26/07/2025
Hello all,
This post is a little longer than most, but please stay with me—it matters.
Today, I want to talk about something that may feel uncomfortable for some. For others, it might stir a deep ache in your heart. And some of you may choose to scroll past—and that’s completely okay.
This is a subject I’m deeply passionate about: supporting families through the heartbreaking grief of pregnancy and infant loss. My hope is to help shift the conversation, break the silence, and provide understanding and compassion for those walking this incredibly painful path.
Tragically, there are times when much-anticipated little ones don’t make it—leaving families shattered. Whether it’s a miscarriage at 12 weeks or a full-term stillbirth, the emptiness left behind is indescribable. These babies are carried with love and expectation, their arrival eagerly awaited. When that dream is lost, the grief is profound—and often, unimaginable.
As a former funeral director, I’ve witnessed the devastation this kind of loss brings. Too often, people distance themselves from grieving families—not because they don’t care, but because they simply don’t know what to say. In that silence, parents can feel as though their baby didn’t matter, as if their little one never existed.
But they did exist. They were deeply loved. They were very, very real.
This kind of loss can be incredibly isolating. The lack of acknowledgment or support can leave lasting emotional wounds—not just for parents, but for siblings, extended family, and friendships.
If I could offer just one piece of advice, it would be this: please, acknowledge the loss. Even the simplest words—“I’m so sorry for your loss”—can bring immense comfort. If you know the baby’s name, say it. Most parents long to hear it. You might be surprised just how much it means to know their child is remembered.
Now, as a pregnancy and infant loss doula, I have the privilege of walking alongside families during this sacred time. I support them in taking their baby home—if they choose—so they can create lasting memories, no matter how brief their time together may be. There are so many beautiful, meaningful ways to honor and commemorate these precious lives.
I believe deeply in the power of ritual and acknowledgment. Every baby leaves a mark on the world. They deserve to be honored, remembered, and loved—for who they were and the impact they’ve had.
Please reach out if you or someone you know needs support - even if you need guidance as to how you can support a friend or loved one through this journey.
