Psycholoog Katleen Eyckmans

01/01/2025

18/12/2024

De praktijk zal gesloten zijn van dinsdag 24 december t.e.m. woensdag 1 januari. In deze periode ben ik zowel telefonisch als via mail niet bereikbaar.

Ik wens jullie alvast warme en sfeervolle feestdagen toe en een frisse start in 2025.

11/12/2024

Omdat niemand het zo mooi kan verwoorden als Nick Cave...
Gevoelens zijn er om gevoeld te worden ❤️
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The Red Hand Files
ISSUE #306 / DECEMBER 2024

I used to play Into My Arms for my girlfriend. I came to your concert in Birmingham, but I had to leave early. It was far too emotional for me and reminded me of the amazing times I had with my girlfriend, which I know I will never get back.
STELLAN, NANTWICH, UK
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Dear Stellan,

Live music is a ritual that evokes a common emotional response to which we attach our singular experiences. When I perform on stage, I can see these unique and particular feelings play out on each face. This is one of the great privileges of being a frontman, and it is why I spend so much time close to the audience. I love to watch the emotions on people’s faces - joy, sorrow, yearning, laughter, fear, rage. The concert becomes powerfully and empathetically transactional as we experience together the therapeutic nature of the music. As the show evolves, a to-ing and fro-ing of kindness emerges, energised by our mutual regard, and the healing begins.

A live concert can feel overwhelming, even frightening, because its emotional power can suddenly bring our most buried experiences to the surface. But feelings are meant to be felt - that’s what they are for. We heal by acknowledging our emotions and test our heart’s resilience by lingering within the unbearable. It is something music can help us do. We find our hearts are much stronger than we presumed, and what we thought was unbearable was nothing of the sort. Music draws forth these subterranean feelings and simultaneously rescues us from them.

I’m happy you came to the concert in Birmingham, Stellan, but I think it was a lost opportunity to "leave early" from a feeling before it had run its course and done its reparative work. I understand it must be painful to feel those "amazing times" are behind you, but they are not, there are many more to come. There will be further heartbreaks too, but hearts break stronger. We must not retreat from our feelings. We must confront them. Rehearse them. Get better at them. To paraphrase Samuel Beckett - hurt, hurt again, hurt better. This is one of the things live music allows us to do - to hurt and heal concurrently.

My advice? Get back out there. Live life to the fullest - and stay for the whole damn show. It’s amazing.

Love, Nick

07/11/2024

❤️ Piglet

"Piglet?" said Pooh.
"Yes?" said Piglet.
"I'm scared," said Pooh.
For a moment, there was silence.
"Would you like to talk about it?" asked Piglet, when Pooh didn't appear to be saying anything further.
"I'm just so scared," blurted out Pooh.
"So anxious. Because I don't feel like things are getting any better. If anything, I feel like they might be getting worse. People are angry, because they're so scared, and they're turning on one another, and there seems to be no clear plan out of here, and I worry about my friends and the people I love, and I wish SO much that I could give them all a hug, and oh, Piglet! I am so scared, and I cannot tell you how much I wish it wasn't so."
Piglet was thoughtful, as he looked out at the blue of the skies, peeping between the branches of the trees in the Hundred Acre Wood, and listened to his friend.
"I'm here," he said, simply. "I hear you, Pooh. And I'm here."
For a moment, Pooh was perplexed.
"But... aren't you going to tell me not to be so silly? That I should stop getting myself into a state and pull myself together? That it's hard for everyone right now?"
"No," said Piglet, quite decisively. "No, I am very much not going to do any of those things."
“But - " said Pooh.
"I can't change the world right now," continued Piglet. "And I am not going to patronize you with platitudes about how everything will be okay because I don't know that.
"What I can do, though, Pooh, is that I can make sure that you know that I am here. And that I will always be here, to listen; and to support you; and for you to know that you are heard.
"I can't make those Anxious Feelings go away, not really.
"But I can promise you that, all the time I have breath left in my body...you won't ever need to feel those Anxious Feelings alone."
And it was a strange thing, because even as Piglet said that, Pooh could feel some of those Anxious Feelings start to loosen their grip on him and could feel one or two of them start to slither away into the forest, cowed by his friend, who sat there stolidly next to him.
Pooh thought he had never been more grateful to have Piglet in his life.

17/04/2024

"As you start to walk on the way, the way appears." - Rumi⁠
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"How do you know which path to take?" the rabbit asked. "Maybe there is no path," replied the boy. "Maybe the path is simply made by walking."

01/03/2024

14/02/2024

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