Lobato Therapy - Family Constellation - Counselling and Hypnotherapy

Lobato Therapy - Family Constellation - Counselling and Hypnotherapy • Systemic Therapy - Overcome Traumas
• Hypnosis Started her professional journey as Co-founder of Milênio Baby preschool in her hometown, Brazil.

Cristiane Lobato, the leadership at Lobato Therapy, has a Bachelor of Psychology and was graduated as a Counsellor, Hypnotherapist and Family Constellation Facilitator. This background gave her an extensive understanding of children's development of family systems and parental coaching. She fell in love with the systemic psychology philosophy and since then she has been supporting her client’s wellbeing, health, happiness and meaning in their lives. The knowledge and comprehension of our emotions is a wonderful tool for our self-development. Follow us if you want to know more about it. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobato_therapy/

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13/02/2026

You don’t remember your birth.

But your body does.

Pressure can turn into hesitation.
Separation can turn into fear of abandonment.
Early experiences can quietly shape how safe life feels.

These patterns aren’t flaws.
They’re imprints.

And imprints can be updated.

If something in you still feels stuck, it may not have started where you think.

If this resonates, save this and reach out to explore it properly.

08/02/2026

Cases of violence rarely occur in isolation.
They follow identifiable patterns.

Violence against animals is widely recognised in psychology and criminology as an early indicator of escalating violent behaviour.
It is not a final act. It is an initial warning sign.

When these signals are ignored, minimised or normalised, the behaviour tends to intensify.
The absence of intervention functions as validation.

Family, social or institutional systems that choose not to act in the face of these warnings are not neutral.
They become part of the process by allowing it to continue.

In these contexts, silence is not passive.
It is a decision with direct consequences.

04/02/2026

This experience reinforced something I live and observe in solo motherhood.

A child isn’t organised by what an adult does, but by how that adult is present.
By rhythm. By presence. By consistency.

When time is lived with real attention, there is no need for compensation.
The bond is sustained through simple things: being together, walking, observing, sharing.

What stays with a child isn’t the destination, nor the effort behind it.
It’s the feeling of being seen, accompanied and safe.

For those who are solo mums, this is an important reminder.
It’s not about holding everything together.
It’s about being present enough for childhood to remain protected.


02/02/2026

Listening to a child speak about an experience is always revealing.
Not because of what they explain, but because of what they notice.

When I ask my son about the trip, he doesn’t talk about places, shopping or theme parks.
He talks about people.
About missing those he loves.
About noticing differences.
About having fun.

That says a lot.

Children experience the world through connection, not through itineraries.
They learn about life through relationships, through the sense of safety they feel, and through the space they have to exist without needing to please or compensate anyone.

From his point of view, “levelling up” has nothing to do with achievement or accumulation.
It’s about play, presence and feeling included.

For me, as a mother and a therapist, this is an important reminder:
growth is not what we show children,
it’s what they are able to feel while walking alongside us.


The Orelha Dog CaseFrom a systemic lens, this case is not just about a dog.It reveals a break in relational order.When a...
28/01/2026

The Orelha Dog Case

From a systemic lens, this case is not just about a dog.
It reveals a break in relational order.

When a being that is weaker, dependent, and entrusted to care is harmed, the system shows a collapse of:
• Belonging (the dog was treated as disposable),
• Responsibility (power without accountability),
• Hierarchy (those with power failed to protect life).

Violence toward an animal often points to uncontained aggression, disconnection from empathy, and unresolved violence within the human system.
When society minimizes it, the system silently authorises repetition.

28/01/2026

I made a mistake in America.
And for a moment, my inner child wanted to go quiet.

When we grow up being criticised for every mistake,
we learn something dangerous
silence feels safer than setting boundaries.

Yes, mistakes happen.
But a mistake is not an invitation to be mistreated.

That moment reminded me of something important
standing up for yourself is not aggression.
It’s self-respect.

So I’ll ask you this
when you make a mistake, what do you do?

Do you accept the consequence
or do you also accept being treated badly?

You can own the mistake
without shrinking yourself.

26/01/2026

Travelling used to mean freedom.
Now it also means responsibility.

Driving on the opposite side, in a place I don’t know, with my child beside me…
Motherhood changed the way I move through the world.
Less impulse. More awareness. More presence.

Silence and breathing are no longer luxuries.
They’re how I stay regulated. How I keep us safe.

I was once fearless.
Now I’m conscious. And that’s not a loss, it’s an evolution.

Our ancestors became more careful because their actions impacted the children.
Motherhood did the same to me.

What are you more conscious about now that impacts a child and the future?

22/01/2026

When we’re children, we don’t always see it.
But when we become parents… everything is revealed.

Now, standing on the other side of the beach, as a mother,
I understand the magnitude of what my parents did for us.

We didn’t travel much.
But every summer we went to a simple, humble holiday house,
two hours away from our city.
And those became some of the best memories of our lives.

Today I see what I couldn’t see back then.
My father working all week
and joining us at the holiday house only on weekends.
The effort. The exhaustion. The choice.

It’s easy to focus on what we didn’t receive.
Harder to pause and recognise
what was given through sacrifice.

Maybe the greatest inheritance wasn’t comfort.
It was presence.
It was effort.
It was love, as it was possible at the time.

And that… is a blessing.

Have you ever looked at your story through these eyes?

21/01/2026

Being a single parent isn’t just emotionally demanding.
It’s systemic. And the body knows.

When one adult carries what was meant to be shared,
the system loses balance.
And the body starts to speak.

Tension. Anxiety. Hypervigilance.
That constant feeling of “I can’t drop the ball.”

Yesterday, after landing, I felt it clearly.
The weight of being the only one responsible.
Guiding. Deciding. Holding everything.

And my body showed it.

If you’re a single parent,
where does the imbalance show up in your body?

Neck? Chest? Gut? Exhaustion that sleep doesn’t fix?

Awareness is not weakness.
It’s the first step to restoring balance.

Tell me.
Your body already knows the answer.

19/01/2026

I wasn’t giving because I was “too good.”
I was giving because I wanted to be loved.
And that changes everything.

As long as I believed I was just being generous,
I couldn’t see the invisible deal underneath it:
“If I give enough, I’ll finally receive.”

That’s not love.
That’s trauma bonding disguised as virtue.

The turning point wasn’t when he changed.
It was when I asked myself, without anesthesia:
“Why do I keep giving to someone who isn’t willing to give back?”

Integrating the shadow is this.
Stopping the pretty story you tell about yourself.
And owning the part that’s still waiting for crumbs.

And you?
Have you been able to free yourself…
or are you still trying to receive from a place where the resource doesn’t exist?

Tell me where you are in this journey.
You don’t have to walk it alone.

18/01/2026

Being here goes beyond individual fulfilment.
From a systemic perspective, no dream is ever lived alone.

Someone before us had to survive so that today we could desire.
When we allow ourselves to live, the system reorganises.

How far do you allow yourself to go beyond what they could?

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