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11/02/2022

Let's talk about su***de!

A term that is mostly heard but least understood!

A term that comes with more judgment and lesser understanding!

A term that ends life and begins gossips!

A term that ignites anger instead of empathy!

"Let the ones who want to die , die! The ones who are living should live"

"There are people who fight to live one more day, and there are others who die despite the chance to live"

"Why do they not think about their family? "

"Do they think, they are the only ones with the story and difficulties?"

And so on goes the comments from people when they hear about su***de.

Let's pause a second and ask ourselves!
What gave us the right to judge their life and decision without even knowing a thing about them?

What gave us the right to comment on their way of ending life?

What gave us the right to act like we know what they felt when we are not THEM?

Why do we criticize rather than sympathizing with their pain?

Such is the nature of human and I can't blame it, since I did the same in the past!

A single completed su***de and a single individual, is what we see!
But, beneath that, remains shattered dreams, hopes turned to despair, no sight of end to the pain that's constant and never ending!
A life, many would never even dare to experience even as a nightmare, that is the life people who pass away with su***de must have lived!

We are helpless when we loose our kind to the difficult times!
But, we can be helpful by letting them go with kind words and wishes!
That's the least we , Human can do!

Although, the words I wrote is to help people understand a fraction of their life, I don't support SU***DE as an answer.

Su***de is never an answer.

Rather, it will generate lot many questions and inflict pain to the loved ones, Ultimately leading them to the same despair.

So, if not for your sake, at least for your loved ones, don't attempt su***de!
You don't know it! But there are souls that look upto you, and have dreams with you!
You just got to see it clearly!

***deIsNotAnAnswer
Seek help! Please!

Call your beloved ones!
Call health emergency line! 112

29/02/2020

Come and talk about your issues. Sharing about your problems will cost you nothing!
Rather it LL cost you your burden!
You will get relieved of that baggage of stress.
It LL cost you your stress!
It LL cost you your emotional turmoils!
It LL cost you your frustrations!
It LL cost you your heavy heartedness!
It LL cost you all those things that are stranding you back and not allowing you to move on!

But know this much!
If you pay , you get something in return!
That's the law of nature!

Since it cost you something,
You LL get back relief from stress!
You LL get back sound emotions!
You LL get back light heartedness!
You LL get back the positive view about life!
You LL get back your smile!
You LL get back your happy old self!
You LL get back yourself!
You LL get back the one you are seeking for......
"Happiness"

So share all you can with those who care about you!
You are not alone!
There is always someone who cares genuinely about you, although you might not have noticed one.

is always here for you in your darkest time!

09/02/2020

Life begins with a breath!
And it ends with a breath!
Meeting and departing is part of life.
Know when to grab and when to let go!
Past are to be let gone!
Present is to be grabbed!
And future is to be shaped!

Many LL enter your life, while many at the same time LL exit!
Nothing is permanent, this is called "Life"
No time is forever, this is called "Life"
No body is permanent, this is called "Life"

Only memories remain behind!
Only experiences remain behind!
Only feelings remain behind!

So learn to cherish the present!
People at present!
Happy times at present!
Good things at present!
And yourself at present!

Even if someone goes, their memories remains!
Which makes them still present with us!

Live in present and make the most out of it.

08/12/2019

What was the most difficult time of your life?

What made you hit rock bottom?

Were you able to move up?

Who supported you at your worst times?

Did you cry over a night?

What was it that you cried over for?

Ask yourself these questions! Answer them!

And you will see!

That you are one hell of a strong person who made it out alive!

The scars of these tragic incidents remain, but it's a scar that beautiful!
A scar that reminds you made it through your worst!
A scar that LL remind you that you can over come anything coming up!

Be proud! Be grateful! Be loving! And be satisfied!

After all, your end hasn't come yet and nor LL it be a sad one.
You are going to have a happy end. Trust me!
Because you are one hell of a strong person!

Let's talk online counseling here for you always!

04/12/2019

Let it go!

The things which happened in the past!
The things which aren't happening right now!
Let it go!

Life is an endless movie which consists of endless conflicts, climax and resolutions.
All the hard times, anger, resentments and other negative emotions you feel because of your past, they weigh you down.

Let go of the baggage which drags you down.
Past cannot be changed and future can't be predicted.
But the present can be lived.
The present can be a happier one.
That way tomorrow, your yesterday LL be a happier one and your future LL be a hopeful one.

Many of us are prisoners of past!
We let the past memories and experience control us.
We may be living at the present but our mind still can't let go of past. That's why, we suffer.
We carry the resentments,angers, disappointment, betrayal and so on in our present moment. These past emotions are felt at the present and it makes us sad despite our present being peaceful.

Human nature has it that, it's easier to blame then to take responsibility for what happened.
We blame others and feel resentments even after the ones who left our life is no more present.
We sabotage our lives blaming others for why our life didn't go as we had expected.
Despite all the blame, resentments, anger and disappointment, who do you think lost?
Who do you think is suffering?
Who do you think is in pain?
Who do you think wants to feel happiness?

It's you! You lost to the past!
You are the one suffering!
You are the one in pain!
And you are the one who wants to know what happiness feel like.

If you are tired of the pain inflicted by your past, learn to let go!
It is only when you let go of what happened, that is the time when you will experience the true peace.

Your mind LL no longer be the prisoner of your past!
You let go. And you move on. When you move on, you are stagnant at a place no more.
You move on and you experience new things.
A better experience as you move on.

Learn to let go of things that didn't work out.
Learn to let go of relationships that broke down. Learn to let go of disappointments.
And learn to accept your past and acknowledge what happened to you.
Life is short, but it ain't too short to pick up your broken pieces and fix them together to move on.
People made it to the other side of the river on the broken pieces of the boat.
What matters is you make it to the end!

Let's talk- Online counseling always here for you all.

01/12/2019

Relationship can come in all forms, but here at this moment I am focusing upon the romantic relationship.

All romantic relationships consists of love, romance, arguments and reconciliation.
They love, care, touch, argue and make up for their mistakes as they discover more about each other.

No relationship breaks because of fights and arguments. Rather this arguments and fights strengthen the relationship if people know how to use them to learn about how they can do better and be better next time.

Relationship can never be ideal and so won't be the situation, at least not in most of the cases.
Great relationship are those where both the couple care enough about each other and hold onto eachother despite the fights and hardships.
It's about trying not to loose each other no matter how grave the pain they feel. It's about finding a way to make up.

But if you ever end up giving up on a relationship. Then know that it was never meant to be and be at peace with that.
Never feel disheartened after a break up since it paves a new road for you. This time a better road since you have a good experience regarding how relationship works and what you want in the man or woman you are searching for.

Know this much, "Your destiny is never tied to those who left". So if you are experiencing a heartbreak at the moment, smile and look forward to a new start.
A new start to the journey of searching the one meant for you!

Let's talk - online counseling is always here for you.

27/11/2019

"Pain", It's what makes people suffer.
Everyone feels pain and those pain are real and excruciating.

But we have a tendency to weigh people's pain and compare them.
We believe that the misery of a person who lost her husband is more than a person who lost their pet.
A person who had a deep cut in his hand has lesser pain than the one who lost his arms in a war.
A villager suffers more physical pain then a person living in town.
A person who just broke up with his love has lesser pain than a person who got divorced!

We make all kinds of comparison based on pain.

What I believe on the other hand is that, everyone's pain is equal and none should be weighed.

Example, a person who got his first break up experiences excruciating pain just like a person divorcing his marriage.
A villager may experience physical exhaustion in daily life but at the same time, people in town get exhausted mentally too.
If we get a small cut in our hand, it's painful. If we get a bigger cut, then the smaller cut no longer is painful because u have another bigger cut.

No matter what kind of pain one experience, it's all real and it's all big for them. Since they haven't experienced a pain greater than that, that pain becomes the most painful for them.

Everyone's pain should be acknowledged because they feel utterly miserable despite the degree of loss they face.

So please do not weigh and compare people's pain.
Each of them are suffering..... Because the pain they feel are real for them.

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25/11/2019

According to my beliefs, "Life is just a stage filled with trial and errors".
We try new things and experience them. And we face errors and mistakes while trying!

In this stage of trial and error, many break down because they face errors. While some face errors and still keep moving and learn from it.

"The boat was designed to reach the people across the river. It doesn't matter if the full boat or a broken piece of it reaches the people to their destination. All it matters is people made it to the other side."

Just because the boat broke down, doesn't mean its over. We can always use the broken pieces of boat to float and reach the other side.
It's all a matter of choice whether to give up or start over.

Life is same. No matter how much it breaks us down, people who face it, they manage to move on.
While those who loose their spirit, they remain stagnant.

"Don't be afraid to start over! It's a chance to build something better this time! "

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18/11/2019

Buddha said, " The trouble is, you think you have time".
Rightly said by the enlightened one, we humans tend to take everything for granted and are deluded to think there is no end.

That is why, we desire more despite having enough. "Desire is the cause of suffering", we know it , yet we tend to want it so badly.

The desire to get more love, to get more wealth, to get more fame and to get more of everything which we have.

We strive more for those desires and get burnt out in the process of achieving these desires. And???? We are unhappy most of the time, except for the time when we achieve our goal. Just for a short term happiness( when we achieve goal), we suffer too much (when striving for the goal). It's not worth what we lost.

But what if we lived each day as if it was the last???
What if we were diagnosed with an illness that provided us with only few limited days for us to live?
What if we knew we are about to meet our end soon?

Would we still ask and strive for more?
Would we still suffer now to enjoy later?

Ask a cancer patient who has been told that he has only few months remaining. Ask him, what changed in him after hearing that! And I m sure, he will answer that,
"He is just trying to live few remaining days, but he is living them to the fullest. Each day, hour and minute he lives, he will try to live its worth.
You may ask him, if he has any resentments towards his life. He would probably tell you that he is at peace with it. Although he is sad, yet he will accept that with a start there comes an end. No ego, no hatred, no anger and no lingering desires are found in them. Because they have accepted that end is inevitable.

What if we lived today as if it's our last day?
What if we lived with no hatred, regrets, blames, anger, disappointment and no desires???
Wouldn't life look beautiful in a way? A peaceful life with no wants but still the joy you get from living each moment rewards you immensely with happiness and satisfaction of being alive.

Be grateful since it's not your last! Be glad, you can still see the beauty of this world. And be mindful, that how you live your life can make you either smile or weep during your last breath.

Let's be grateful and live each day as if it's the last.
You never know, the breaths we are taking right now, may be someone somewhere is wishing for some more few breaths and would do anything for it.

Live your day as if it's your last!

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14/11/2019

The end of 2019 is nearing and the beginning of a new year is closing in.
"What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more?"

If you closely analyze people around you and yourself too, you LL realize that not many can be found loving themselves as much as they love someone else special.

An instance like;
You love him more than you do to yourself. When there is love , there are sacrifices. And this sacrifices are made from your side for somebody else.
Typically , you sacrificed your happiness for somebody. In return, you might get the love back or won't. If you do get, well and good. If you don't??? Then it breaks your heart and makes you bitter.

Now ask yourself why do you feel that way??? Why do you feel hurt? Why do you feel like it's unfair to you? Why do you regret on your choices?
Isn't it all because you loved someone more than you did to yourself???
Isn't it because you wanted him to return the same love back to you like you did for him??

To begin with, did he ever ask you to love him more than yourself??? Were there any solid statement that he made, which made you love him more than loving yourself???
You started giving the love you had for yourself to somebody else , as per your own will.
You started sacrificing your happiness for somebody else, as per your own will.
And now you got hurt because you can't receive the love you gave away from him, is that really his fault ??? Or was it yours?

Now ask yourself, what could have been different here:
If you had loved yourself more.
If you had lived happier moments without sacrificing them for someone else.
If you had been merciful to yourself.
If you had only prioritized yourself before any one else.

Things would have been different right? The regrets, the miseries, the guilts and the sorrows of not living a happier life you could have actually lived. All these negative feelings wouldn't have overwhelmed you, if only you had ushered some love on yourself before you ushered it upon others.

Be selfish and love yourself. By loving yourself, I don't mean loving yourself with materialistic things.

Be good to yourself, be kind, don't be harsh and don't blame yourself.

It's okay to be selfish, because at the end of the day, you and your feelings matter. Nothing else does.

Love yourself more. After that, if you have some love left, usher it upon others who lacks it.

Wishing you a healthy self love ahead.

-Let's Talk- online counseling

11/11/2019

"You" as an individual are unique and special.
No one can fill in or replace "you"
You matter and your story matters to those who care for you.
So, speak up, share or talk.

-Don't suffocate yourself with the feelings that only you understand and no one understands because you don't share it.
-Don't confuse yourself with questions for which you have no answers and someone else might have.
-Don't struggle with thoughts that are negative and miserable, when you can easily uplift them with a talk!

Enough for your suffering. Enough for your confusion and enough for your secrecy.
It's time for you to shine, since you have tasted the depths of misery, it's time for you to taste the heights of happiness.

Do talk with those who care. It helps. I assure you.

Better Mental Health~Better Well-being

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