02/08/2025
🧠 Your Calm Helps Your Child Calm
When your child is overwhelmed, you might feel pressure to fix it or “say the right thing.” But often, the most powerful support you can offer… is simply your calm.
🧡 Children “borrow” our nervous system. That means when you regulate yourself, slow your breathing, soften your tone, lower your body to their level, you are actually helping your child’s brain feel safe.
This is called co-regulation: calming with your child, not for them or at them.
But here is the catch: it starts with you.
🌿 Before you respond to your child’s big feelings:
Take 3 slow, deep breaths
Feel your feet grounded on the floor
Speak slowly and gently.
Even if your child cannot put their feelings into words yet, your calm presence sends a powerful message:
✨ “You are safe. I am here. We will get through this together.”
You do not need to be perfect. You just need to show up: grounded, gentle, and connected.
Because the more often your child borrows your calm, the more they learn to find their own.
