
29/08/2025
Thanks for sharing this great Wellness Leadership read Angela Derks š
š Wellbeing + Leadership Book Reflections #1
I once watched my friend, a senior operations director, step off an early evening flight and rush straight to the supermarket because her kids needed lunches by morningāwhile her male colleague on the same flight simply texted his āwifeā to say heād be home soon to a warm dinner.
That invisible split is at the heart of Annabel Crabbās The Wife Drought. This book peels back the polite silence around who really keeps familiesāand careersāafloat.
Crabbās first lesson is piercing: having a āwifeāāsomeone who shoulders the domestic loadāis often the hidden advantage behind uninterrupted careers. For generations, many men have quietly depended on unpaid, unacknowledged labour at home: someone to remember birthdays, manage sick days, organise holidays, and carry the daily mental load. When women step into high-powered jobs, they rarely inherit this same support structure.
This isnāt about blaming men or fuelling a gender war. Itās about understanding history, so we can do betterāat home, in our communities, and in our workplaces.
As leaders, we need to ask:
⨠How can we better support capacity and capabilities in our teams?
⨠How can we create workplaces where invisible labour is acknowledged, balanced, and not a barrier to wellbeing or leadership opportunities?
I recommend this book to all team leadersāitās a powerful lens on equity, wellbeing, and the structures that shape how we work and live.
š Have you read this one? Whatās your biggest takeaway?