02/04/2026
Post-separation abuse is real.
Sometimes the control doesn’t end when the relationship ends — it just moves into emails, calendars, court orders, and children.
This is not always “high conflict” — sometimes it is one person continuing a pattern of control through the system.
In these situations, parallel parenting can be a protective strategy: limited written communication, strict schedules, clear boundaries, and each parent running their own household.
Not all abuse is loud. Some of it is administrative, persistent, and invisible to everyone except the person living it.
