Batsholetsi Trust

Batsholetsi Trust General Counseling
Post/Pre Marital,Relationships, Corporate.General Mental, Psychological challenges. Loss/Bereavement,Depression
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01/03/2026

'I will always tell people if you want to make more money, you have to learn to be comfortable around people who make more than you no matter how much you make. I’ve spent the last few months following, subscribing to, and meeting people who’ve made more than me or who’ve been doing it longer than me. Dont be scared to not know everything in every room you go into. Even if we aren’t in the same field, longevity in any field is enough for me to want to know the blueprints. Never be afraid to ask questions or even be afraid to ask about asking questions.'

01/03/2026

"It is better to be respected in silence than used with a smile.

Not everyone will like you when you stand your ground. When you say no. When you refuse to let people walk over you. Some will call you rude. Some will say you changed. Some will whisper that you are difficult. But what they really mean is you stopped being easy to use.

Being the nice one who says yes to everything feels safe at first. People praise you. They keep you around. They call you sweet. But slowly you start to feel drained. You realize you are giving more than you receive. You are sacrificing your peace just to keep others comfortable. And one day it hits you. Being liked by everyone often means you are not being real with yourself.

Choosing integrity means choosing yourself even when it costs you approval. It means saying what you believe even if it makes the room uncomfortable. It means walking alone sometimes instead of bending just to fit in. Not everyone will clap for you. But you will sleep at night knowing you did not betray your own values.

At the end of the day, being feared for your boundaries is better than being loved for your weakness. Respect lasts longer than popularity. And when you protect your standards, you protect your peace. Integrity above everything, because once you lose that, you lose yourself"

01/03/2026

"Chosen ones learn early that they cant JUST watch our enemies, we have to also watch people we can trust because our friends have other friends that dont even like us. Opposition don’t always wear enemy colors. Sometimes they shake your hand through somebody you call “friend.” That’s why the wise move different, not paranoid, just precise. Because loyalty ain’t transferable… your friend can be solid with you and still sit at tables where your name get dissected. So the Chosen must protect their energy, speak less, observe more, move private in a world addicted to access. Not everybody around you is against you… but everybody around them might be. And elevation requires insulation. Tighten up"

27/02/2026

Men are not natural providers. Know this and know peace. Men are investors. Men are traders. Men are hunters who know how to bait their game with chunks of chips kuku, paying rent here, paying school fees hapa na pale... anything you need to get in his trap. But natural providers? Ha!

Ask your mother.

Men give where there is a return on investment. They will provide for as long as you give up that coochie (and make sure it's tight and smells like a tropical island). Some may even marry you for the exclusive benefits. They will meet the needs of the children because he wants to save his own consciousness and/or is legally mandated.

There's nothing natural about men and provision otherwise, they wouldn't flip so hard after realizing the kids he was "providing" for are actually not spawns of his loins. Or he won't be so eager to provide if you decided you are not giving up that coochie.

Single divorced women, the highest percentage are the ones who have to sue the legal biological fathers of their children to continue taking responsibility of the children after she closes the gates to her body. Because they were only giving in order to access the mother's coochie! Return on investment.

You see, women have been fed this ideology that men are natural providers and often get in relationships with them with the same expectation only for them to get disappointed.
"How can he be so comfortable knowing we don't even have food in the house?" Well, Monica, you are no longer worth his investment!

He invested when you were hot and sexy. When you used to do bad manners with holy zealousness. Back when your coochie was the size of a twelve year old and had the waist of a teenager. Now you are all grown up, Agnes. You gave birth to three children, your womb expanded and your waist is like that of a real grown woman. You stopped performing for him, because you felt safe! He is your husband after all. Why do you need to do acrobats in your own home?

Well, because those acrobats and the calling him daddy and stroking is ego were what he was paying for. Now you settled down, let yourself get domesticated. He thinks you're no longer worth hunting and p**f goes the investment.

Look at how mad men get when after months of courting you (and by courting, I mean them buying you food at random places) you tell them you are not giving it up. They call you a gold digger. A thief. A greedy person! They are mad because they invested for nothing.

Men will not give anything for nothing!!!
Anything a man gives you is to buy something bigger from you. Hear me ladies.

Whatever a man gives you, you are worth that and ten times more... they know it! Your man knows it! They all know it.

Know this and know peace.

26/02/2026

Standing out isn’t about competing.
It’s about becoming.
Become so focused so they can’t distract you.
So disciplined so they can’t ignore you.
So different so they can’t replace you.

You don’t fall for emotionally unavailable people by accident.Your wounds attract each other.There is usually a pattern....
26/02/2026

You don’t fall for emotionally unavailable people by accident.Your wounds attract each other.

There is usually a pattern.

Not a coincidence.Not “bad luck.”
Not because you’re naive.,or cursed.

But because something in your nervous system learned early that:

Love feels uncertain,attention must be earned,Inconsistency feels familiar,longing feels like attachment
anxiety feels like chemistry

So when someone pulls away…

You don’t just feel disappointed.

You feel activated.
Obsessed.
Anxious.
Determined to “fix it.”
Afraid to lose them.

Even when it’s hurting you.

Because your body isn’t reacting to this person alone.It’s reacting to an old blueprint.

One that may have formed in childhood when love was: inconsistent,conditional,unpredictable,emotionally distant

And here’s the trap:
You think you’re chasing a person.

But often…
You’re chasing a feeling your nervous system associates with “home.”

If you’re tired of repeating painful attachment cycles:
It is in professional expert's guidance,we get to explore the limerence,emotional fixation,and why inconsistent love feels addictive.
We at Batsholetsi are determined to awaken our clients to the roots behind how they are without meaning to.You understand the childhood roots behind those patterns,in a safe, professional space.
We are interested in walking this challenging journey of walking back with you, to the 5 year old,10/13 year old with you,..
Counseling Services Bookings 74 451 782
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Why do some men not understand that home-cooked meals and indoor dates happen AFTER a relationship has been established...
25/02/2026

Why do some men not understand that home-cooked meals and indoor dates happen AFTER a relationship has been established?
NOT A FIRST COUPLE OF DATE W&F?
I need to explain this because apparently it's not obvious.
Slamm those breaks haarrrd!!!!! Stop right there!!!

As a woman,one of the worst things you can do is sit there and tell a man all your past hurts,all your trauma,and everyt...
25/02/2026

As a woman,one of the worst things you can do is sit there and tell a man all your past hurts,all your trauma,and everything other men did to you thinking he’s different and safe.Because let’s be real… the wrong man is not listening to heal you,he’s listening to study you.He taking mental notes like he in a training course.And the same stuff you told him broke you before? That’s exactly what he gone do later once he get comfortable.

At first he gone act understanding.He gone say all the right things."I would never do you like that.” “You didn’t deserve that.” Whole time he just gathering information. Then once he feel like he got you attached, here come the same behavior you cried to him about.Now you sitting there confused like how you become a victim in your own testimony.Cardi even said her new baby dad said," Let me heal you"😏🥱B$!!!

Some of these men don’t want to protect your heart, they want access to it.They don’t care about your healing,they care about your availability.And once they see you forgiving,loving,and understanding, they start testing how much disrespect you willing to tolerate.They going to push boundaries little by little just to see if you going to stay.
Most ladies only learn this the hard way and we emphasize this in relationships therapy,coaching sessions.Youre so used to thinking being open and vulnerable makes the relationship stronger.No ma’am.Being open with the wrong man just gave him the cheat code.Now he knows exactly what triggers you,what hurts you,and what you scared of losing.When a man ain’t right,hes going to use all of that against you like.
You gotta learn to move different.Not everybody deserves access to your story.Everybody don’t deserve to know your pain.You earn access to me over time through consistency, respect, and actions—not just words and fake concern.

Ladies,protect your heart and protect your story.Heal,but heal privately.Not everybody clapping for your healing,some people waiting on your weak spots.Professionals trained to help you heal,recover,move are all over your socials these days,find the one suitable for you and connect.

Stop telling your life story to men who still gotta prove they even deserve to be in your life. Some men don’t need your love, they need distance and a blocked number. 💅
batsholetsit@ticktock.Follow us.Bookings 74 451 782 🎥📍

24/02/2026

'My grandmother once told me something that has never left me.

She said, “When you’re a housewife with no income of your own, there are no fights in your marriage. Infact, you fight alone.”

She explained that when she was angry with my grandfather, she’d decide not to speak to him. Silent treatment, protest, all of it.
He? He carried on with his life like nothing was happening.

He knew that sooner or later, something would be needed in the house, like milk, sugar, salt, school shoes, bus money. And when that moment came, she would have to humble herself and ask him.

No apology. No accountability. No fixing things.

She even said when he was caught cheating, he’d just continue living normally with his side chick. She would eventually come back, because life needed money, and money was controlled by him.

Power is very quiet like that.
It doesn’t shout. It just waits.

So ladies, make your own money, bethuna.

Not because you don’t want love.
Not because you don’t want partnership.

But because you deserve the freedom to be angry, to leave, to stay, to negotiate, to love, without hunger or dependence making the decisions for you.

Financial independence is not anti-love.
It is anti-powerlessness.
Don’t be powerless please. 🙏🏾

And yes, I have spoken about this a million times before and will continue to do so'

Thobile and Musa Mseleku would have solved their problems a long time ago if they were both honest about their feelings....
23/02/2026

Thobile and Musa Mseleku would have solved their problems a long time ago if they were both honest about their feelings. We see this a lot in marriage, people fight about everything except the actual problem.

I knew even before Makhwela arrived that the moment she comes, Thobile’s biggest nightmare would be wife number 5 giving Musa kids. This is why I laugh when people say this is acting, because real people are being born from this “acting.”

In Thobile’s case, her biggest nightmare is another woman coming to give Musa in a few months what she hasn’t been able to give him for years. Psychologically, I knew it would affect her because in her reality it exposes how she thinks she’s failing to deliver. The anger has everything to do with her wanting Musa to reassure her that no one will take her position, but instead he feeds into the fight by entertaining it.

This behaviour from Thobile is her crying for help. She’s trying to reject herself before she’s rejected, because she already doesn’t feel useful. Instead of Musa treating it as that, he entertains the fight, which could also mean that deep down there’s some resentment about her not being able to give him kids.

There’s also that unspoken thing of “out of all the wives, you should be the last one complaining,” because this new wife is coming to do what you failed to do. If that wasn’t the case, he would have reacted differently while nursing her pain.

Yes, in reality there’s nothing Thobile should be fighting for because Musa does everything for them. But psychologically, she is going to fight.

Musa’s biggest problem is not listening to what the real issue is. Instead, he goes all over the place trying to figure out what Thobile is fighting for. In some instances he even accused her of wanting to be the matriarch. When you accuse someone of things they’ve never even thought of, that’s how you end up being called a narcissist, like she has called Musa. Narcissists dont take accountability, they create stories just to be right

In marriage, you do yourself a disservice when you raise things that don’t exist just to win an argument. Even if you’re right, the other person won’t admit it because you are trying to expose the truth using lies.

Bottom line: Thobile is in pain and feels replaceable. Her attitude is her way of checking if Musa cares enough to fight for her. Musa needs to calm down and reassure Thobile’s position, thats if he still wants her around

22/02/2026

How About Some S*x Therapy This Sunday📌
"S*x is learned, not dropped from heaven. If he’s not hitting the right notes, show him. If you don’t like her kiss, train her. Marriage is raw passion with no shame in learning"

You dont replace or go cheat with one already knowing your language,yet they were also trained by someone else,not lazy to teach.Whatever your partner can't do, and you speak on it to third parties, it proves youre also unskilled by the way.What you know,you share,teach your babe until they master it.

ASE.

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