
18/06/2024
When the parent or caregiver is both the source of safety and also the source of threat , a child’s inner world becomes torn - it is no longer safe to be close yet the longing for attachment and closeness abounds .
In adult relationships, the person with disorganised attachment may alternate from being very clingy and close to suddenly becoming cold and distant in relationships.
This mix of both avoidant and anxious attachment is a response to early trauma that is trying to protect the person from echoes of the past where attachment and relationships were unstable , unpredictable and often dangerous .