02/03/2025
I wrote this post last year but thought I'd reshare to re-introduce Darren, one of the four men the Three Quarters story is being told through as they look for answers to how they can support men who are struggling with mental health in their community.
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I first met Darren through his wife Cushla who I was working with on the Changing Our Ways documentary in 2022 and 2023.
I interviewed Darren for that doco but in the end the focus was more on the group of women that included Cushla so only a small part of his interview was used in the final edit.
But Darren’s story is big, he’s been through a lot. He’s open to new thinking and change around men’s mental health too. But, he’s still a bloke. A bloke who struggles with his own communication blocks and troubles with showing emotions.
So, in many ways, he’s the perfect person to be part of Three Quarters. He’s open to the objective of talking to men in the community about their struggles and their ideas for change. He already works in disability support and so he has the ability to empathise, care and listen. Yet he has changes to make for himself so that he can deal with issues as they arise, rather than continually pushing them down.
The first few production shoots have been mainly with Darren. He’s sat down with Graham, a lively guy with a big story and an even bigger heart. Not only did he share the things that have happened to him, Graham had no issue with sharing the ways he now manages his mental health and his ideas for what needs to change so that men can feel more supported and access help. Darren also sat down with Brendan, one of the care workers that Darren employs, to talk more about what he’d been through and his views on mental health support.
Both of these men have contemplated su***de at times in their life. They’ve experienced rock bottom. And, in front of cameras, they both shared those depths in an incredibly inspiring and moving way. Equally, they spoke freely about the type of support they want to see in the community, both institutional and community-led.
What’s emerging so far is that it’s complex for communities like Warwick. There are drastically different needs across age, ethnicity, location, employment and interests. Distance and culture stand out as major themes to address. And generational norms around masculinity and emotional capacity are obvious focal points also.
Despite the crisis, no one I’ve spoken with wants to wait for government to somehow find a way to magically create systems and approaches that are needed, especially when they require intricate cultural and social connections to actually work. People know there must be community-led action too, but these haven’t always worked, catered for a diverse enough range of people or been resourced and funded
There’s still months of filming remaining. But, even at this early stage, I have no doubt that the conversations will have some impact on Darren’s thinking. I’m just not sure what, yet.
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Darren Rabbitt