Deep Listening - Relationship & Couples Counselling

14/03/2026

“pleasure is one of the most important felt states to support our well-being. We must understand how to generate and be in and accept and tolerate even greater levels of pleasure.”
Dr. Saida Desilets

What does this look like?
Making life choices to feel better in our bodies ie. healthier
Enjoying small moments pleasure (such as the feeling, taste and glow of sunshine)
Softening the belly with breath. Bringing the mind to a sweet memories…

We receive pleasure by allowing connection to life to have impact.
It is a shift in attention ….
rather than allowing the body-mind to fixate on what’s wrong, can you notice the beauty around you, in small detail.
Pleasure asks you to practice treating yourself with kindness, with soft caresses.
So that later, when you choose to share pleasure with another, it’s less about them, and more about staying with yourself.

11/03/2026

The last 4 weeks have been inspiring and full…. Here are some highlights. Feel free to look up my website for retreat info and session booking www.samadeeplistening.com

05/03/2026

I was featured recently the « beyond patriarchal sex » podcast.
Interesting title right?
It is a thoughtful and provocative podcast hosted by friend & muse who has been supporting women and men in the field of embodiment for decades.
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In this particular episode we chatted about relationships and the unconscious ways we may be impacted or influenced by patriarchal thinking. It is an invitation towards an evolution of love and collaboration between men and women in relationship. Follow her work and check out the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify by following the link 🔗 in

03/03/2026

What’s the easiest way to build connection in relationship ?

Focus on offering little moments of appreciation.
This is a practice.
Look for and give voice to the things that you appreciate, instead of focusing on the things that drive you nuts.
Sounds easy right?
Yet somehow it’s not.

This is a reciprocal practice because it asks you to also refine your ability to be receptive to offerings of appreciation, simply opening yourself to receive the gestures of connection from your partner.
Not to push them away and again find fault in the ways they are leaning in.

18/02/2026

16/02/2026

Personalised support for you in working through core relational challenges, issues and growth edges. There are things that we are collectively dealing in our relationships, yet each of us has a unique experience based on twists and turns on this wild journey et of life. Counselling sessions can be done as a one-off or as part of ongoing blocks. Book directly via website in Bio.

14/02/2026

Counselling is not just for times of crises, it is for actively nurturing fulfilling, evolving relationships. Counselling can help you build capacity - so you can stay present with another person even though your first impulse may be run or fight when there is any sort of disagreement. Counselling offers a space where you can learn how to ask for what you want and need, in a way that is more likely to be received well. "Love is an action even more than a feeling… it requires intention and attention " (Gottman) Decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness are often the cause of separations, not conflict per se. Counselling can support couples and individuals to understand themselves and each other more # loveandintimacy

05/02/2026

Building relational health through the ACTIVE practices - for the mind and body, creating more space, creating rest, receiving nourishment, taking rest. I specialise in offering personalised support in this area, because while it sounds easy, it’s not! Buch it’s rich work, and so fulfilling. counselling

23/01/2026

Being in love is a beautiful and sometimes overwhelming experience. And yet do you wonder why the honeymoon phase ends? Or if that is normal? Or if things should just magically stay in that same glow of love? 💕 Become a master gardener, the work of relationships can be joyful, yet requires careful tending.

14/01/2026

Remember to be kind to yourself. We are all perfectly and humanly imperfect. 
And intimacy is all about how we manage the collision of our imperfections.
Sometimes there is tension and other times harmony. All close relationships move in and out of phases of connection and disconnection. But disconnection hurts, and when we feel hurt we tend to go into self-protection mode. It’s not easy thing to learn how to come back together after those moments of disconnection.
The essential work of counselling is about bringing greater awareness to how we act when we are hurt and learning to manage conflict with greater integrity.

31/10/2025

Beautiful testimonial from clients who came to do a couples therapeutic retreat with me a couple months ago. I love seeing people meet their edge by just showing up to a personalised retreat like this. I see so much growth in a short amount of time when people say yes to the deeper self inquiry. Nature does most of the work here at near Uki. So grateful for the opportunity to support others on this special land. DM me for information about these retreats.

23/10/2025

I studied somatics with Dr Scott Lyons a few years back, as part of his Somatic Stress Release courses and Embodied Flow yoga trainings. I love the way he articulates what can happen as we start to go deeper into relationship. This is normal, but a lot of people bail as soon as things start to feel even a little uncomfortable. Do you notice a protectiveness or defensiveness that arises when intimacy goes deeper? There is so much opportunity to learn about ourselves through relationship. Often having a counsellor or therapist to support you through this inquiry is super valuable!