Healing Insights Counselling

31/03/2026

Confidence as a counsellor doesn’t grow from collecting more techniques - it grows from presence, self‑awareness, and the way we meet ourselves in the work.

On Saturday 13 June, I’m offering a small, experiential online workshop for emerging and early‑career practitioners who want to deepen their steadiness and reconnect with their inner foundations.

I’ve also woven 2 hours of ACA/PACFA‑recognised group supervision throughout the day to support accessibility, and I’m running it on a Saturday for those who can’t easily attend PD during the week.

If this feels like it might meet you where you are, you can open the workshop information below.
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28/03/2026

Being the cycle breaker in your family isn’t easy - it’s courageous, disruptive, and transformative. I’ve written about the emotional and generational impact of stepping out of old patterns and creating a new path forward.

Discover the role of the cycle breaker in transforming intergenerational patterns. Learn how healing, boundaries, and self awareness can reshape your family’s constellation and create a new path forward.

20/03/2026

18/03/2026

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15/03/2026

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What Does Internalised PDA Look Like?

Internalised PDA doesn’t always look like refusal.

Sometimes it looks like the “good kid.”
The quiet teen.
The capable adult.

It looks like compliance on the outside… and collapse on the inside.

In childhood, it might look like:
• A child who follows the rules at school and meltsdown at home
• A child who is exhausted after masking all day
• A child who seems “fine” but is constantly scanning for what’s expected

In adolescence, it can become:
• Perfectionism
• Social withdrawal
• Panic that looks like irritability
• Chronic fatigue
• Avoidance that gets labelled laziness

In adulthood, it might look like:
• Burnout cycles
• People pleasing

• Hyper-independence
• Anxiety with no clear “cause”
• A deep confusion about who you actually are

Internalised PDA can result in quiet compliance, high levels of masking, perfectionism, anxiety, fawning and freezing. Instead of the response turning outward, it folds inward.

And when autonomy suppression goes on long enough, identity suppression can follow.

You stop asking:
What do I want?

And start asking:
What will keep everyone regulated?

That’s not personality.
That’s survival.

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05/03/2026

www.healinginsights.com.au/blog/counselling-and-psychology-arent-the-same-tree

Most people seeking support assume counselling and psychology are just different branches of the same tree. But they’re actually two different trees growing in the same forest — both valuable, both needed, but offering very different kinds of shade. Understanding the difference can help you choo...

25/02/2026

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19/02/2026

A gentle reminder for your Friday - kindness for yourself is your birthright- how can you acknowledge, honour and show kindness to yourself today??

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🌀When the world tells you you’re not enough, remember who you really are.



In Irish, there is a word that touches the very heart of who you are: Anam
(pronounced AH-nahm)

In old Irish belief, the anam was more than a life force. It was your essence, the spark that makes you you. Ancient Celts believed the soul was eternal and deeply connected to family, ancestors, the land, and the cycles of nature. Stories and law honored deeds, skill, and bravery, but they also celebrated the life lived from the anam, the kindness, courage, loyalty, and love flowing from your core.

Anam means soul. Not just the mind or the body, not what the world sees or measures. Not how fast, strong, small, or large your body is. Not how close you are to some impossible standard.

It is the part of you that loves, that feels, that belongs simply by existing.

Today it can be hard to remember that. Modern beauty standards, social media, and constant comparisons make us measure ourselves by what we look like or how we move through the world. We see flawless bodies, polished images, and endless shoulds and think we are not enough.

And yet you are here. You are breathing. You are living. You are present. You are giving love. You are enduring, creating, trying, surviving.

That is your anam in motion. That is your soul shining exactly as it is.

If you moved your body today without criticizing it, there was anam in that.
If you told yourself something kind, even quietly, there was anam in that.
If you noticed a strength or quality in yourself and honored it, there was anam in that.
If you allowed yourself to enjoy a moment without judgment, there was anam in that.
If you smiled at your reflection or acknowledged your own courage, there was deep, quiet anam in that too.

Every small act of self-kindness, every gentle thought, every moment you chose patience and compassion for yourself carries anam.

Your soul is whole. Your soul is enough. It is not defined by what you do, how you look, or what anyone else thinks. It is defined by the love, care, and presence you give yourself.

Look at yourself with gentle eyes today. Love yourself exactly as you are. That is your anam shining through.

Remember, the light you carry inside is already enough for the world.