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Counselling With Coaching "Art is a wound turned into light"
- Georges Braque
Jungian Coach, Therapist & Symbolist Artist 🖤

11/01/2026

Animated version of my pen drawing from 2010. I spilt coffee and you can see a bit of the stain 🙃

06/01/2026

I Love You by Ella Wheeler Wilcox🖤

I love your lips when they’re wet with wine
And red with a wild desire;
I love your eyes when the lovelight lies
Lit with a passionate fire.
I love your arms when the warm white flesh
Touches mine in a fond embrace;
I love your hair when the strands enmesh
Your kisses against my face.

Not for me the cold, calm kiss
Of a virgin’s bloodless love;
Not for me the saint’s white bliss,
Nor the heart of a spotless dove.
But give me the love that so freely gives
And laughs at the whole world’s blame,
With your body so young and warm in my arms,
It sets my poor heart aflame.

So kiss me sweet with your warm wet mouth,
Still fragrant with ruby wine,
And say with a fervour born of the South
That your body and soul are mine.
Clasp me close in your warm young arms,
While the pale stars shine above,
And we’ll live our whole young lives away
In the joys of a living love.

New video 🎬 I Love You by Ella Wheeler Wilcox 🖤 I love your lips when they’re wet with wine    And red with a wild desir...
06/01/2026

New video 🎬 I Love You by Ella Wheeler Wilcox 🖤

I love your lips when they’re wet with wine
And red with a wild desire;
I love your eyes when the lovelight lies
Lit with a passionate fire.
I love your arms when the warm white flesh
Touches mine in a fond embrace;
I love your hair when the strands enmesh
Your kisses against my face.

Not for me the cold, calm kiss
Of a virgin’s bloodless love;
Not for me the saint’s white bliss,
Nor the heart of a spotless dove.
But give me the love that so freely gives
And laughs at the whole world’s blame,
With your body so young and warm in my arms,
It sets my poor heart aflame.

So kiss me sweet with your warm wet mouth,
Still fragrant with ruby wine,
And say with a fervour born of the South
That your body and soul are mine.
Clasp me close in your warm young arms,
While the pale stars shine above,
And we’ll live our whole young lives away
In the joys of a living love.

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https://youtu.be/hv_5zz0-zWY?si=uXQ2hE7z2bLngSSr

*I Love You by Ella Wheeler Wilcox*I love your lips when they’re wet with wine And red with a wild desire;I love your eyes when the lovelight lies Lit ...

02/01/2026

🧠 The Cult of the Click: Psychology of Rage-Bait Content Creators and Engagement Farming

Once upon a recent time, the internet aspired to curiosity. One logged on to discover, to learn, to wander. Today, one logs on to brace oneself.

Somewhere between the cooking tutorials and the holiday photos, the digital world has undergone a subtle but profound shift. Attention, once captured by novelty or delight, is now harvested most efficiently through anger. Not mild irritation, mind you, but the hotter emotions: moral outrage, indignation, righteous fury. The internet, it turns out, does not merely reward interest. It rewards arousal.

This is the age of rage-bait.

Rage-bait refers to content designed not to persuade or enlighten, but to provoke. Its purpose is simple: to make you angry enough to respond. Comment. Share. Correct. Argue. The platforms count all of this as success. Anger, in this economy, is not a side effect. It is the product.

The term itself gained official recognition when Oxford University Press crowned it Word of the Year for 2025. But like most cultural ailments, it is older than its diagnosis. As early as 2002, internet users were already describing deliberate provocation on Usenet forums. What has changed is not the impulse, but the infrastructure. Algorithms now function like industrial bellows, fanning small sparks of irritation into infernos of engagement, all in service of advertising revenue.

Central to the production and success of rage-bait content is a specific psychological profile: the content creator characterised by narcissistic traits.

Narcissism is often mistaken for vanity. In fact, it is better understood as a fragile system of self-regulation. Psychologists describe it as a pattern involving inflated self-importance, a relentless hunger for admiration, and a troubling lack of empathy. What appears as confidence is frequently compensation. What looks like arrogance is often armour.

Social media, with its metrics, mirrors, and instant feedback, is uniquely well suited to this psychology. It offers what narcissistic personalities crave most: attention that feels measurable, immediate, and public.

But narcissism is not a single thing. It comes in several varieties, each with its own relationship to outrage.

😎 The Grandiose Narcissist: Status as Sport

Grandiose narcissism is the most familiar form. These individuals are bold, dominant, and unapologetically self-promotional. They experience social life as a hierarchy and assume it is their duty to climb it. According to the Status Pursuit in Narcissism (SPIN) model, every interaction is a contest: someone rises, someone falls.

On platforms like Instagram or TikTok, grandiose narcissists pursue admiration openly. They broadcast success, flaunt confidence, and perform certainty. Rage bait becomes a tool of dominance. Provocation signals fearlessness. Confidence in saying the unsayable becomes proof of superiority. If others are upset, so much the better. It means the message landed.

Criticism is met not with reflection, but with confrontation. Arrogance is not a flaw here. It is the point.

😎 The Vulnerable Narcissist: Wounds on Display

Vulnerable narcissism is quieter and more combustible. It is marked by insecurity, hypersensitivity, and a brittle sense of self-worth. These individuals experience criticism not as feedback, but as injury.

When challenged, they are prone to what psychologists call narcissistic rage: a volatile blend of shame and anger. Rage-bait, for them, is defensive. It externalises distress. By provoking others, they regain a sense of control. Outrage becomes a shield against feeling small.

Their content often centres on grievance, victimhood, or persecution. The audience is cast as hostile, cruel, or ignorant. The creator, perpetually misunderstood.

😎 The Communal Narcissist: Virtue as Theatre

Then there is communal narcissism, perhaps the most socially confusing variant. These individuals seek admiration through moral performance. They see themselves as exceptionally caring, ethical, and enlightened.

Their feeds overflow with causes, call-outs, and outrage on behalf of others. Yet the empathy is often performative. What matters most is not alleviating suffering, but being seen to oppose it. Likes become moral confirmation. Dissent becomes heresy.

Communal narcissists are especially prone to moral outrage. Anger, here, is sanctified. It signals righteousness. To disagree with them is not merely to be wrong, but to be bad.

When Narcissism Meets Its Darker Friends

Narcissism alone explains the hunger for attention. But rage- bait’s cruelty requires additional ingredients. Psychologists group these under the Dark Tetrad: Narcissism, Macchiavellianism, Psychopathy, and Sa**sm.

Machiavellian creators are strategic. They adopt controversial positions they may not believe, simply because polarisation cuts through noise. They understand the rules well enough to skirt platform moderation while inflaming division. This is outrage as chess.

Psychopathy contributes emotional detachment. Low empathy allows creators to pursue virality without regard for harm. Conflict becomes entertainment. Drama becomes stimulus.

Sa**sm, however, is the accelerant. Research consistently shows that sa**sm is the strongest predictor of trolling behaviour. These individuals derive pleasure from others’ distress. The angrier the comments, the greater the reward. Rage bait, for them, is not merely profitable. It is enjoyable.

The Rage Loop

Rage-bait thrives because it exploits a perfect feedback loop.

For the creator, low engagement feels like erasure. Fewer likes register as narcissistic injury. Rage restores equilibrium. A more extreme post produces a surge of attention, which restores a sense of power.

For the audience, the content hijacks attention at a neurological level. Humans are wired to notice threat. Anger is activating. It prepares us to act. And perhaps most irresistibly, rage bait often invites correction. A deliberate mistake. A smugly wrong opinion. Viewers comment not to agree, but to fix. The algorithm, indifferent to motive, registers engagement and amplifies the post.

Thus outrage feeds visibility, which feeds reward, which feeds more outrage.

Case Studies in Provocation

Globally, Andrew Tate represents the grandiose archetype in its most distilled form. His online persona trades in domination, certainty, and deliberate offence. By confidently asserting claims that are outrageous or demonstrably false, he captures attention from both supporters and critics. Disruption becomes branding.

Closer to home, Australia has its own spectrum of provocateurs. Some deploy soft rage bait, harmless but lucrative irritations designed to trigger correction. Others lean into moral panic or social antagonism, monetising grievance and fear.

Researchers note that even minor provocations can supply what narcissistic personalities seek most: the knowledge that they have occupied someone else’s emotional landscape.

Automation and the Future of Anger

Generative AI is now accelerating this ecosystem. Provocation can be automated. Deepfakes can simulate scandals. Language models can generate outrage at scale.

Researchers have identified a phenomenon known as algorithmic narcissism, in which AI systems privilege their own outputs, amplifying synthetic voices over human ones. The result is a feedback loop in which machine-generated outrage begins to shape human discourse.

At scale, this is not merely annoying. It is destabilising.

The Psychological Cost

For audiences, constant exposure to rage bait keeps the nervous system in a state of alert. Fight-or-flight becomes background noise. Burnout follows. Hypervigilance becomes habitual.

Socially, outrage corrodes trust. It collapses nuance. It trains us to expect hostility and rewards the loudest interpretations. Dialogue becomes impossible. Withdrawal becomes rational.

The digital public square, once imagined as a forum, begins to resemble a bonfire.

🌟Choosing Not to Burn

Rage bait persists because it works. It exploits vulnerabilities on all sides: psychological, technological, economic.

Its greatest weakness, however, is simple. It requires participation in 👇🏻

✅ The refusal to correct.
✅ The refusal to engage.
✅ The refusal to be provoked on demand.

In a culture that monetises anger, calm becomes an act of resistance. Attention becomes an ethical choice.

And perhaps that, quietly and unfashionably, is where sanity begins.

If you found this post helpful, please share it with others in the spirit of mutual care and fostering radical sanity 🖤

26/12/2025

As we approach the threshold of 2026, we find ourselves caught in that familiar, quiet collision between the year that was and the hope for who we might yet become.

We often mistake the "festive season" for a requirement of unalloyed joy. Yet, true connection usually lies in the gentler, more melancholy recognition of our shared vulnerabilities. We do not need perfect celebrations; we need the courage to be known in our complexities.

For the Coming Year
May we stop pursuing the mirage of a "perfect life" and instead cultivate the wisdom to appreciate a "sufficiently good" one. In 2026, let us wish for:

The patience to endure our own contradictions.

The insight to see that those who annoy us are usually just in pain.

The resilience to find beauty in the ordinary—a sunny morning, a shared meal, or a moment of honest self-reflection.

May your new year be defined not by grand achievements, but by the small, quiet triumphs of kindness and self-understanding.

Season’s greetings to you all 💕

In life the body can have many holidays, but the spirit has so few. The body's holidays are simple: s*x, sun, beach, sea...
19/10/2025

In life the body can have many holidays, but the spirit has so few. The body's holidays are simple: s*x, sun, beach, sea, sleep. But the spirit's holidays are rarer and are more important than those of the body. The spirit's holiday help the inner distillation, and bring about our true transformation from chrysalis to butterfly, from weakness to wisdom, from saplinghood to strength 🖤

🎨 digital art titled Contemplation

🎬 How do I love thee? (Sonnet 43) by Elizabeth Barrett Browning 1806 –1861 🖤How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.I ...
28/08/2025

🎬 How do I love thee? (Sonnet 43) by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
1806 –1861 🖤

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

https://youtu.be/zCTl52t6Mrc?si=_tZDJ-ZD7Raa-vtU

🎬 *How do I love thee? (Sonnet 43) by Elizabeth Barrett Browning* 1806 –1861How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.I love thee to the depth and breadth a...

Dreaming of Jaguars? 🐾 Here's What Your Subconscious Is Telling YouEver dreamt of a jaguar? This isn't just any dream; i...
09/08/2025

Dreaming of Jaguars? 🐾 Here's What Your Subconscious Is Telling You

Ever dreamt of a jaguar? This isn't just any dream; it’s a powerful message from your subconscious and a symbol with deep cultural roots. For many Indigenous cultures in Central and South America, the jaguar is a spiritual guide, representing the ruler of the night, the underworld, and hidden cosmic mysteries. Dreaming of one could mean you’re embarking on a journey into the unknown or exploring parts of your own psyche.

Psychologically, the jaguar often represents your untapped power and primal instincts. It's the Jungian "shadow self"—the suppressed parts of your personality, both good and bad, that are ready to be integrated. Seeing a jaguar in a dream might be your mind's way of telling you to reconnect with your intuition, embrace your inner strength, and confront your fears head-on.

This magnificent creature symbolizes transformation and rebirth. It’s a sign that you have the courage to overcome challenges and the potential to emerge from a difficult situation stronger than before. Next time a jaguar stalks through your dreams, pay attention—it's an invitation to step into your full power.

🖤 How can we decode dreams where serpents appear frequently? The serpent represents a primal, non rational energy. It ca...
09/07/2025

🖤 How can we decode dreams where serpents appear frequently? The serpent represents a primal, non rational energy. It can be both divine and chthonic.

🎧 The overarching theme of this podcast is the multivalent symbolism and profound psychological significance of the serpent archetype across diverse cultures and throughout history. The lecture emphasises that the serpent, far from being a simple biological entity, functions as a powerful symbol in dreams, myths, religions, and even modern psychology, often representing opposing forces or ideas such as good and evil, life and death, healing and poison. Hannah advocates for a deeper understanding of this archetype, arguing that its persistent appearance in human experience suggests a fundamental psychological truth or connection to the "totally other" within the psyche.

🎧 Content created in a podcast format
📚Source: Excerpts from "The Serpent: Notes on the Biological Background - Barbara Hannah" (🎙️Lecture 2: November 4, 1957)

📚Source: Excerpts from "The Serpent: Notes on the Biological Background - Barbara Hannah" (🎙️Lecture 2: November 4, 1957)✍️ Excerpts from Hannah's lecture ...

🎬New video on A Neurobiological Perspective: The Selfish-Selfless Spectrum 🧠 🌟Source: Psychopathy to Altruism: Neurobiol...
02/07/2025

🎬New video on A Neurobiological Perspective: The Selfish-Selfless Spectrum 🧠

🌟Source: Psychopathy to Altruism: Neurobiology of the Selfish–Selfless Spectrum - James W. H. Sonne1* and Don M. Gash2

✅ Content created in a podcast format

🎧 This scholarly article explores the neurobiology of the selfish-selfless spectrum in human behavior, examining the interplay of genetics and "neuron-based heredity" (social/cultural influences). It contrasts the extremes of criminal psychopathy (marked by emotional dysfunction and reduced empathy) with zealous altruism (characterized by heightened empathy and compassion). The text explains how specific brain regions like the amygdala, prefrontal cortex, and reward systems, along with neurohormones like oxytocin and vasopressin, contribute to these behaviors. Ultimately, the article argues that while genetic predispositions exist, environmental factors and cognitive interventions like mindfulness can significantly influence an individual's position on this spectrum.



🌟Source: Psychopathy to Altruism: Neurobiology of the Selfish–Selfless SpectrumJames W. H. Sonne1* and Don M. Gash21 Department of Health Professions, Unive...

🎬 Check out my new video based on excerpt from"Art, Nature, and Aging: A Shamanic Perspective" by Madeline M. Rugh.🎧 Thi...
22/06/2025

🎬 Check out my new video based on excerpt from
"Art, Nature, and Aging: A Shamanic Perspective" by Madeline M. Rugh.

🎧 This academic excerpt, "Art, Nature, and Aging: A Shamanic Perspective," explores how shamanism offers a holistic view of health that embraces the interconnectedness of all living things. It emphasizes that health extends beyond singular consciousness to include a deeper experience of the universe. The text highlights how art serves as a vital tool in shamanic practice, facilitating connections with nature, ancestors, and helping spirits. Ultimately, the paper suggests that engaging with shamanic principles through artistic expression can provide a profound pathway for healing and a renewed sense of purpose, particularly as one ages.

✅ Content created in a podcast format
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🌟Source: Excerpts from "Art, Nature, and Aging: A Shamanic Perspective" by Madeline M. Rugh.🎧 This academic excerpt, "Art, Nature, and Aging: A Shamanic Pe...

Surrealism & The Mind: What Dalí’s Dreamscape Teaches Us About Perception 🖤The dreamscape of Salvador Dalí's Dream Cause...
01/04/2025

Surrealism & The Mind: What Dalí’s Dreamscape Teaches Us About Perception 🖤

The dreamscape of Salvador Dalí's Dream Caused by the Flight of a Bee Around a Pomegranate, One Second Before Awakening (1944) represents how a typical dream sequence is manifested a second before the dreamer is awakened from her sleep.

A woman floats, naked and weightless, above a barren, ill-defined ground, her body exposed and defenceless. A bayonet rises toward her flesh, the moment of impact frozen. Nearby, a pomegranate splits open, a fish leaps, and out of its mouth, two tigers burst forth in mid-snarl, a violent eruption from the depths of the dream world. Above them all, an elephant on impossibly spindly legs strides across a limitless void, its body bearing the weight of obelisks, symbols of empire and dominance. It is a moment suspended between terror and awakening, the mind's final attempt to rationalise chaos before it is pulled back into wakefulness.

Dalí called his approach to painting the "paranoiac-critical method," a technique designed to render dream states with the crispness of waking reality. It was not merely a method of representation but of perception—a self-induced state of paranoia in which the artist could wilfully see connections between unrelated images, collapsing the distinction between reality and hallucination. Dalí's images are not random; they are engineered accidents, carefully selected elements from the real world subjected to the distortions of the subconscious. In Dream Caused by the Flight of a Bee, a mundane sound—a bee buzzing too close to the sleeper’s ear—becomes a complex, multi-layered hallucination that spirals outward, turning the moment of disturbance into an elaborate visual metaphor for violence, fear, and the inevitable rupture between sleep and waking.

One way to understand Dalí's paranoiac-critical method is through his concept of "double images"—the ability of a single object to be perceived as multiple things simultaneously. This is present in the pomegranate, which is both an ordinary fruit and a vessel of transformation, a portal through which the fish and tigers emerge. The fish’s gaping mouth is an echo of the woman's vulnerability, the tigers a manifestation of the latent aggression within the dream. The tigers also represent the dream manifestation of the yellow and black striped bee. The bayonet, poised at the woman’s arm, is an almost clinical symbol of pain—a sharp, surgical disruption at the precise moment before consciousness returns. The entire image exists in a threshold space, a liminal moment stretched to the breaking point.

Dalí’s fascination with Freud and the workings of the unconscious is evident in this piece, in which the mechanisms of dream interpretation play out visually. The elements of the painting function like dream symbols—layered, shifting, infused with latent meaning. The bee’s sting, translated into the violent threat of the bayonet, recalls Freud’s theory of dream condensation, in which multiple ideas coalesce into a singular image. The floating woman, identified as Gala, Dalí’s wife and muse, is both a personal figure and a universal symbol—the exposed dreamer caught in the web of her own subconscious associations.

Through the paranoiac-critical method, Dalí does not merely depict a dream but enacts the process of dreaming itself. Dream Caused by the Flight of a Bee is not just a representation of an imagined moment but a map of the mind’s ability to shape, distort, and reinvent experience. It is a dream that both invites and resists interpretation, a glimpse into the mind’s own capacity for surreal invention, poised always on the precipice of waking.

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