Hopeplus Counselling

02/03/2025

Too much noise! Silence is golden.

30/12/2024

May your 2025 be filled with these people.
Happy New Year!

24/12/2024

May you and yours be surprised by joy this Christmas!

09/12/2024

02/12/2024

Quiet your mind and retool your relationship with yourself.

17/11/2024

You have to prioritize yourself first in relationships, work, and life. If you’re constantly giving without replenishing your own energy, you will burn out! Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It’s essential. Make time to rest, recharge, and refocus on your own well-being.

What’s one thing you can do today to fill your cup?

16/11/2024

Quite often it’s “our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world that keep us stuck, not the events themselves”. Albert Ellis, Ph.D.

Secrecy can lead to shame and make it harder to heal.

10/11/2024

04/11/2024

My research and my life have taught me that regret is one of our most powerful emotional reminders that reflection, change, and growth are necessary. In our research, regret emerged as a function of empathy. And, when used constructively, it’s a call to courage and a path toward wisdom.

One of the most powerful lines about regret comes from George Saunders’s 2013 commencement address at Syracuse University.

Saunders talked about how when he was a child, a young girl was teased at his school and, although he didn’t tease her and even defended her a little, he still thought about it. He said:

“So here’s something I know to be true, although it’s a little corny, and I don’t quite know what to do with it: What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness. Those moments when another human being was there, in front of me, suffering, and I responded . . . sensibly. Reservedly. Mildly.”

The idea that regret is a fair but tough teacher can really p**s people off. “No regrets” has become synonymous with daring and adventure, but I disagree. The idea of “no regrets” doesn’t mean living with courage, it means living without reflection. To live without regret is to believe we have nothing to learn, no amends to make, and no opportunity to be braver with our lives.

In our work, we find that what we regret most are our failures of courage, whether it’s the courage to be kinder, to show up, to say how we feel, to set boundaries, to be good to ourselves, to say yes to something scary. Regret has taught me that living outside my values is not tenable for me.

Regrets about not taking chances have made me braver. Regrets about shaming or blaming people I care about have made me more thoughtful.

Sometimes the most uncomfortable learning is the most powerful.

Daniel Pink

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04/10/2024

5 steps to stay on track during confrontation.

28/09/2024

Struggling to connect with people? This might be for you.

Discover how mastering your emotional tone can transform relationships and boost success. Learn practical tips to convey support and engage positively with others.