18/05/2026
“Everybody has the power to de-escalate a couple’s dynamic.” 🤍
One of the most powerful takeaways from Sessions Live.
You are responsible for your own escalation. If you don’t react to my reaction, I begin to de-regulate. The invitation: to recognize your own trauma response, instead of reacting to your partner’s.
Ruth Cohn, MFT shared the magical words from her own husband:
“Give me a minute to calm down. It isn’t about you.”
A sentence that holds everything. Ownership. Self-regulation. Love without fusion.
And then — the gift of receiving Ruth’s feedback on the couple’s case Nessie and I brought to the stage. A moment I will not forget.
This is why we travel across the ocean. To be sharpened. To be moved. To bring it home to our clients.
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