10/09/2025
Thursday 11th of September is R U Ok? Day but we know that whether it’s a friend, family member, partner, or colleague, the people around us go through life’s ups and downs every day. That’s why it’s important to check in with the people around you.
This R U OK? Day challenge yourself to have a meaningful conversation with someone you feel may be struggling and in need of support. Try having a conversation using these 4 simple steps:
1. Ask R U Ok? - It’s important to be relaxed, friendly and concerned in your approach.
Help them open up by asking questions like ‘How are you going? or “What’s been happening?” mentioning specific things you have noticed that make you feel concerned for them, like “You seem less chatty than usual, how are you going?”
If they don’t want to talk to you, don’t criticise them, instead tell them you are concerned about changes in their behaviour and you care about them. Expressing your concern without being confrontational is important.
2. Listen with an open mind - Make sure you take what they are saying seriously, don’t interrupt of rush though the conversations. Do not judge their experiences or reactions but acknowledge that things seem tough for them. Allow time for them to think, sit patiently with the silence.
Encourage them to explain “How are you feeling about that?” or “How long have you felt that way?” Show that you’ve listened by repeating back what you’ve heard in your own words and ask if you have understood them properly.
3. Encourage action - Using prompting questions can encourage actions; Try asking questions like; “What have you done in the past to manage similar situations?”, “How would you like me to support you?” and “What’s something you can do for yourself right now? Something that’s enjoyable or relaxing?”
If they have been feeling really down for more than 2 weeks, encourage them to see a health professional. Be positive about the role of professionals in getting through tough times.
4. Check In - Pop a reminder in your diary to call them in a couple of weeks. If they are really struggling, follow up with them sooner. Using statements like “I’ve being thinking of you and wanted to know how you’ve been since we last chatted” allows for them to open up about how they are feeling.
For more information about R U OK? Day and how to best check in with your loved ones, visit https://www.ruok.org.au/