Embody Being - Health Psychology & Somatic Psychotherapy

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Someone told me yesterday that when they get nervous and their heart starts racing, they call it their “Inner Applause”—because instead of assuming something is wrong, they imagine their body is cheering them on. And honestly, that might be one of the most precious narrative shifts I’ve ever heard.

Think about how differently we would approach life if we treated our anxiety not as a warning to retreat, but as a signal that something meaningful is happening. Butterflies wouldn’t mean fear—they’d mean anticipation. A pounding heartbeat wouldn’t mean panic—it would mean preparation. The trembling hands, the shaky voice, the fluttering chest—maybe those aren’t symptoms of weakness at all. Maybe they’re the body recognizing a moment that matters before the mind fully catches up.

Every dream comes with a doorway, and often, the threshold feels uncomfortable. We’ve been conditioned to believe nerves are a red flag, when sometimes they are a green light. The body doesn’t always know the difference between excitement and fear. The sensations are nearly identical—the story we attach to them is what changes everything.

Calling it “Inner Applause” is like having your own built-in cheering section. It’s your heartbeat saying, “You’ve waited for this. You care about this. You’re stepping into growth.” It’s a reminder that the moments that make us shake are also the ones that shape us.

So the next time your heart races, try hearing it as a crowd rising to its feet—not to warn you away from the stage, but to welcome you onto it. Because sometimes, the body doesn’t say “stop.” Sometimes, it says “go.”
“Andy Burg”

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Pia Mellody explains in her book Facing Love Addiction that both anxious and avoidant attachers hold two fears.

The conscious fear and the unconscious fear sit in opposite places for each style.

The anxious attacher knows they are afraid of being left.

They are usually unaware that they are deeply afraid of real intimacy.

The avoidant attacher knows they are afraid of closeness.

They are usually unaware that they are afraid of abandonment.

Both styles carry the same fears, just flipped.

These opposite fears create patterns that collide inside the relationship.

Each person reacts from their own fear without realising what is happening.

This is why the dynamic becomes so hard to manage, because both people are
being pulled by fears that mirror each other.