24/09/2022
This is everything Lets Talk Birth 💕🙌🏻
Women often share with me that either themselves or their partners are worried about inviting a doula into their space. That maybe the role they want their partner to fill will be overshadowed by a doula.
In my experience that isnt the case, prenatally i love working with families and guiding dads to learn techniques to support their labouring partners in birth. We talk in depth about what role they want to play, I adore watching dads step up in birth and really care deeply for their significant other! There are moments where a shared glance or a nod from across the room is felt deeply, a familiar face in the birth room, a trusted friend and professional to turn to.
A doula is not a replacement for a father or birth partner, but rather, complimentary. Birth partners are equally as emotionally invested in in the process of birth as you are yourself. Labour can be turbulent and emotional for your birth partner – it is never easy seeing someone you love in pain. A doula applies her wealth of knowledge and experience in the natural process of birth to provide neutral and practical support to everyone.
“In suggesting the support of a doula, our intent is not to diminish the father’s role but to enhance it, to free him up to stand by the mother. With the doula present, the father is never left as the sole, isolated, responsible person caring for the labouring mother. This vital ingredient – the support of an experienced woman – has been lost in modern obstetrical care.” (Klaus et al., 2012)
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