07/11/2018
Have you ever had a moment when you realized that the illusory vision that you had of yourself was actually quite different to how you are actually being perceived by others?
Kind of like how we delete the photos of ourselves that don't show our best side!
I had this experience recently.
About 10days ago I went down to Melbourne to hone my skills in the craft of facilitation. This training was full on implementation with the best facilitators in the country.
I had gone into this training a bit cocky, I'd been doing pre-learning for weeks and I was sure I was going to nail the facilitation, however I didn't have to be in the room for to long before I realized how much further I still had to go, the mirror was being shone back at me and it was like for the first time I spotted that moal or that pimple on my face, there was nowhere to hide it, I was exposed and naked. People experienced at identifying gaps in facilitation were pointing them out to me, I had many and the truth is at first I did not like it very much.
It was here that I had a choice point, I could opt out or I could lean in, learn and grow. I chose the later, and I continue to do so.
This training stretched me to my limits and then beyond, I had to break through so many personal and professional boundaries, what I thought about myself, who I was chosing to be, what I had been resisting, what I had to embrace, where was I being incongruent with my message, where was I letting my audience down, not respecting them, not loving them!
Before I signed up for this training I knew it was going to be a challenge and this is what I had wanted, I had wanted the discomfort because this is where we learn and grow, become better versions of ourselves.
This training has altered the way I think, the way I do things and the results I am getting both in my personal relationships, with my clients and my business.
Having people kind enough to shine the mirror back on you, tell you where you are doing good, where you are really sucking and how you might be able to improve is one of the greatest gifts we can have!
Where are your challenges? What do you need to embrace? Where are you resisting going into the discomfort? The discomfort is the way, we must go through it to grow!