17/10/2025
This week I have had a couple of clients chat with me about fear.
The fear of leaving.
For both of them, leaving their jobs, or not leaving them, or not just yet, or what’s the best way?
These are really hard decisions to make, and a very important thing to realise when we face a choice of such magnitude is that it doesn’t really matter what you choose.
It doesn’t really matter which path you take.
The best way, is the way that you choose.
When we choose, we start to move energy. We might realise we don’t want to quit yet. Great! Get back in there!
We might realise the things we are really afraid of - not being supported is usually the crux in one of many forms - people will think I’m an idiot, I’ll run out of money, I’m a loser if I don’t have a job…. and so on
Who or what are you trying to please or appease??
Fear = Future Expectations Appearing Real
Cute, sure, but also pretty true a lot of the time (tigers in the grass excepted).
You’ve got yourself this far. You have supported yourself this far (even if it was messy), and your support of yourself is the key - making a choice turns that key, so to speak.
one path will be longer
one will be shorter
one choice will be easier
one will be more harrowing.
one will bring more ease
one more challenge
and it may not be in the obvious ways, or the ways you expect. What looks good or easy up front may not pan out the way you expect or hope. That means time for new choices!
And you wont know until you make a choice and take a step.
Stay in the job/relationship/city that is killing you slowly (or at any speed…) as it bleeds your soul dry.
At some point something will happen - you will get fired, the company will collapse, the economy will fry, your body will manifest disease - migraine, flu, metabolic issues, cancer, the list goes one when cortisol is driving you.
If you are like Nat you will break your ankle to get out of selling insurance, if you are like me you will fire yourself (yes, I have done that)...
more below or
read on in my latest blog
https://www.briellenmcalpine.com/blog/2025/10/17/the-other-side-of-fear