ShanTherapy

25/05/2025

Miracles aren't always loud.

Sometimes, they whisper.

They arrive in the quiet.

A sense of calm where there used to be anxiety.

An email at the perfect moment.

A conversation that shifts everything.

On a recent call with my coach, we explored miracles - how they show up, how they guide us, and how they can feel like disruptions before they bring clarity.

Miracles can be messy. Letting go of what was, opening up to what could be.

When we look for miracles, we are retraining our brains to see possibility. We loosen the grip of fear and open to flow.

One small practice:
* Notice one miracle each day
* Write it down
* Give thanks

Your brain will look for more. And life will shift in ways you couldn't have planned.

If you're in a moment of change or just want to live from a place of deeper alignment, this could be your next breadcrumb.

If you're feeling the pull toward this kind of work - deeper, softer, more intuitive - maybe that's your next miracle arriving.

And maybe I'm part of it. This is the frequency I work in.

For women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond, who are ready to live more fully, more freely.

You are the miracle. And it's safe to live like it.

Let me be your guide.

25/05/2025

Miracles aren't always loud.

Sometimes, they whisper.

They arrive in the quiet.

A sense of calm where there used to be anxiety.

An email at the perfect moment.

A conversation that shifts everything.

On a recent call with my coach, we explored miracles - how they show up, how they guide us, and how they can feel like disruptions before they bring clarity.

Miracles can be messy. Letting go of what was, opening up to what could be.

When we look for miracles, we are retraining our brains to see possibility. We loosen the grip of fear and open to flow.

One small practice:
* Notice one miracle each day
* Write it down
* Give thanks

Your brain will look for more. And life will shift in ways you couldn't have planned.

If you're in a moment of change or just want to live from a place of deeper alignment, this could be your next breadcrumb.

If you're feeling the pull toward this kind of work - deeper, softer, more intuitive - maybe that's your next miracle arriving.

And maybe I'm part of it. This is the frequency I work in.

For women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond, who are ready to live more fully, more freely.

You are the miracle.

And it's safe to live like it.

Let me be your guide.

14/05/2025

I know how it is…

By anybody’s standards, you’re already successful.

You’ve built a business that’s ticking over beautifully.

Your kids are off living their own lives – and they drop in to see you, not just to raid the fridge or dump their laundry.

You and your partner enjoy each other’s company – weekend brunches, spontaneous dinners, lazy Sunday coffees.

Your friends have your back – the kind who show up without being asked.

Life is good.
And yet…

There’s something.
Something you can’t quite name.

A whisper that comes in the stillness – driving to the shops, folding the washing, lying awake at 3am.

What do I really want – for me?

It’s not that you’re ungrateful. You know how fortunate you are.
But that voice is getting harder to ignore.

It might show up as frustration. Or guilt. Or boredom. Or restlessness.
Sometimes it leaks out sideways – snappy with your partner, withdrawn from your friends, indifferent about work you used to enjoy.

And when you try to talk about it, the words don’t come easily.
It feels vague. A bit indulgent. Like you should just get on with things.

But it’s real.

You might find yourself saying things like:
“I wish I could stop being grumpy with my husband.”
“I don’t know what’s missing – I feel so ungrateful.”
“I don’t know what I’m really asking for, but I know I’m meant to be doing something bigger than this.”

This is exactly where I come in.

I help successful, midlife women who are ready for more.
Not more stuff, more stress or more shoulds.
More freedom. More meaning. More vibrancy. More connection to what truly matters to you.

And it always begins with an enquiry just like this – something small, almost imperceptible, that turns out to be the doorway to something life-changing.

If those quiet questions keep whispering… if you still feel something’s missing… it’s time to explore what’s calling you.

I work with women just like you – capable, accomplished, and quietly yearning for more. Not more on your to-do list. More purpose, more ease, more joy, more you.

Let’s talk.

Book at 20 minute chat with me and we’ll see whether Thriving Woman Blueprint is the right next step for you.

Let’s begin your next chapter.

11/05/2025

Impatient. Nervous. Excited. I checked everything—sound on, camera on. Ready.

A complete stranger had actually bought a program. Someone I didn’t know, who hadn’t been referred by a friend or client.

I’d glanced at my phone after the “ping”- a booking! A name I didn’t recognise.

I danced around the carpark outside Woollies in jubilation, belting out “We are the champions”.

Now, sitting at my computer, about to admit her into my Zoom room, one thought kept looping through my mind: I hope I can help her - and that the internet keeps working.

She was ready. Water, tissues, a quiet, private space. Her story was heartbreaking. We both cried. Her abandonment wounds ran deep, beginning in the womb when her twin died. Her teenaged mother gave her away. Her adopted mother died too young. She was sexually abused by her adopted “uncle”.

So much to heal.

At the end of the session, she said, “I feel so much lighter. I can’t believe how much relief I feel.”

By the time we wrapped up her program four months later, she was a different woman. Her confidence had soared. She’d landed a high-paying role with a company she admired, leading a team she was proud of. She was comfortable leading meetings, assigning projects, and no longer second-guessing herself.

She’d also started a new relationship, and said it felt “different good”. She felt wanted. Valued. A couple of years later, she married him. Now they have a baby.

It’s been a few years since that first “complete stranger” booked into a program. A lot has changed in my business since then. But one thing hasn’t. My love for holding space, listening deeply, and walking alongside someone as they transform their life.

Her story was the first. Since then, I’ve had the privilege of working with hundreds more women, each with their own hurts, hopes and dreams. And every time, I’m reminded how powerful it is when a woman finally chooses herself.

If you’re feeling the stirrings of change… If something inside you whispers, "there’s more for me than this", I’d love to hold space for you too.

Let’s have a chat. Because maybe you're not a stranger. Maybe you're the next woman ready to come home to herself.

11/05/2025

Impatient. Nervous. Excited. I checked everything—sound on, camera on. Ready.

A complete stranger had actually bought a program. Someone I didn’t know, who hadn’t been referred by a friend or client.

I’d glanced at my phone after the “ping”- a booking! A name I didn’t recognise.

I danced around the carpark outside Woollies in jubilation, belting out “We are the champions”.

Now, sitting at my computer, about to admit her into my Zoom room, one thought kept looping through my mind: I hope I can help her - and that the internet keeps working.

She was ready. Water, tissues, a quiet, private space. Her story was heartbreaking. We both cried. Her abandonment wounds ran deep, beginning in the womb when her twin died. Her teenaged mother gave her away. Her adopted mother died too young. She was sexually abused by her adopted “uncle”.

So much to heal.

At the end of the session, she said, “I feel so much lighter. I can’t believe how much relief I feel.”

By the time we wrapped up her program four months later, she was a different woman. Her confidence had soared. She’d landed a high-paying role with a company she admired, leading a team she was proud of. She was comfortable leading meetings, assigning projects, and no longer second-guessing herself.

She’d also started a new relationship, and said it felt “different good”. She felt wanted. Valued. A couple of years later, she married him. Now they have a baby.

It’s been a few years since that first “complete stranger” booked into a program. A lot has changed in my business since then. But one thing hasn’t. My love for holding space, listening deeply, and walking alongside someone as they transform their life.

Her story was the first. Since then, I’ve had the privilege of working with hundreds more women, each with their own hurts, hopes and dreams. And every time, I’m reminded how powerful it is when a woman finally chooses herself.

If you’re feeling the stirrings of change… If something inside you whispers, "there’s more for me than this", I’d love to hold space for you too.

Let’s have a chat. A genuine conversation to see whether Thriving Woman Blueprint might be the support you’ve been looking for.

Because maybe you’re not a “complete stranger” after all. Maybe you’re the next woman ready to come home to herself.

07/05/2025

One of my favourite client comments evver:

"I love this one-sided friendship."

And I knew exactly what she meant.

When you're the one everyone relies on - in business, in life - it's rare to have a space that's just for you.

No pressure. No fixing. No expectations. Just space to speak, think, feel, decide.

That's what transformational coaching gives you.

Not advice. Not pep-talks. Real space for deep change.

This is what high-level, high-capacity women need more than another strategy: a space to breathe, to be real, and to reconnect with what you really want next.

This is your invitation.

07/05/2025

The Power of a “One-Sided Friendship”

A client said to me recently, “I love this one-sided friendship. I get to talk about what’s on my mind, work through things, come up with ideas… you’re great at that.”

It struck me because that’s exactly what I offer – and what high-achieving, big-hearted women often need but rarely get.

When you’re the one holding everything together – the business, the team, the family – there’s not a lot of space for your inner world. Your ideas, your desires, your questions.

Who holds space for you, without interrupting, fixing or needing something in return?

That’s what this client meant.

She knew that I get it – the pressure, the expectations, the complexity of being a woman who wants more. Not just more success, but more meaning. More vitality. More freedom.

When we work together, it’s not a back-and-forth chat like with a mate over coffee.

It’s deliberate. Spacious. Focused entirely on you.

I bring my deep understanding of being a solo business owner, psychology, healing and coaching into the mix – but without taking the stage.

This is your time to hear your own wisdom out loud. To get clarity.

To get brave.

This “one-sided friendship” isn’t like a normal friendship at all – it’s professional, powerful, deeply transformational support. It’s what successful women don’t even realise they’re missing until they get it.

And once they do? They start creating the life they actually want – not the one they’ve outgrown.

If that sounds like something you need, you know where to find me.

05/05/2025

You've ticked the boxes. Career. Family. Responsibility.

But there's still a voice asking, "Is this it?"

It's not just about money.

It's about confidence, creativity, influence and spirituality.

It's about meaning. Alignment. Living fully.

I work with women in their 40's, 50's and beyond, who are ready for more. Not in a surface-level, "tick another box" kind of way. But in a deep, grounded, transformative way that changes everything.

If that's what you're ready for, let's talk.

05/05/2025

It’s not just about the money...

When times are uncertain, money often feels like the obvious thing to focus on. But for many midlife women I work with, that’s only scratching the surface.

We’ve spent years giving, doing, achieving—and now there’s often a quieter voice asking, “Is this it?”

Sure, we still want financial stability. But we also want:

• Confidence – the kind that comes from knowing who you are and standing in it.

• Creativity – to feel alive and inspired again.

• Influence – to make a real difference in our own way.

• Spirituality – to feel connected to something meaningful.

These deeper desires don’t go away just because the world feels uncertain—they become even more important.

That’s where I come in.

I work with women who are ready to stop spinning their wheels and start moving forward, with clarity, courage and conviction. Not just dreaming about the next chapter—but living it.

If this speaks to you, I’d love to hear from you.

29/04/2025

When she first came to see me, she was feeling blocked. Stuck in a loop of anger, guilt, shame and irritation — and beneath that, a deep sadness. Life felt like an act. Like she was just faking it, going through the motions.

She had spent so long putting everyone else’s needs ahead of her own that she didn’t really know how to ask for what she wanted — or even what that was. Underneath all of it was a fear of rejection and judgement, and a belief that she had to keep sacrificing herself in order to be accepted or loved.

But she knew something had to change.

What she wanted was clear — to feel free. To feel enough, worthy, loved and at peace with herself. To find her voice and speak up without guilt. To build relationships — especially the one with herself — based on honesty, not obligation.

So we started untangling the knots.

Early on, she started catching herself in old patterns. Noticing when she was doing something just because she should. We worked with those beliefs — cleared some heavy ones — and brought her back to herself.

One of the simplest shifts was also one of the most powerful: asking, “What do I really want right now?” That one question became a daily touchstone. And it led to all kinds of changes.

Her walks stopped feeling like a punishment and started becoming something she looked forward to. She began letting go of that sense of responsibility for everyone else’s happiness. She began setting boundaries — with love — and asking for what she needed.

The guilt and shame started to lift.

As she softened into self-acceptance, her energy shifted. The harsh inner critic quietened. She gave herself permission to rest, to enjoy, to say “no”, to receive. At a school reunion that she’d been nervous about, she showed up fully as herself — and left feeling proud, light, and free.

The work deepened in her closest relationships. With her husband, she let herself be more vulnerable. She dropped old stories and allowed more honest conversations, without falling into blame or defensiveness. And it created more intimacy, not less.

She also started releasing the need to control everything at home. Trusting others to step up. Giving herself space.

By the end of our time together, she felt more like herself than she had in years. She wasn’t hiding anymore. She was showing up — confident, clear, grounded, and loving. Not just to others, but to herself.

She knew her worth. She knew her needs mattered. She’d let go of the weight of old stories, and stepped into a new chapter with energy and clarity.

And she wasn’t waiting anymore. She was choosing.

That’s what this work does. It’s not just about feeling better — it’s about becoming the woman you were always meant to be.

13/04/2025

Intentional reflection is not a luxury.

It’s a leadership strategy.

The women I work with are highly capable, already successful, and deeply committed to making the most of their next chapter.

But even they find it hard to pause.

They're afraid that slowing down will mean falling behind.

But actually…

The pause is not a break in your progress.

It’s the thing that powers it.

When you work with me, we create structured space to:

• Reflect on what’s working, and what’s not

• Reconnect with your core values and deeper purpose

• Realign your actions with what you really want

• Release the patterns that no longer serve you

This is how you get clarity.

This is how confidence grows.

This is how direction becomes obvious.

If you’re a high-achieving woman ready to move into your next chapter with more clarity, power and self-trust, let’s talk.

This work will change you.

And through you, everything else.

13/04/2025

Imagine you’re taking out someone’s gallbladder and you’re worrying that you’re going to bleed out yourself.

This was part of a conversation with a colleague about perimenopause and the heavy bleeding that can affect a lot of women.

And just imagine you’re in a boardroom, or driving a bus, or any number of other jobs women do, and you’re bleeding heavily, worrying if the tampon, pad, menstrual cup (or combination of these) will last long enough for you to get to a bathroom and change.

This is something many employers never give a thought to.

This is why many women love the flexibility to work from home.

Imagine my delight when I read this post on LinkedIn today, by Aled Nelmes, who is “trialling a 32 hour work week – at any time of day, any time of the week, and from any place – at home, in the office, around the globe.”

Why the change?

“The flexibility that enables entrepreneurs to be high performing shouldn't be limited to them only, 'intrapreneurial' staff should benefit the same.”

I think there should be much more of this, where it’s possible.

With a little bit of lateral thinking, it shouldn’t be too hard for a lot of places to consider working this way.

As Alec Nelmes says, "Work should be a life enhancer, not a life degrader."

Read his article for the whole story:

We're abandoning the 4-day work week 😧 The mental health, output quality and retention benefits we're so good, we're going a step further... 👇 ⭐ The 32 hour work week ⭐ For three months we're trialing a new way of working at Lumen SEO where team members are to work 32 hours...