22/11/2022
I want to be honest; the beauty industry, for the most part, does not care about your wellbeing, personal fulfillment, and happiness. It represents what we perceive we lack. It needles and pokes at our biggest insecurities, our perceived flaws and it encourages us to do as Narcissus did, fall into our own reflection and die obsessing over our own image. Perfection may be the end goal, however in and of itself is an illusion. Perfection has never truly existed, its pursuit keeps our hands tied, our eyes blind and ears closed. It stops us from growing, evolving, and having the courage to see the truth. The truth being that our real value is being more than perfect it is in being ALL of who we are AND sometimes being human is ugly, it is painful, it challenges us... it reveals itself to be complex, nuanced and far from easy.
I want everyone reading this who is feeling insecure, unsure, ugly, not enough to know that you are more than enough as you are, in fact you already are beautiful and precious. Do not let anyone influence your love of yourself or take it away. Stop dedicating vital mental energy to how you should be and dare to be who you are RIGHT NOW. I am going to be bold and say that in your last moments here you are not going to be worried or remorseful about not having the smoothest butt, clearest skin, straightest smile, most popular Instagram post, highest follower count or friend count (will you be on your deathbed trying to take the faultless selfie!?)
Your value is not determined by the right numbers or fitting into the image of what you think ANYBODY else will approve of, like and/or love. When you are at a beauty counter, salon, spa in the care of beauty therapist or aesthetician (me included!) care less about what we might think and focus more on how you feel. It is imperative that you NEVER feel judged or criticised. Approach any beauty treatment as the additional glitter or to add sparkle to who YOU ARE.
I want to be the exception to the sometimes-vapid industry pressure and to feel completely safe. Somewhere you can say F*CK it to the haters (particularly your own most critical voice). Life is too short to not love all of who you are. I write this post for you as much as I do for myself (especially the insecure, awkward, bullied teenager) and everyone that I love (especially all the amazing, genuine, caring other women in the beauty industry). I see you and I am so grateful 🙏💙