RG Psychology

05/01/2026

If your goals don’t mean anything to you… they won’t last.

Most people set goals like:
“Be less stressed.”
“Lose weight.”
“Be more organised.”
“Be a better mum.”

But goals like that often come from pressure — not values.
And pressure-based goals tend to trigger:
• perfectionism
• avoidance
• guilt
• burnout

A values-based goal is different.
It starts with: How do I want to show up?

Instead of:
“I need to do more.”
Try:
“I want to live with more calm / connection / steadiness.”

Then ask:
➡️ What’s one small action that honours that value this week?
Because values give you direction… even when motiv

🚧Remember that social media is not therapy, if this
resonates or feels particularly sticky for you, it may be
a good sign to speak with your GP. They can guide you
towards appropriate support services. Psychological
therapy is one of many supports that may be helpful to
explore ⚠ But always call 000 if it's an emergency.
You do not have to tough it out alone!

🛋 I am accepting new client enquires for Feb & March
start.

02/01/2026

If “just try harder” worked, you’d already be there.

-Burnout isn’t a motivation problem.
-It’s a capacity problem.

-When your nervous system is already overloaded, pushing harder doesn’t create change — it creates shutdown, avoidance, and guilt.
Real, sustainable goals:
• fit the season you’re in
• respect how tired you actually are
• work with your nervous system, not against it
Gentle goals aren’t lower standards.
They’re smarter ones.

If this made you exhale, save it.
And if goal setting keeps ending in guilt, you don’t have to figure this out alone 🤍

🚧Remember that social media is not therapy, if this resonates or feels particularly sticky for you, it may be a good sign to speak with your GP. They can guide you towards appropriate support services. Psychological therapy is one of many supports that may be helpful to explore ⚠ But always call 000 if it's an emergency. You do not have to tough it out alone!

🛋 I am accepting new client enquires for Feb & March start.

21/12/2025

That's a wrap 2025💛 What a year ✨

This year held all the things so many rural women know well…
🌾 juggling farm dramas, supporting our farmer & everything that comes with epilepsy..
👶 holding space for little people (their big feelings, the events, the routine & trying to remember everything)
🚜 work boots one day, heels the next there was plenty of sparkle
🤍 community, events, conversations and change 🌱
🐎 finding moments to recharge

From paddocks and chainsaws (Don't worry I leave the work to the blokes for this one - but its worth the giggle), to conferences, women’s events and long conversations about mental load, burnout, motherhood and identity – this year has been a reminder of how much we carry, often quietly & alone.

If you’re reading this while balancing kids, work, stock, final Christmas prep, weather, relationships and your own wellbeing – I see you. You’re not doing it wrong. It’s just a lot.

Thank you for trusting me into your world this year through sessions, workshops, messages and shared stories. Supporting rural women and mothers across Australia via telehealth continues to be such a privilege.

As we head into a new year, my hope is that you find space for rest alongside the responsibility, and support alongside the strength.

Here’s to fewer shoulds, more compassion, and remembering you matter too 🤍
— Bec
Clinical Psychologist for rural women

14/10/2025

✨ Trusting the process ✨

Four years ago, I was drowning in the silence — a premmie newborn in my arms after birthing on a plane, miles from support, surviving hour by hour in the thick of rural motherhood.

I fought to be heard.
I pushed for help.
And I grieved the life I’d known — my health, my work, my freedom, my friends — all of it feeling impossibly far away.

But every time I felt myself slipping, I came back to what I preach every day:
💭 Regulate first.
🌱 Check alignment with my values — especially when doubt crept in or others shook my tree.
💞 Nurture relationships that reflect those same values.

Not every day was pretty — some were a total dumpster fire 🔥 — but consistency and values-based action got me here.

Yes, there’s been loss. There have been some fairly hefty boundaries and fiery conversations.
But today?
🐎I get to fill my cup in the most meaningful ways, do work that lights my fire, and be surrounded by people who genuinely align with my values.

Trusting the process isn’t about perfection — it’s about direction. 🌾

29/09/2025

25/09/2025

✨ “3 miles north of Patterson, NSW” ✨
That’s the note the pilot handed me after I delivered my first baby strapped to a gurney on a NSW Ambulance plane. Equal parts terrifying, hilarious… and (according to my friends) pretty standard Bec.

Next week I’ll be in Ballarat for Rural Women's Day 🌾
I’ll be sharing this story along with simple, practical tools for rural mums and women feeling stretched thin:
💡 how our brains flip into fight/flight
💡 why “good enough” really is enough
💡 strategies to move from overwhelm to calm

💃If you’re coming along — I can’t wait to see you there!

22/09/2025

✨ GOOD ENOUGH MUM ✨
Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I’m not doing enough”?
The truth is — motherhood isn’t about perfection. Research consistently shows that being a “good enough” mum supports healthy, resilient children. Here are three evidence-based reminders for when self-doubt creeps in:

💡 Remember:
👉 Practice self-compassion — speaking kindly to yourself helps ease guilt and shame. (Neff, 2003)
👉 Focus on connection, not perfection — secure attachment comes from warmth, repair, and being present most of the time, not from never making mistakes. (Winnicott, 1960)
👉 Anchor in your values — focusing on what matters most to you as a mum is protective against comparison and burnout. (Hayes et al., 2011)
🌾 As a psychologist supporting rural women, I want to remind you: your child doesn’t need a perfect mum — just a safe, responsive, loving one. And that’s something you already are.

💬 I’d love to know — which of these reminders lands most strongly with you today?

✨ Save this post for the next time you feel like you’re not enough.

🔥 And remember — socials aren’t therapy. If you’re struggling, reaching out to your GP is the best first step, or present to your nearest emergency department if you’re in crisis.



References:
Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85–101. https://doi.org/10.1080/15298860309032
Winnicott, D. W. (1960). The theory of the parent-infant relationship. International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 41, 585–595.
Hayes, S. C., Strosahl, K. D., & Wilson, K. G. (2011). Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Process and Practice of Mindful Change (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

19/09/2025

✨ MENTAL WELLBEING CHECK-IN ✨

When was the last time you paused to take stock of your own mental wellbeing?
Sometimes the early signs of slipping into poor mental health are subtle:
💤 Feeling more fatigued
🍴 Appetite changes
🤯 Struggling to make decisions
🚫 Canceling plans more often
🌪️ Feeling overwhelmed

And often, the pillars of wellbeing can quietly slip too:
👉 Sleep
👉 Regular balanced meals
👉 Hydration
👉 Movement
👉 Social connection

🌾 As a psychologist supporting rural women, I know these foundations can’t always be perfect. But checking in on them can give us a realistic picture of our capacity to cope — and remind us of where to gently bring back balance.

💬 I’d love to know — which of these wellbeing pillars feels hardest to maintain for you right now? Drop it in the comments — you might find you’re not alone.

✨ Save this post as a reminder to check in with yourself next time life feels overwhelming.

🔥 And remember — socials aren’t therapy. If you’re struggling, reach out to your GP, and if you’re in crisis, please present to your nearest emergency department.

18/09/2025

✨ SLOW DOWN ✨
Do you ever notice that the faster you rush, the more stressed, clumsy or overwhelmed you feel? The truth is — pushing harder doesn’t always make us more productive.

💥🧠💥When we’re in survival mode (hello, hijacked limbic system 👋), mistakes multiply, tension builds, and we end up drained rather than efficient.

💡 Remember:
👉 rushing rarely helps
👉 stress hijacks our thinking
👉 simple breathing practice (box breathing) can calm your system in the moment
👉 slowing down actually saves time

🌾 As a psychologist supporting rural women, I know how easy it is to get caught in the “go, go, go” cycle... But pausing, grounding, and regulating isn’t indulgent — it’s essential.

💬 I’d love to know — do you find yourself rushing more when you’re stressed? What helps you slow down? Share in the comments so others can learn too.

✨ Save this post for the next time you feel yourself in overdrive.

🔥But remember socials are not therapy. Speaking with your GP is the best first stop - or presenting to your nearest emergency department if you are extremely overwhelmed.

04/09/2025

🧠Asking for help in grief.

⭕Why not try 'the ring of support- Start in the middle with the people closest to the loss. Then draw bigger circles around each time adding people who are the next step away from the loss.

👉Offer people closer to the loss your support, then ask for support from those further from the loss.

💬 Rebecca helps rural women and mums navigating the waves of grief through the loss of a loved one with practical, compassionate tools.

👉Need a free call from our team to chat about how Rebecca can support you, or how to access a Medicare rebate with an eligible referral? Fill in our New Contact Form on the website.

💥Rebember that social media is not therapy. If any of this information resonates, or is distressing the best place to go is your GP - or emergency department in moments of high distress!