23/08/2021
“You can’t say that “
“ Do what I say not as I do “
“Children are seen and not heard”
Walking on eggshells , the narcissistic family runs like a cult . There is the head leader ( overt narcissistic parent and the enabler ( the parent who is submissive, codependent and often also covert narcissist ). the operations of the family run around the volitile moods of the narcissistic “leader”. They are egocentric and extremely reactive . They know EVERYTHING and see things in black and white . Just like a cult you must worship this person and agree with everything they say or so or risk abandonment, being excluded , emotionally abused or punished .
Like a cult , a narcissistic parent WILL NOT ALLOW your individual opinion. They will not tolerate any sign you don’t adore them . Gaslighting , gossiping , triangulation, favouritism will follow of your decide to have your own sense of self . Instead they want you to internalise THEIR beliefs , their hobbies , their interests , their opinions. They fear loosing control over you so just like a cult they will make you question you’re own logic and reason.
If you become “woke” and call them out on their abusive behaviour get ready to be OBLITERATED by smear campaigns to taint your reputation and destroy your relationships. YES a narcissistic parent will turn siblings against one another and be happy about the chaos they’ve caused. They enjoy watching the chaos they’ve caused due to their sadistic nature . They will discard you after like you’re nothing because you have no use to them and you did not comply .
If you grew up with a narcissistic parent uou may struggle with your stable sense of self due to having your voice smothered in fear . You may search out codependency in a controlling partner because you’re used to being controlled . You might feel very unstable without a chaotic relationship as your nervous system and brain has been wired to connect chaos with love . You were brainwashed and your personality was formed around the abuse - you may find a lot of the abusers core beliefs to be introjected as your own. It’s never too late to un-program yourself from this brainwashing .