25/08/2025
Carl Jung didn’t write directly about “how to get over a breakup” in the modern sense, but his depth psychology offers tools to process the loss and transform it into personal growth.
Here’s a Jungian-based approach:
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1. Accept the Loss as a Psychological Death
Jung saw endings as a form of death in the psyche, which is necessary for rebirth.
Instead of resisting the pain, allow yourself to grieve fully — sadness, anger, confusion are all part of the process.
Suppressing emotions only pushes them into the unconscious, where they may later emerge as depression or resentment.
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2. Face Your Shadow
A breakup often brings up the Shadow — the parts of yourself you usually hide or deny (neediness, jealousy, fear of being alone).
Jung believed confronting the Shadow can make you more whole.
Ask: What in me was triggered in this relationship? What can I learn about my own patterns?
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3. Withdraw the Projection
In love, we often project our anima (inner feminine) or animus (inner masculine) onto the other person, seeing them as the “perfect one.”
After a breakup, reclaim those projected qualities:
If you loved their creativity — nurture your own.
If you admired their confidence — build yours.
This transforms longing for “them” into self-development.
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4. Dialogue with the Unconscious
Jung recommended active imagination: sit quietly, picture your feelings or inner figures, and ask them what they want to tell you.
Write down dreams — they often contain symbols guiding you toward healing and a new direction.
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5. Seek Meaning, Not Just Relief
Jung believed suffering without meaning is unbearable, but suffering with meaning transforms you.
Ask: What is life asking me to become now? What part of me is being born through this loss?
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6. Reconnect with the Self
The goal of individuation — Jung’s term for becoming your truest self — means learning to stand whole without another person completing you.
Invest in creative work, nature, spiritual practice, or anything that connects you to something larger than the pain.
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