05/02/2025
From my Linkedin page, credit to Jyoti Gupta
Trauma is not just about catastrophic events. It is also about the subtle, quiet wounds that shape how we see ourselves and the world.
some traumas we often invalidate:
1.Emotional Neglect – Growing up in a home where your feelings were ignored or dismissed may not leave visible scars, but it can shape a lifetime of self-doubt, difficulty trusting others, and an internalized belief that your emotions are a burden.
2.Unseen Grief –The loss of a friendship, a dream, an identity, or a phase of life can carry deep sorrow, yet society often only validates grief related to death.
3.Being the “Strong One –When you’re always the caretaker, the dependable one, the one who never asks for help, your exhaustion and emotional depletion can be a form of trauma. Being unseen in your own struggles is a heavy burden.
4.Unmet Childhood Needs–Not being nurtured, encouraged, or emotionally supported in childhood leaves wounds that persist into adulthood.
5.Toxic Relationships That Didn’t Look Toxic – Sometimes, manipulation, control, and emotional coercion are so subtle that we don’t even recognize the damage they caused.
6.Betrayal and Broken Trust – Whether by a friend, a partner, or a family member, betrayal shakes our sense of security and can leave deep psychological wounds. The phrase “just move on” often dismisses the real impact of losing trust in someone we relied on.
7.Chronic Comparison and Conditional Love – Growing up with the feeling that love was tied to achievement, appearance, or being “better” than others can create a sense of unworthiness.
8.Cultural and Generational Trauma – The weight of systemic oppression, discrimination, or family patterns of suffering may not always be acknowledged as trauma, but they can deeply shape one’s sense of safety, identity, and belonging.
9.Feeling Unimportant – Whether in childhood, friendships, or relationships, constantly feeling like an afterthought can erode self-esteem. The absence of validation is often just as damaging as outright rejection.
10.The Trauma of Self-Betrayal – When we silence ourselves to keep the peace, stay in spaces that harm us, or suppress our true selves for the sake of acceptance, we create wounds.
Every Wound Deserves Recognition-
Just because a trauma doesn’t fit the conventional narrative doesn’t mean it isn’t real. Healing begins when we acknowledge our wounds without minimizing them. You don’t have to justify your pain to anyone. What hurt you, hurt you—and that is enough.
Let’s start validating the traumas we often dismiss, not just for ourselves but for those around us. Healing begins with recognition.
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