Deep Listening - Relationship & Couples Counselling

21/05/2026

Safety and desire are both necessary in intimacy, yet there is a paradox to them coexisting in intimate relationships. What do you think? Thoughts inspired here via Ether Perel.

14/05/2026

“One day you will look back and see that all along you were blooming” - Morgan Harper Nicholas.
Let us recognize the growth, resilience and beauty in life’s journey, even through challenging and uncertain times. We are stretching, strengthening, persevering, building, blooming……..trust the process and keep your face lifted to the light 💎💎💎

05/05/2026

Just showing up is the first step to transformation and growth. Even though there are things that seem to get in the way of us committing to regular counseling sessions - money, time, resistance - if you really want to see change, committing to something regularly (even if it’s every month) encourages accountability and growth. Message me if you want to discuss. I work with couples and individuals online and in Byron and Bangalow (Northern NSW Australia) couplestherapy

02/05/2026

This is my counselling space in Bangalow. It has a warm and light energy, a space that can hold and support all sorts of conversations and work. Last week I supported a couple in talk about their intention to come back together in deeper connections after years of managing grief. Last week I supported two people in the early stages of their separation after many years married. Tears and smiles, grief and praise, love and heartbreak. We are beautifully complex humans, and there can be important value in receiving support to navigate the deep waters of life.

18/04/2026

When we experience rejection or hurt, we tend to go into some form of self protection. Sometimes that protection looks like hurting back, other times it gets internalised and we end up sinking into patterns of self harm. This is the stuff we get curious about out in counselling…. With compassion and kindness. Appreciated this conversation by

16/04/2026

All intimate relationships ask for active tending to desire and erotic energy. This is all about how we engage with life and with each other, it’s not just about what we call « sex ». This is some of the work I do with couples and individuals in counselling sessions .

14/03/2026

“pleasure is one of the most important felt states to support our well-being. We must understand how to generate and be in and accept and tolerate even greater levels of pleasure.”
Dr. Saida Desilets

What does this look like?
Making life choices to feel better in our bodies ie. healthier
Enjoying small moments pleasure (such as the feeling, taste and glow of sunshine)
Softening the belly with breath. Bringing the mind to a sweet memories…

We receive pleasure by allowing connection to life to have impact.
It is a shift in attention ….
rather than allowing the body-mind to fixate on what’s wrong, can you notice the beauty around you, in small detail.
Pleasure asks you to practice treating yourself with kindness, with soft caresses.
So that later, when you choose to share pleasure with another, it’s less about them, and more about staying with yourself.

11/03/2026

The last 4 weeks have been inspiring and full…. Here are some highlights. Feel free to look up my website for retreat info and session booking www.samadeeplistening.com

05/03/2026

I was featured recently the « beyond patriarchal sex » podcast.
Interesting title right?
It is a thoughtful and provocative podcast hosted by friend & muse who has been supporting women and men in the field of embodiment for decades.
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In this particular episode we chatted about relationships and the unconscious ways we may be impacted or influenced by patriarchal thinking. It is an invitation towards an evolution of love and collaboration between men and women in relationship. Follow her work and check out the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify by following the link 🔗 in

03/03/2026

What’s the easiest way to build connection in relationship ?

Focus on offering little moments of appreciation.
This is a practice.
Look for and give voice to the things that you appreciate, instead of focusing on the things that drive you nuts.
Sounds easy right?
Yet somehow it’s not.

This is a reciprocal practice because it asks you to also refine your ability to be receptive to offerings of appreciation, simply opening yourself to receive the gestures of connection from your partner.
Not to push them away and again find fault in the ways they are leaning in.

18/02/2026