
23/07/2024
If you don't like saying NO to others, start saying YES to you.
From the moment we are born, we are conditioned to 'be nice', yes sir, no sir 3, bags full sir, and with every agreeable response we give, an underlying resentment starts to brew.
There is a vast difference between superficial niceness and authentic love. Society conditions us to always be agreeable, by meeting others' expectations and forgoing our own, this will lead to resentment no matter how much you think you are doing it out of love or because you think you consider yourself a nice person. You are a nice person because you are getting validated by others, and losing yourself in the process. You can not be whole if you keep giving pieces of yourself to others.
What we should learn is to accept and recognize that our true nature is love, which begins with self-awareness and self-care.
True love involves acknowledging and understanding our own needs and desires, and setting boundaries. This isn’t selfish; it’s our responsibility. By doing so, we can fully express our unique selves and contribute authentically to the world.