05/10/2025
Toddler Eating
Toddler eating is variable and unpredictable. It can often cause stress at mealtimes. BUT it is okay, in fact quite expected for toddlers to eat different amounts of food each time it is served.
Alyssa took photos of five nights of dinner meals she served to her (at the time) 2 year old and this is what she decided she wanted to eat. Some of the nights she clearly ate more than others. On the nights there wasn’t much eaten it could have been easy to ask her to try one more bite or even make something else she might eat more of, but Alyssa chose to let her listen to her body and respected her choice to finish the meal when she did. This is the start of teaching her toddler to eat when she is hungry and stop when she is full.
One way that helped Alyssa with letting go of this stress was thinking about the intake across the whole day instead of that individual meal. On reflection she had eaten significantly more at other times during the day.
Some of the reasons why there is such variability in toddler’s intake from meal to meal include:
- Periods of rapid growth and development where at times they may seem ravenous and at other times it feels like they are surviving off air.
- Development of sensory food preferences.
- Increasing sense of independence and seeking more control in their day.
- Food Neophobia - a common developmental phase where there is a perceived fear of trying new foods, and a want to stick with what they know.
- Desire for consistency and routine.
- Familial modelling- what the toddler sees, and how they perceive their safe people’s relationship with food.
It is important to approach toddler eating with patience and flexibility, however if you are finding your toddlers intake is consistently low, the number of foods they eat is very small, there are consistent stressors every mealtime or you are struggling with mealtimes altogether a medical review by a GP or paediatrician; or a consult with an allied health feeding professional may be warranted.