22/11/2025
Rakend juist:
Loneliness doesn’t wreck you when you’re alone — it wrecks you when you’re surrounded by people who should make you feel connected, yet you feel completely unseen. That kind of emptiness hits different. You start asking yourself why you’re starving in a place that was supposed to feed you, and the truth is you’ve been chasing connection from people who were never capable of giving it.
You bend. You shrink. You over-explain. You try to be “easier” just to avoid feeling like too much. And the more you do that, the more disconnected you become — from them and from yourself. So you pull back to protect yourself, then get angry at the distance you needed to stay sane. That’s the cycle: wanting them to rise while your body already knows they won’t.
Loneliness isn’t because something is wrong with you. It’s because you’ve been settling for people who can’t meet you. When you finally stop doing that, the loneliness gets quieter. Softer. It shifts from feeling abandoned to actually being with yourself — and that’s where everything starts to change. 💙
