20/05/2025
IT’S NOT YOUR MARRIAGE—IT’S YOUR INNER CHILD BEGGING TO BE HELD.
People think they have relationship problems…
But what they really have are unmet childhood needs.
Abandonment wounds.
Unspoken shame.
Attachment trauma.
All silently running the show—
trying to find resolution through their partner.
Most couples aren’t fighting about dishes or dinner plans.
They’re fighting about feeling unseen.
Unloved.
Unsafe.
Unworthy unless they’re pleasing, performing, or protecting.
Your nervous system doesn’t know the difference between your partner walking away in frustration
and your parent walking away in childhood.
That’s why arguments escalate.
That’s why affection fades.
That’s why s*x stops being a bridge and starts becoming a battleground.
Because the scared, unhealed child is still driving the relationship.
And they’re terrified—of abandonment, rejection, or being controlled all over again.
But healing?
It doesn’t begin with your partner.
It begins with you.
With the little boy who was told emotions are weakness.
With the little girl who had to be perfect to be loved.
With the child who never learned what safe love even felt like.
Marriage isn’t the problem.
It’s the mirror.
And when you have the courage to stop blaming,
to meet yourself with compassion,
to break the patterns that were passed down to you like heirlooms—
you won’t just change your relationship.
You’ll liberate your soul.
Because healing doesn’t save the marriage.
It frees the human inside it.
