Mumma Movement

03/05/2021

You are always so much more than you see.
You are the laughter that rings in the air, infecting everyone around you.
You are the softness of your heart when problems are placed in front of you.
You are the words you passed on in times of need, that stay with each person you gift.
You are the music you hum in the car with the windows down and your sunglasses on.
You are a special scent that lingers long after you leave.
You are the memories of childhood stored safely, like the precious cargo they are, in the heart of your family.
You are the little girl who cried, who fell, who got up.
You are the friend who stayed when others had gone.
You are so much more than you measured yourself upon.
You are so much more than your failings, your bad days.

Sweet girl, you were always good enough.
The world isn’t always good enough for you.

Donna Ashworth
Author ( https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08LRGWY74/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabt1_OYLVFbX4YR91V )
Ira Mitchell Kirk

23/04/2021

We humans, as a species, are not biologically designed to live like this. We are not beings destined for self-sufficient solitude. We need support, community, family, and friends.

18/04/2021

I have just set up my new Business page Yuarli Birth and I would love if you could LIKE and SHARE.
I will be offering my Doula services to the Riverina. Including prenatal and postpartum support, meal trains, pregnancy loss and pregnancy release, breastfeeding support and birth mentoring, just to name a few ❤
Im So excited to offer this and think it will be a huge benefit to our area. It was exactly what I needed when I was pregnant with my daughter so I'm hoping to fill the gap and make this accessible to all who need it. Please let your expecting mama friends, or anyone who you think this could be of benefit, know and help spread the word as it would be deeply appreciated.

Website and More to come very soon 💗💫💞

Jessii
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14/04/2021

TO THE WOMAN WHO IS SLOWLY FADING AWAY

To the woman who has lost her spark.
To the woman whose get up and go, has well and truly gone.
This is for you.
This is to remind you, that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, every day.
You didn’t sign up for that.
Remember when you used to laugh? Sing?
Throw caution to the wind?
Remember when you used to forgive yourself more quickly for not always being perfect.
You can get that back again.
You really can.
And that doesn’t have to mean letting people down or walking away.
It just means being kinder to you, feeling brave enough to say no sometimes.
Being brave enough to stop sometimes.
And rest.
It starts the moment you realise that you’re not quite who you used to be.
Some of that is good, some of that is not.
There are parts of you that need to be brought back.
And if anyone in your life is not okay with that… they are not your people. Your people will be glad to see that spark starting to light up again.
So, if you have been slowly fading away my friend, this is the time to start saying yes to things that bring you joy and no to things that don’t.
It’s really pretty simple.

From ‘to the women’ https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08LRGWY74/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabt1_OYLVFbX4YR91V
Donna Ashworth
Ladies Pass it On. Art by Rita Loyd

01/04/2021

As we press forward with our movement, with the support of more and more people and groups everyday, this question seems quite a poignant one...

Those who have seen the documentary may not recognise this quote- and that’s because it’s from the full length interview with the inimitable Donna Garland.

Did you know in the coming months we’re setting up the Birth Time Hub? An online education resource which will include full length interviews from key interviewees from the film, as well our live events, birth films and other resources.

Stay tuned to our socials and sign up to our emails to find out when this will become available.

Link in bio...
www.birthtime.world

31/03/2021

Most twins do not need to be born via cesarean section. Period. You have choices and deserve explanations when those choices are resisted.
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We need to normalize photos like this and take fear out of twin birth!
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Link in bio for one of my blogs about a birth center twin birth.
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08/03/2021

Nobody ever talks about the loss or mourning of the life of a woman before she is a mother.

27/01/2021

My mother’s resistance, is my resistance. My nokamis’ resistance, is my resistance. My daughter’s resistance, is my resistance. And that is what will keep me going, every single day that I live, as…

10/12/2020

“The inability to receive support from others
is a trauma response.

Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.

From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you.

From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honored your heart.

From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave.

From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” or “I got you” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when s**t got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.

From all the lies and all the betrayals.

You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.

Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE.

You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right?

You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you.

Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.

So, you don’t trust anyone.

And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.

To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable.

“Never again,” you vow.

But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.

Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.

Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.

It’s a trauma response.

The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.

You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having true partnership.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy to be adored.
You are worthy to be cherished.
You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.” And actually deliver on that promise.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy.

You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.

You are worthy.
WORTHY.
Simply because you exist.”

~ Jamila White,

06/12/2020

Wow what an awesome way to teach kids what happens during a caesarean

17/10/2020

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Mothers are so strong and amazing 🙌🏻

Strong as a Mother!!!

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12/09/2020

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09/09/2020

I did a breastfeeding Q & A in my instagram stories yesterday and received over 500 questions. I answered as many as time would permit throughout the day which you can see in my highlights.

There was one question though that came up more than once. "What do I feed my baby until milk comes in?"

I wasn't able to respond to everyone so I created this visual today.

Milk doesn't just suddenly appear after the birth having previously been non existent. You dont starve your baby until milk 'comes in'

I hope this visual helps to explain it! The first milk colostrum is being developed (in normal situations) from the second trimester. You may or may not notice leaking (most dont)
Colostrum might be yellow, white or even clear
When the baby is born the milk producing hormone increases as baby is put to the breast. They drink colostrum in small quantities for the first few days before the milk changes. It increases in volume, usually changes yo a white colour and you may find you become engorged and leak everywhere!

The more baby feeds, the quicker this can happen.

This can be delayed by:

Traumatic birth, infrequent breast feeding or replacing breast feeds with formula, stress, poor latch, hormonal irregularities (extremely rare), no or little support.

This image is meant to display basic/standard physiology. Every woman is different but in general, this is what b***s usually do! I hope it helps answer some of those questions 😊

05/09/2020

31/08/2020

A Birthing on Country program on the New South Wales South Coast proves so successful the service is preparing to sign a statement of commitment with the Illawarra Shoalhaven Local Health District.

21/08/2020

20/08/2020

This 💗

I’m busy inside.

Inside my mind. It’s busy. So busy that when my kids need me, it’s often too much.

It’s a term I read in a piece by a psychologist who said that many parents are “busy inside” - overwhelmed, stressed, carrying the daily mental load, working, trying to concentrate on a dozen things at once.

We are running on 100% of our emotional management capacity all day. We have ALL the tabs open and our processors are making that loud, whirring, whining noise that tells you if you open one more thing, the whole thing is going to freeze.

And then a child holds out their arms.

Wanting attention, time, acknowledgement.

And instead of feeling compassion and love, all we feel is frustration. Those outstretched arms and the voice saying, “mum mum mum” are impositions on our busy minds.

AND THEN, to make it all completely fall to s**t, we add guilt into the mix for not being more available and present.

This is my burden. This is where I fail every single day.

I’m so BUSY inside.

Is there a diagnosis for someone whose brain goes at full speed all day without pause? Because that’s me. And I feel like it’s getting worse.

The guilt is eating me alive because when my kids ask me to play, to listen, to watch... it’s like they’re interrupting a conversation I’m having with myself. And I snap.

This is my problem. They are NOT a distraction from my tasks. They ARE the task. Why can’t I realise that? Why is it only at night that I remember it? Why do I spend all day asking them to wait one more minute before I can be with them? Later later later! And then when I’m with them, my mind is in the future. What needs to be done next? When will I fit it in? Or it’s with a different child. Splitting myself three ways is harder than I thought. Especially when one’s so little she needs me every minute.

I hate this about myself more than anything else. I want to be lit up inside when I’m with them. But instead, I feel tied down and impatient, trying to get my tasks done first...but they’re never done.

I just want all my tasks to f**k off and my mind to be quiet so I can enjoy my babies while they still want my attention.

But f**ked if I know how to fix it.

19/08/2020

Whats your opinion?

I wish someone would have told me the truth.