15/05/2022
This is a really good one. 💕
So often over the years I have heard people say “they are just attention seeking, ignore them”. But when did “attention seeking” become a “bad” thing? Yes, children often seem to choose the most annoying ways to seek our attention, but the need for attention isn’t bad. The need for attention is the most normal and natural thing for a child to do. Gaining attention and attaching to an adult is a primal instinct and yet when a child does this in an unfavourable way we ignore it. The problem is, ignoring a child’s “attention seeking” behaviour doesn’t stop their need. In fact ignoring a child’s need for attention usually means that they will become more desperate for attention and the behaviour will escalate. They will do what they need to until they get the attention they are looking for. This isn’t always positive attention, but it is still attention.
More information on my blog:
https://www.thetherapistparent.com/post/attention-seeking-should-not-be-ignored
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