛑 Trying to control the company your partner keeps
🛑 Trying to control what your partner eats
🛑 Insisting that your partner have the same beliefs you have
🛑 Believing that children are yours and yours alone
🛑 Abuse, followed by love bombing
🛑 Bombarding your partner with texts, insisting on every detail of their day
🛑 Placing trackers on vehicles
🛑 Installing hidden cameras

If you find yourself hanging onto a relationship with more than healthy concern, it may be time to get professional assistance. Tight Grip relationships always, always result in resentment and resistance.