
29/08/2025
To assist or to not assist?
If you’ve attended one of my studio classes then you’ll recognise these little guys here, my trusty consent tokens!
To me, these tokens are the heart of teaching of a trauma-sensitive practice. They’re my way of ensuring that you have choice and autonomy in the space, and that you have a way of saying “no” and establishing boundaries without having to actually speak up.
Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE LOVE LOVE hands on assists and touch. The benefits and purposes behind it are truly endless, but to name a few:
✨ I can help guide your breath and awareness to different places in your body by placing my hands there
✨ Sometimes we don’t realise where we are holding tension, and we need an external cue to bring our attention to it
✨ Sometimes verbal instruction just doesn’t compute, and some hands on guidance is needed
✨A gentle face massage can help quiet a still busy and distracted mind
✨ TOUCH IS HEALING!
But, unfortunately for some of us, touch isn’t a signal of safety. Early on when I began practicing yoga, I think if I had been touched, I wouldn’t have gone back. There are as many reasons for someone to put their token on “No”, as there are for them to choose “Yes”, and ALL of these reasons are VALID.
The key is to have choice and control.
And for anyone who has experienced trauma, it’s highly likely that those two things have been taken away at some stage.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how many benefits there are behind receiving physical touch, because if you don’t feel safe, your nervous system isn’t in a state where I can receive any of those benefits anyway. If anything, it might do more harm than good.
Regardless of what you choose, to have choice is empowering! And that’s exactly how I hope you can feel as you join me on the mat - safe, in control, and empowered 💛