29/11/2025
🫀✨ The Lymphatic System of a Griever — 10/30
“When Missing Someone Becomes a Physical Ache”
There is a kind of longing that doesn’t just sit in the heart —
it lodges itself in the body.
When someone you love passes away, the missing doesn’t disappear into the air.
It roots itself in your chest, curls into your breath, and settles inside your tissues like unsaid words and unfinished stories.
Longing is not soft.
Longing is pressure.
It tightens your throat, lives behind your sternum, and wraps around your ribcage like a memory you can’t un-remember.
Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget.
And the lymphatic system — silent, sensitive, honest — feels it first.
🧠 Trauma Replay & the Body’s Memory
When grief resurfaces — a song, a date, a smell, a quiet moment —
your nervous system replays the old scene like a film stuck on repeat.
Your breath shortens.
Your shoulders rise.
Your chest tightens.
And inside, your lymph vessels react.
They constrict.
They slow.
They hold.
Not because they’re weak —
but because your body is trying to protect you from drowning in the emotion.
Trauma replay is not imagination.
It’s your physiology reliving the moment your world cracked open.
💧 What Longing Does Inside Your Body
Missing someone isn’t just emotional.
Longing activates the same pathways as physical pain.
It releases stress hormones that make the lymphatics sluggish.
It makes your chest feel heavy because stagnation builds behind the heart.
It disrupts digestion because the vagus nerve collapses under emotional weight.
It makes your muscles feel tender because fascia tightens when you cry.
Longing is a biochemical event.
Your lymph nodes swell with unprocessed sorrow.
Your breathing becomes shallow, lowering lymph flow by up to half.
Your tissues hold fluid because your body thinks you’re in danger again.
This is why grief feels like bloating, tightness, heaviness, exhaustion.
This is why the body aches when the heart breaks.
🫂 The Body’s Silent Way of Saying, “I Miss Them Too.”
Every time you long for the one who is gone, your body responds as if reaching for them.
As if trying to pull back a moment in time.
As if trying to bring them close again.
Your body is not malfunctioning —
it is remembering.
Because grief is love that has nowhere to go.
And longing is the echo of love searching for the one it can no longer touch.
So when your lymph feels heavy…
when your chest feels full…
when your body aches in waves…
It isn’t weakness.
It is proof that you loved deeply —
and that your body is still carrying the shape of that love.
