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10/08/2025

🌀 When Letting Go Turns into Another Form of Control

I was speaking with my mentor the other day, he was talking about ego control about how sneaky the ego can be. The Thought in short being:-

We often think ego only shows up as arrogance or pride, but it also turns up as control.
It’s the part of us that tries to direct everything—even our so-called “spiritual” practices.

Trying to be present.
Trying to be peaceful.
Trying to be still.
Trying to “manifest.”

It’s like the inner world still has its hands on the steering wheel, gripping tightly, deciding what’s allowed to happen and what isn’t, instead of getting out of the way and letting the chips fall where they may

And here’s where it hit me—I thought to myself:

“I’m always trying to let go… but even in letting go, I'm still trying to control it.”
This got me curious:-

For me, letting go is full of fear.
I don’t just drop the baggage; I sort through it, label it, and decide what I’m willing to part with.
It’s like I pack it neatly away in a mental suitcase, telling myself:
“I might unpack this one day… flick through it like an old photo album, decide which memories to keep and which to toss.”
But that’s NOT SURRENDER—that’s still fear, dressed in spiritual clothing.

It’s the ego saying: “We’ll let go… but on my terms.”

True letting go isn’t curating the past.
It’s stepping aside, letting the chips fall where they may, and trusting that life will carry what needs to be carried, and release what no longer belongs—without our interference.
Because control, in any form, is still fear.
And the more we step back from that need to manage everything, the more space there is for something greater to flow through.

If your needing some help with clarity and direction on how to let those chips fall without trying to control it dm me

27/04/2025

Welcoming Every Part of Ourselves: A Powerful Approach to Healing

For so long, we've been taught that certain parts of ourselves aren't welcome.
The messy parts. The scared parts. The angry, chaotic, broken parts the too loud, painfully quiet, the attention seeker, the people pleaser, the silly, the boring, the nag, the over achiever the full on .
They’ve been shut out — the door slammed in their faces — with the message:
"You’re not good enough. You need to grow first, - fix yourself first, before you can come back in."

But here's the truth: those parts don’t grow outside in the cold.
They don't heal when they're exiled.
They don't transform by being abandoned.
They grow when they are welcomed home.

Imagine a table inside a warm house, a table where every part of you has a seat.
Not because it’s perfect.
Not because it’s "better."
Not because it's been polished clean.
But because it belongs — just as it is.

You don’t need to coach these parts, fix them, or push them to improve.
The power lies in simply opening the door and letting them sit at the table — now, today, as they are.

The broken.
The dramatic.
The scared.
The insecure.
The angry.
The too-much, the not-enough.

All of it.

Because when you say, "You are welcome here exactly as you are," you offer something those parts have never been given: belonging without conditions.

And in that warmth, in that radical inclusiveness, they begin to heal on their own.
Without pressure. Without force. Without needing to perform.

This isn’t a fixing approach — it’s a loving approach.
It's family. It's home.
It's an act of true wholeness: not by getting rid of what’s wrong, but by making space for everything that’s already part of you.

Healing doesn't happen by slamming the door harder.
It happens by pulling out a chair, setting a place, and saying:
"Come. You belong here. You always have."

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05/04/2025

Your Body Will Reject What Doesn’t Feel Safe:

As we navigate through life, we often face moments that challenge us, whether in relationships, career decisions, or personal growth. These challenges might feel exciting or daunting, but one thing remains certain: your body knows when something isn’t right for you, or when you are not feeling aligned in what you trying to create.
If you are trying to create a desire but have your own fears around creating this. Such as I want to work less and travel more but your already have a fear that you will be judged or ridiculed by family and friends and even society because only lazy people don’t work, “we work hard in this family to get to take holidays”people will think I’m lazy, a bludger, full of myself , “if you don’t work hard you’ll lose everything”

To you this is not safe. In your body there’s fear and tension and worry. It’s not aligning.

When you’re faced with a situation that doesn’t align with your values, your body will send subtle—or not-so-subtle—signals. You might experience discomfort, tension, a racing heart, or even a sense of unease that you can’t quite explain. This is your body’s way of telling you: this doesn’t feel safe.

How can you possibly manifest when your body doesn’t trust.

As a coach, I often encourage my clients to pay attention to these physical cues. What is your felt sense. They are a form of intuition, a deep, primal knowing that can guide you toward what truly aligns with your well-being. It’s easy to ignore or dismiss these feelings, especially in a world that pushes us to always move forward or “push through.” But ignoring your body’s signals can lead to burnout, anxiety, and a disconnect from your true self.

Remember, safety is more than just physical protection; it’s emotional, mental, and spiritual too. When you’re in a situation that feels unsafe, your body’s resistance is not a sign of weakness—it's an invitation to step back and re-evaluate. Trust yourself. Trust the signs.

Take the time to honor your body’s wisdom. When you feel that discomfort, pause. Ask yourself: Is this situation aligned with my core values? Is it moving me toward growth, or is it draining me?

By listening to these cues, you’re choosing to prioritize your well-being over external expectations. You’re telling yourself that you are worthy of peace, alignment, and safety.

Your body won’t steer you wrong. When something doesn’t feel right, trust that it’s your body’s way of protecting you. Reclaim your power, honor your feelings, and give yourself permission to step away from what doesn’t feel safe. Ask yourself am I forcing this

The more you trust yourself, the easier it becomes to make decisions that align with your true path—and your body will thank you for it. 🌱💪

Power of Confidence and Embodiment in Manifestation: Creating Space for Magnitude

When you step into the fullest expression of who you are—confident, embodied, and aligned with your deepest desires—you unlock an incredible power within yourself. This isn’t just about thinking positive thoughts or wishing for something to happen. It's about creating a physical and energetic shift within your body that attracts the very things you desire.

The law of attraction is not just a mental exercise; it’s a physical experience. The more confident and grounded you are, the more space you create in your body—space to receive, to expand, and to allow greater possibilities to flow into your life. Your body becomes a powerful magnet for the things you want to attract.

Here’s the magic: when you are fully embodied in your confidence, you naturally radiate an energy that is aligned with abundance and possibility. Your posture, your energy, your presence—everything changes. The more you step into your own worth, the more your energy aligns with the vibrations of what you want to create. Your thoughts, actions, and intentions begin to harmonize, creating an irresistible force that draws your desires toward you.

But what about the space you create? When you are truly confident in your power, you let go of limiting beliefs, fears, and doubts. You release mental and emotional blockages that keep you in a state of constriction. This opens up space within your body—not just physically but energetically. This space is the fertile ground where new possibilities grow.

Here’s how to embody this in your life:

Stand Tall & Grounded: Confidence starts with your posture. Stand up straight, open your chest, and breathe deeply. This physical act sends a signal to your brain and body that you are in control, that you are worthy of success and happiness.
Connect with Your Body: Take time to feel your body fully. Whether it’s through movement, dance, yoga, or simply being present in your body, allowing yourself to feel in your body helps you connect to the present moment and align with your desires on a deeper level.

Release What No Longer Serves You: Let go of fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs. Every time you release something that doesn’t serve you, you create more space for new opportunities to come in. Trust the process and surrender to what’s meant for you. There’s inner work to be done here.

Visualize Your Desires: Use your confidence and embodiment to fuel your visualizations. Feel the emotions of having already achieved your desires. When you align your body’s energy with your dreams, you create a magnetic field that attracts those very things into your reality.

When you are confident and fully embodied, you no longer have to chase what you want. Instead, you become the energy of what you desire. And from that space of wholeness and alignment, the law of attraction becomes a natural byproduct—bringing everything you need right to your doorstep.

So, step into your power, trust your worth, and watch as the universe responds with even more magnitude than you ever imagined. Your body knows the way. ✨💫



If you want more clarification on how to turn you actual desires not forced desire into reality send me a message to discuss how I can give you the tools to create and insights to what is holding you back

Krissy

12/02/2025

Love is the best fertilizer for growth. Whether it’s your body, money, or career, bringing love—even to the parts you struggle with—creates transformation.
It’s not about instant success or avoiding discomfort. It’s about staying with it, holding space, and shiftingther identity you hold about the situation. Growth isn’t about forcing change; it’s about embodying a new way of being.
A few months ago, I started something different —I stopped fighting and hating on my body and started loving it more. Not in a fluffy “just love yourself” way, but by breathing love into it, even when it felt ultra uncomfortable, even when I don't necessarily like how it looks. But these legs are learning how to walk again, how to get me around, get into my car to see my friends, they are walking this earth and I love them for that my arms are getting stronger and I can hold a cup, a knife - I love them for hugging those I love the most. The result of breathing love to my body? The best state of fitness in my life, not from forcing discipline but from shifting my values.
The same applies to money, business, or anything else.
Bring love to where you struggle, sit in the discomfort, and watch what grows.
Growth isn’t just about hard work—it’s about bringing love to the parts of ourselves we’ve rejected. Whether it’s our body, finances, or business,
Real transformation happens when we stop waiting to be "worthy" and start embracing what is, even when it’s uncomfortable. Love won’t make things easy, but it will make them possible.
Connect with me if you would like to learn through my coaching to bring clarity how to bring love to your situation!!

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18/12/2024

anyone who knows me, knows in this last year and half I have continuously set goals since my life-changing event - they have been big they have been small but always always specific and aligned to my desires/dreams.
Lately, my goals have been in the gym setting, just beating my own personal best from last week, or from the warm-up. This week I didnt want to do it, I was tired I was feeling meh, I just wasn't feel it at all, its nearly xmas, its too hot - blah blah . I did my warm up did my session and as i stepped up to the plate for my finishing set I had 6 lousy minutes I stuffed around for a min and 1/2 I then dug deep. In that sec I made a goal - Im gonna beat this mornings, last weeks distance. I said to my PT "put on something good" (music-wise). Great song choice started cascading through my ears
I than started to go harder and faster. I recall telling him you need it louder (you gotta have that music loud!!) I got in that zone - you know that "f**k yeah Im doing this zone", that zone where its you in your head you in your heart its every voice over time running that loop " you wont make this happen", "you dont have it in you", "you wont succeed" then I realised I was gonna smash my distance in less time, I was running my own race, I only had me to answer to, AND I DID IT MY BEST PB YET.
SO if you have been trying to get somewhere and your not achieving it and you dont have a goal - your not going to get there my friend YOU NEED THE FREAKING ROADMAP !!
Imagine trying to navigate life without a map or compass. That’s what living without goals feels like—aimless, uncertain, and unproductive. Goals are the markers that guide us, show us how far we've come, and remind us where we’re heading. Without them, it’s easy to drift, unsure of what you want or how to measure progress.
Let’s dive into why goals are so important and why you owe it to yourself to set
The POwer of Goals
Why Are Goals Important?
They Measure Your Growth
Without goals, how can you truly see how far you’ve come? Goals act as checkpoints, allowing you to reflect on your progress and celebrate your victories, big or small.
They Give You Direction
Goals clarify what you want and help you design the roadmap to get there. Without them, you’re like a ship at sea without a destination—you’ll float, but you won’t reach a meaningful shore.
They Create Accountability
Goals make you accountable, whether to yourself, a mentor, or even a supportive friend. Without that accountability, it’s easy to make excuses, procrastinate, or settle for less than your potential.
Why Set Goals Now?
Let’s face it, another year is around the corner. Do you really want to look back on 2025 and think, What did I actually accomplish? The best time to set your goals is now.
For the next month, challenge yourself to set clear, actionable goals. Whether it’s personal, professional, or health-related, write them down and commit. Start small if you need to, but start.
If you need help identifying or structuring your goals, reach out—I’ll help you get clear, focused, and motivated that's what I do. This is a passion
Jim Carrey’s Goal-Setting Story
One of the most inspiring examples of goal-setting and manifestation is the story of actor Jim Carrey. In the early 1990s, when he was an unknown and struggling comedian, Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million for “acting services rendered.” He dated the check for Thanksgiving 1995 and carried it in his wallet as a daily reminder of his goal.
Fast-forward to 1994, Jim Carrey landed the role of Ace Ventura and starred in The Mask and Dumb and Dumber. By 1995, he had earned exactly $10 million for his work.
This story is a testament to the power of a clear, visualized goal. It’s not just about dreaming big—it’s about believing, acting, and aligning your daily efforts with what you want to achieve.
Seems to simply right? However, there is an importance of "trying on" your dreams and desires as a way to align yourself with your authentic aspirations. It is suggested that you explore your dreams as though you are stepping into them, much like trying on a new outfit. This approach allows you to assess how these desires feel in your body and spirit, helping you determine whether they truly resonate with your values and sense of self.
By imagining or experiencing aspects of the desired outcome, you can identify emotional, mental, or energetic barriers, as well as discover what truly excites and motivates you. This process invites experimentation and willingness, rather than rigid attachment, fostering growth and clarity about what you want and why it matters.
Don’t Let 2025 Be Goalless
The difference between a fulfilled life and a mediocre one often comes down to intention. Goals set your intention. They give you purpose and the motivation to get out of bed each morning.
So do yourself a favor. Set some goals for the next month. They don’t have to be perfect—they just have to be yours. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure where to start, contact me. I’ll help you find clarity and create goals that excite and inspire you.
Make 2025 the year you refuse to settle for “just fine.” Let it be the year you chase greatness, step into your potential, and accomplish what you never thought possible.
Let’s make it happen! If ypu want clarity and direction PM me to begin and make 2025 the best yet!

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03/12/2024

🔥 Invest in Yourself—Because You're Worth It! 🔥

You want to be the best swimmer or runner? 🏊‍♀️🏃‍♂️ Get a coach.
You want to crush your gym goals? 🏋️‍♂️ Hire a personal trainer.
You want to elevate your energy and vibe higher? 🌟 Surround yourself with people who are constantly striving for more—the ones whose energy, joy, and success inspire you to rise.

We invest in everything else: better finances, better skills, better health. But here’s the question: Why not invest in YOU?

If you need support in life, mindset, or achieving your goals, don’t wait for a miracle—get a coach or a mentor. The right guide can help you shift your perspective, unlock your potential, and level up in ways you never imagined.

💡 Your next big breakthrough starts with one decision: believing you’re worth the investment. Let’s go! 🚀

Who’s ready to rise? 🙌 Drop a 🔥 if you’re investing in your future!
What you will receive is more clarity, skills to embody your desires/dreams a better understanding what is really holding you from moving forward and education on the why {why am I stuck, why do I keep doing the same things or why do I do things differently but with the same similar outcomes)

24/10/2024

As moms, we pour our hearts and souls into raising our children to be kind, thoughtful, and respectful human beings. We invest so much time, love, and energy into guiding them with the hope that one day, they’ll value the lessons we worked so hard to instill. But as they grow into adulthood, the relationship doesn’t always turn out how we envisioned.

Maybe we’re not as close as we imagined we’d be. Maybe we see them drifting or setting boundaries that are hard for us to accept. It’s tough when we’re no longer at the center of their world, and even harder when we wonder if the connection we dreamed of isn’t quite there.

Today, I’m giving myself permission to accept that my relationship with my adult children may not look exactly how I thought it would. It doesn’t mean we failed as mothers. It just means they’re navigating life in their own way, setting their own course, and that’s okay.

Let’s remind ourselves to honor the love we’ve given and trust that the foundation we built will always be there, even when it feels distant. We’re still their guiding lights, even when the path looks different than we imagined. 💗✨

If you’re finding yourself feeling frustrated or exhausted because the relationship with your adult children isn’t what you expected, you’re not alone. It’s common to start questioning yourself—wondering where things went “wrong” or why the bond feels distant.

Maybe you’ve started pulling away out of fear of rejection, hoping they’ll notice your pain and come closer. Maybe you’re emotionally drained, going over every little thing in your head, searching for answers, or replaying old memories in a loop. These reactions are understandable, but they can create more stress and deepen the divide.

If this resonates with you, I’d love to help. Together, we can explore what’s really behind these feelings and behaviors, look at the belief systems driving your reactions, and uncover what’s at the core of your emotional exhaustion.

Through coaching, we’ll work on giving you clarity and insight around the situation—helping you shift from mental overwhelm to a place of understanding and peace. Sometimes, it’s about letting go of old expectations and embracing the present moment with a new perspective. If you need to stop the looping to come into acceptance drop me a DM to set up discovery call, I am also offering 2 free coaching sessions for 5 people with a bonus pdf "The Clarity Journal -
An insightful Guide for Women on the Path to Their Own Happiness !!!

This post invites you to reflect on the emotional journey of motherhood, focusing on the challenges and the grace required in giving yourself permission to accept the unexpected outcomes in relationships with adult children.

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10/10/2024

ARE YOU EXPERIENCING EMPTY NESTING OR JUST ABOUT TO???

Hey Mumma,

Is it that time for you? The time when your kids are leaving home for the first time, or maybe they’re getting close to embarking on their life outside the nest. They’re stepping out into the big, wide world, and the last 17 to 19 years have been preparing for this moment right.? Everyone’s talking about how you’ll have so much more freedom now—how exciting it’ll be to explore your own hobbies, your own dreams, and reconnect as a couple.

But really, how are you feeling?

Does it feel like your being sucker punched every time you see a piece of their belongings packed up? Or when they’re buzzing with excitement about their new uni life, party weeks, and all the plans they’re making? Are you ironing her dress and suddenly remembering the innocence of Barbie tea parties and dress-up days? Do you catch yourself standing in your son’s doorway, making his bed again, holding the stuffed toy he couldn’t sleep without, and thinking, “How was that so long ago?” going over the photo albums and replaying home movies

You find yourself doing things you don’t even need to do anymore—out of habit, or out of love—and then it hits you. You realize you’re clinging to these moments because they’ve been your world for so long. You’re not letting yourself feel lost, bored, or alone. Or maybe you are, but you’re trying to push it down, because hey, life just moves on, right? There’s may be another child still at home or waiting to be helped. But with the first to go, or the last to leave, it’s not the same, is it?
No one really talks about this rollercoaster of unpredictable emotions. You don’t want to seem dramatic—because, for goodness’ sake, mums do this every day, right? It shouldn’t be a big deal... Wrong!!!! it is and its your experience its tough, its lonely and its literally hurting your heart. You've been their ptotector, their confidant, their bank, their problem solver, their day and their night.
And you still are its just going to be different but

You need to give yourself permission to feel it all: to feel empty, lost, or confused. To admit that things are different now. And if you FIGHT IT, YOU FEED IT.


I know what it’s like- you start to clean the house obsessively, stressing about this this and that, but that stress isn’t really about the chores—it’s about deeper things. It’s about not letting yourself feel what’s bubbling beneath the surface. You might not be admitting to yourself just how much you’ve depended on your kids to fill a certain role in your life.
You might be holding onto resentment from years ago, when you gave up dreams or a career to be a mother. You fully and undoubtedly without hesitation immersed yourself in this role without much changing for him. And even though that was 20 years ago, it’s still living in your body now.

Now you could choose to hold onto all of this and make this whole experience a disaster... OR you could give yourself permission to acknowledge that it's okay. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. It’s allowed. You are safe in these emotions, and when you allow them, you release them. Otherwise, you might find yourself filling your days dysfunctionally or transferring that neediness onto your partner, which can create its own tensions.

Beneath all the scattered emotions is the simple truth: you feel a bit lost without your kids right now. And that’s okay. You’re allowed to feel that way. What’s important is to start addressing the deeper patterns of codependency that might be showing up .

Life transitions, especially ones like empty nesting, can pull you back into old pains or patterns, leaving you feeling tense and closed off. If you’d like to learn how to surrender to these feelings, to ride the raging river of emotions with a calm stillness, reach out. I’ll help you float down those rapids, cocktail in hand, with sunshine washing over you, gently finding harmony and balance as you navigate this crazy ride we call life.

So if you are feeling ready and committed to release these emotions and move forward with confidence and clarity than this week I'm offering 1 Free Clarity Coaching Session to the first 5 people to reach out.

What we will do on this call is really explore and deep dive into emotions that are creating confusion and barriers for you and identify patterns and behaviours that are interrupting the gentle flow in your life and reset the direction, really explore the power of permissions, and the art of surrendering to these emotions with an open body this will have you feeling calm and clear afterwards with steps to move forward.



Krissy x☺️

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10/10/2024

ARE YOU EXPERIENCING EMPTY NESTING OR JUST ABOUT TO???

Hey Mumma,
Is it that time for you? The time when your kids are leaving home for the first time, or maybe they’re getting close to embarking on their life outside the nest. They’re stepping out into the big, wide world, and the last 17 to 19 years have been preparing for this moment right. Everyone’s talking about how you’ll have so much more freedom now—how exciting it’ll be to explore your own hobbies, your own dreams, and reconnect as a couple.

But really, how are you feeling?

Does it feel like your being sucker punched every time you see a piece of their belongings packed up? Or when they’re buzzing with excitement about their new uni life, party weeks, and all the plans they’re making? Are you ironing her dress and suddenly remembering the innocence of Barbie tea parties and dress-up days? Do you catch yourself standing in your son’s doorway, making his bed again, holding the stuffed toy he couldn’t sleep without, and thinking, “How was that so long ago?” going over the photo albums and replaying home movies

You find yourself doing things you don’t even need to do anymore—out of habit, or out of love—and then it hits you. You realize you’re clinging to these moments because they’ve been your world for so long. You’re not letting yourself feel lost, bored, or alone. Or maybe you are, but you’re trying to push it down, because hey, life just moves on, right? There’s may be another child still at home or waiting to be helped. But with the first to go, or the last to leave, it’s not the same, is it?

No one really talks about this rollercoaster of unpredictable emotions. You don’t want to seem dramatic—because, for goodness’ sake, mums do this every day, right? It shouldn’t be a big deal... Wrong!!!! it is and its your experience its tough, its lonely and its literally hurting your heart. You've been their ptotector, their confidant, their bank, their problem solver, their day and their night. And you still are its just going to be different but

You need to give yourself permission to feel it all: to feel empty, lost, or confused. To admit that things are different now. And if you FIGHT IT, YOU FEED IT. I know what it’s like- you start to clean the house obsessively, stressing about this this and that, but that stress isn’t really about the chores—it’s about deeper things. It’s about not letting yourself feel what’s bubbling beneath the surface. You might not be admitting to yourself just how much you’ve depended on your kids to fill a certain role in your life. You might be holding onto resentment from years ago, when you gave up dreams or a career to be a mother. You fully and undoubtedly without hesitation immersed yourself in this role without much changing for him. And even though that was 20 years ago, it’s still living in your body now.

You could hold onto all of this and make this whole experience a disaster... OR you could give yourself permission to acknowledge that it's okay. It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. It’s allowed. You are safe in these emotions, and when you allow them, you release them. Otherwise, you might find yourself filling your days dysfunctionally or transferring that neediness onto your partner, which can create its own tensions.

Beneath all the scattered emotions is the simple truth: you feel a bit lost without your kids right now. And that’s okay. You’re allowed to feel that way. What’s important is to start addressing the deeper patterns of codependency that might be showing up so reach out to me for help with this.

Life transitions, especially ones like empty nesting, can pull you back into old pains or patterns, leaving you feeling tense and closed off. If you’d like to learn how to surrender to these feelings, to ride the raging river of emotions with a calm stillness, reach out. I’ll help you float down those rapids, cocktail in hand, with sunshine washing over you, gently finding harmony and balance as you navigate this crazy ride we call life.

With clarity

Krissy x

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03/10/2024

FEAR TO BE SEEN IN WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO EMBODY! IT'S NOT THAT YOU ARENT BEING AUTHENTIC IT JUST DOESN'T FEEL SAFE

Why dont you feel Safe is to be seen when you are making changes embrassing your desires/dreams . All judgment is self-judgment."
When we understand that being truly safe means allowing ourselves to be seen, flaws and all, we open up to authenticity. The fear of judgment often holds us back, but all external judgment is merely a reflection of how we judge ourselves. When we believe others are criticizing us, it's usually our own inner critic projecting those fears outward. By embracing vulnerability and recognizing that all judgment originates from within, we free ourselves from the need for external validation. True safety lies in self-acceptance, not in avoiding the gaze of others.

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