Nenad Bakaj Counselling & Wellness Solutions

24/03/2026

ADHD

11/03/2026

If you do not make at least some progress every day, you stagnate.

If you do not make at least a little progress every day, you stagnate… and if you stagnate, you quietly begin to move backwards.

That is why it is important to understand one simple truth: progress does not have to be huge to be real. It only needs to be sincere and repeated every day.

One or two extra minutes.
One extra kilometre.
A few hundred more steps.
A little more discipline than yesterday.

Great changes in life rarely come suddenly. They are built quietly, almost unnoticed, day by day. Like a drop of water that slowly carves into stone, small daily improvements eventually create an enormous difference.

People often wait for “big motivation,” the perfect moment, or a grand plan. But the truth is different. The greatest results are achieved by those who simply show up every day and do a little more than they did yesterday.

Sometimes it is an extra kilometre of walking.
Sometimes it is one more page of a book.
Sometimes it is simply the decision not to give up.

When you look back after seven days, you see a small shift.
After a month, you see progress.
After a year, you see a completely different person.

The problem with stagnation is that it is quiet. A person often thinks they are “standing still,” but in reality life does not stand still. Time passes, the body weakens if we do not use it, the mind falls asleep if we do not challenge it, and habits slowly deteriorate if we do not maintain them.

That is why it is important to keep moving forward, even if it is only with a small step.

You do not have to move mountains every day.
It is enough to move yourself every day.

If today you do 1% more than yesterday, tomorrow you will be able to do a little more again. And when those small improvements add up, they become strength, fitness, knowledge, and character.

Discipline is not always spectacular. More often it is quiet and boring. But it is precisely this discipline that builds the life we want.

So continue in this direction.

Not because of the numbers on the screen.
Not because of the goals you have set.

But because of the person you are becoming while you improve every day.

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11/02/2026

Happy 37th Birthday!

PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILE OF A 37-YEAR-OLD MAN

(without a wife, without children, without a university degree, without a stable career)

This is not a diagnosis—rather, it is a typical inner landscape that I often see in clinical practice.

🧩 1. WHAT SUCH A MAN REALLY THINKS
🧠 a) “Something is wrong with me”

This is the most common thought.

“Everyone has moved forward, and I’m the only one stuck.”
“If I were smarter, braver, more disciplined… I’d be different.”
“My life turned out weak.”

👉 This is a toxic internalization of social expectations.

⏳ b) Obsession with time

“The train has passed.”
“It’s too late for everything.”
“What if I die alone?”

Time becomes a psychological enemy.

🧩 c) Comparing himself with peers

On Facebook/Instagram he sees:

- children

- houses

- degrees

- careers

But he does not see:

- divorces

- depression and anxiety

- empty marriages

- debts

👉 The brain chooses the worst possible scenario for itself.

🤯 d) Existential questions

He begins to think:

“What is the point of everything?”
“Is this my entire life?”
“Why was I even born?”

This is an existential crisis but also a sign of deep awareness.

😨 2. WHAT HE FEARS THE MOST

☠️ a) Loneliness and meaninglessness

He is not only afraid of being alone.
He is afraid of living and dying without leaving any trace.

“Who will remember me?”
“Will anyone cry for me?”

This is a deep human fear of existential invisibility.

🧓 b) Becoming an “old failed man”

The stereotype:

- bald/grey

- overweight

- bitter

- living alone

- blaming women, politics, society

👉 This is the archetype he fears becoming.

💔 c) Never loving or being loved again

“Who will want me in my 40s?”
“Women want younger, successful, rich men.”

Here's the mix:

- biological fear

- social myths

- male insecurity

🧨 d) Having wasted his life

This is the hardest fear. The feeling of regret is psychologically heavier than pain.

🌌 3. WHAT HE SECRETLY WANTS (BUT RARELY ADMITS)
❤️ a) One person who truly sees him

Not necessarily a perfect woman.
But someone who says: “I love you. You are not lost.”

This is a childlike need for secure attachment.

🏡 b) A normal, peaceful life

Most men do not want luxury.

They want:

- a partner/wife

- a small house

- routine

- a sense of belonging

👉 An “ordinary life” becomes a luxury.

🧠 c) To be respected

Respect is the male equivalent of love.

- someone listens to him

- his words matter

- he is not “the failed son,” “the loser,” “the odd one”

🌄 d) A second chance

In fantasies, he:

- finishes his studies

- changes careers

- finds love

- becomes a mentor, writer, coach, therapist

- lives authentically

👉 This is the latent potential of the self.

🧩 4. EMOTIONAL INNER CONFLICTS

⚔️ a) Pride vs. shame

- proud that he survived

- ashamed that he did not become “successful”

This conflict drains energy.

🧊 b) Desire for closeness vs. fear of rejection

- he wants a woman

- he is afraid to try

👉 Avoidance protects from pain but creates loneliness.

🧠 c) Fatalism vs. hope

One part says: “It’s over.”
Another whispers: “You still can.”

This is the psychological crossroads of midlife.

🧬 5. DEEP PSYCHOLOGICAL DYNAMICS

🧒 The inner child

Often there is:

- a feeling of not being good enough for parents

- an internalized critical voice

- trauma or neglect

Age 37 is often when the inner child starts to scream.

🧠 Male identity in crisis

Traditionally, male identity =
👉 job + wife + children + status

When these are missing:
- identity collapses
- existential panic emerges

🌑 6. THE DARK SIDE (rarely discussed)

Some men develop:

- cynicism toward women

- envy of successful peers

- nihilism

- depression

- fantasies of escape or death

👉 This is a normal risk, but it is not destiny.

🌱 7. THE POSITIVE POTENTIAL OF THIS PROFILE

Such a man often has:

- deep introspection

- empathy

- a philosophical mind

- potential for late but authentic development

- wisdom that the “successful” often never develop

🧩 IN THE END, A VERY IMPORTANT TRUTH

👉 Men who “succeed” early often never get to know themselves.
👉 Men who get lost often find themselves deeply.

06/02/2026

Anxiety keeps you alive.

04/02/2026

Healing is not about fixing yourself so someone stays. It’s about becoming safe enough within yourself that love no longer feels like a threat.

03/02/2026

The people who matter
don't mind. And the people
who mind don't matter.

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13/01/2026

Alcohol enters the bloodstream and is carried to every part of the body. It interferes with cell membranes, increases inflammation, disrupts hormones and neurotransmitters, and produces toxic by-products (like acetaldehyde). Because all organs and tissues depend on healthy cells and blood supply, alcohol has a negative effect, directly or indirectly, on all of them, even if some are affected more than others (like the brain, liver, heart, nerves, and gut).